Second chance @ LDR: I really want this to work. (little bit long)

[jsgirl]

As my title states this is my partners and my second attempt at making this nightmare work.. AND I AM SO HAPPY WE ARE TRYING AGAIN!!

 

My SO and I have been together for a year and the majority of our relationship has been long distance, we are both studying our Degrees in Social Welfare but we have been posted in different states and will be until we finish our courses in two years.. it feels like forever away but we both are incredibly dedicated and committed to doing this line of work.

 

I have never felt the way I feel about my partner before and I have loved deeply before but from the moment "J" and I meet we both just connected in a way I couldn't put into words. All I knew is if it wasn't him it was no one.

 

He and I both had rough childhoods and lived nearly identical teen years.. never really being able to open up to other people, we both had trust issues and it was this that made us both want to grow up to help kids going through the same hardships we did growing up. Meeting him has been like meeting the other half of me and he always says he feels the same.

 

We did our first six months of long distance fairly well, we had the occasional argument about contact and of course the niggling jealousies that most LDRs experience at some point but on the whole we were going great. We would text each other all day, then IM while studying and Skype every night for at least two hours.

 

Then three months in or so my S.O got his first job in the industry as they are desperate for workers in his city and at the same time he was finding it a little bit hard to keep hes grades up as he has always struggled a little bit academically.

 

Communication became less frequent and then out of seemingly no where he told me he was sorry but he needed to focus more on his studies and work and we broke up. I was devastated. I couldn't breath or study or eat and lost a little bit too much weight.

 

I spent three months up until Xmas thinking about him constantly. We maintained contact on and off but both of us found it hard to not talk about our feelings and missing each other and we argued more and more then stopped contact for three weeks, in which time i tried to date someone else but found I couldnt stop thinking about "j" so i ended it.

 

Then drunk on new years at 11PM i drunkenly sent him a happy new years message and thanked him for being a big part of my life the year before. He responded immediately and we end up both leaving our new years parties and spending new years night catching up.

 

We decided we needed to at least be friends but no matter what we couldn't let go of each other.

 

I didn't want to put any pressure on him but FINALLY as of tonight we are back together again, both of us teary and relieved, I decided to just tell him I want this still.. and he admitted the same and said lets try again.. work and school has settled for us both and we both feel we are ready to try again.

 

What I am wondering is can long distance relationships work if they failed in the first attempt? I must say I am a little bit terrified he will run again. I dont know if i can bear that pain a second time.

[HeavenOrHell]

Oh how sweet! I'm SO pleased for you!!

And yes, LDR's can work second time around, same as other r/ships can.

Just communicate as much as you can, and be honest, that's what everyone says to me when I'm having worries and doubts

Good luck, and post any time if you're worried!