Kristie16 Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 I ALWAYS have a hard time with change. I usuaully do it, but right before, it's always very, very hard. I can't sleep. I start freaking out, etc. I'm doing that right now. I graduated from college a few years ago and lived abroad but moved back to my parents house to save money and find the next job in my chosen career (which is slowly dying). Well, I begin a new three-month assignment in my career on Monday in another city about two hours way. On top of that, I just broke up with my boyfriend, which you can read about some of those issues here. I thought it might be easier to deal with the break up in a new location, new exciting job, meeting new people, etc. But now I'm freaking out. Part of me just wants to remain in my hometown, freelancing and staying with my bf. It's become comfortable. No, I wasn't totally happy doing it. But at least I wasn't scared or freaking out like I am now. After this three-month job I am going to move away to another state. It's what I want to do, but super scary. As I've gotten older and done it more times, it becomes harder and harder every time. How do people deal with changes like new jobs, moving, starting over? How do I deal with the changes? Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 Kristie, I am like you, change rattles me, but I used to crave it. I have been through lots of big changes in my life, and I got through it by not thinking about things too much. If you worry about things that may not happen- its going to stress you out for nothing. Take each day one day at a time, and keep getting up in the morning. Think of the exciting things that could come with the changes. Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted February 24, 2011 Share Posted February 24, 2011 I see life changes and starting over as adventures. A chance to wipe the slate clean and be re-born. It doesn't matter about mistakes and bad experiences from the past. Your new life starts right now and you have a chance to mould it into a form that you want. For me, that's quite a freeing experience. If you see it as your not having a choice and that you've got to make the best of it rather than return to the comfort of what you know with your tail between your legs, you might be able to get yourself into a mindset that you have to succeed at this because there aren't any other options. It may get even more tough and your inner self will protest (a lot) but challenges like these are important because they give us opportunities to look back with pride and say, "I did that." Link to post Share on other sites
Meaplus3 Posted February 26, 2011 Share Posted February 26, 2011 Kristie.. To be able to handle change.. you need some coping skills. Coping skills are learned behavior. If you did not learn them early on in life.. it's more of a challenge and struggle when your're a little older. Have you thought about talking to a therapist? Therapy can be a great tool to learn coping skills. Mea:) Link to post Share on other sites
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