Sugarkane Posted February 25, 2011 Share Posted February 25, 2011 It makes me cynical about dating again. When complete assclowns do this to people. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted February 25, 2011 Share Posted February 25, 2011 Yes, I have been dumped in a cruel manner, and I internalized all the nasty things that person said to me and let it get in the way of feeling good about myself for a really long time. The person that dumped me used all of his knowledge of my fears, vulnerablities and insecurities to beat me down into an emotional mess. It took me a very long time to recover from the horrible things he said to me- but when I finally did work through it, I realized that HE was the one with the issues. The only regret I have now is that I internalized what he said to me and believed it, and I let those words rule me for far too long. What happened in your situation? Link to post Share on other sites
Richtea Posted February 25, 2011 Share Posted February 25, 2011 Long story short: I was dumped for catching my ex-girlfriend cheat on me. While watching a movie with her on the computer, a chat window popped up on the bottom right corner of the screen and it said, "Hey, babe... I miss you so much...(with rose emoticons)". She then closed the chat window and pretended nothing happened. I told her to pause the movie and then politely asked her what that was about and she said instantly denied. She said I was seeing things wrong and accused me of being paranoid. And then says that we aren't gonna work out. My heart froze into ice and then shattered into pieces. The next day, she officially dumped me. While doing so, she puts her cellphone beside her and texted with the 'other guy'. While I was sitting on the sofa devastated and tearing up, she texts on her phone and has no regret for cheating on me and dumping me... So yeah, it was pretty cruel what she did... I mean, people usually apologize or admit after cheating... but I guess I will never get closure from her. She's stubborn and will never admit what she did. But I don't care. She's my ex.. Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted February 25, 2011 Share Posted February 25, 2011 It makes me cynical about dating again. When complete assclowns do this to people. Me too................ Link to post Share on other sites
timchambo Posted February 25, 2011 Share Posted February 25, 2011 Yep. Was cheated on by my fiancee after over 7 years. Got myself established in my career about 4 years back. Worked full time and school full time. Used my income to help her chase her dream job. She landed it about 6 months back. She ended up cheating and leaving a couple days before Christmas. We were planning the wedding early December too. She still denies the cheating till this day. Blames the breakup on "issues nobody knew about". Meanwhile she's attempting to make it look like a slow transition from me to him. Ice cold Link to post Share on other sites
Bonie Posted February 25, 2011 Share Posted February 25, 2011 Haha **** ya. I was dumped in the cruelest way possible by my ex. The piece of **** dumped me through an email lol because his feelings changed all of a sudden when I started having health problems after 3 years together. Makes me pretty pessimistic about datng in general and relationships and to be honest I am really not excited in getting in a new relationship even though I have my opions because I am good looking. I 'd rather stay single and focus on my studies though . There will be ALWAYS men on this earth right . The ******* had a profile on some dating site, probably even before decided to break up with me...who knows...Most likely he cheated on me but I will never know since I cut all contact with that idiot and will never speak to him. Hell no, he does not deserve it. Keep trying to contact me LOSER!!!! You had something good going on and you lost it!!!!!!!!!!!!!Hope karma bites you in the ass. Btw he replaced me very easily with a girl who kinda looks like me. Link to post Share on other sites
MidnightinMadrid Posted February 25, 2011 Share Posted February 25, 2011 (edited) Long story short: I was dumped for catching my ex-girlfriend cheat on me. While watching a movie with her on the computer, a chat window popped up on the bottom right corner of the screen and it said, "Hey, babe... I miss you so much...(with rose emoticons)". She then closed the chat window and pretended nothing happened. I told her to pause the movie and then politely asked her what that was about and she said instantly denied. She said I was seeing things wrong and accused me of being paranoid. And then says that we aren't gonna work out. My heart froze into ice and then shattered into pieces. The next day, she officially dumped me. While doing so, she puts her cellphone beside her and texted with the 'other guy'. While I was sitting on the sofa devastated and tearing up, she texts on her phone and has no regret for cheating on me and dumping me... So yeah, it was pretty cruel what she did... I mean, people usually apologize or admit after cheating... but I guess I will never get closure from her. She's stubborn and will never admit what she did. But I don't care. She's my ex.. Take yourself and friends out and celebrate,good riddance to her! I know about callousness,I've gotten mine through e-mail,even though he played the rejecting game many times before. its really about Ego,most people,aKa A$$clowns,can't grow past being the schoolyard bully and take their controlling dysfunctional behaviour into adulthood. I agree with folks here who are hesitant of getting into new relationship,mine is fear of falling in love again,it seems the minute I give my heart to someone they see that as permission to trample on it and walkn away,no way jose! Edited February 25, 2011 by MidnightinMadrid Link to post Share on other sites
D78 Posted February 25, 2011 Share Posted February 25, 2011 Yes, I have been dumped in a cruel manner, and I internalized all the nasty things that person said to me and let it get in the way of feeling good about myself for a really long time. The person that dumped me used all of his knowledge of my fears, vulnerablities and insecurities to beat me down into an emotional mess. It took me a very long time to recover from the horrible things he said to me- but when I finally did work through it, I realized that HE was the one with the issues. The only regret I have now is that I internalized what he said to me and believed it, and I let those words rule me for far too long.... Yeah. ^^^ That. Being cynical won't help you. If or when you decide to find someone new, you will fall in love and forget about your cynicism because the little voice in the back of your head tells you it's okay to do so. There's no reason to spend much time with your cynicism because you will eventually let it go. If you don't let it go, you will just become the a$$hat, in which case you don't need to worry about being dumped and there's still no point in being cynical. Link to post Share on other sites
Eeyore79 Posted February 25, 2011 Share Posted February 25, 2011 I've been dumped a couple times by simply being ignored, and it's the cruelest thing ever. My first bf simply stopped answering the phone, stopped coming to see me, and when I went over to his house his mom sent me away saying he wasn't there. He never even had the guts to tell me it was over - when I bumped into him a few months later, he just said "sorry" and walked away. Then another guy did it to me a few years ago - it was an LDR and he dropped me off at the station with a promise to see me in a few weeks time, then he started ignoring me. He stopped answering his cell phone, didn't reply to emails or texts, defriended me on Facebook, and basically pretended I didn't exist. He didn't even have the decency to dump me; I don't know why he said he'd see me in a few weeks, but it was probably so i wouldn't kick up a fuss at the station. It kills me that he probably knew he'd never see me again and he just dropped me off at the station with a mouthful of lies. So yeah, I have been dumped cruelly, and being ignored is probably the cruelest of all. I really don't know why anyone would treat me like that; I guess they were just douchebags... Link to post Share on other sites
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