Relationship

[shanehayesr]

Hey guys, thanks for reading.

 

I just stumbled upon this place, seems like the place I should be.

 

So me and my girlfriend have been together for over a year. I myself, and pretty sensitive when it comes to things. I seem to learn from other peoples mistakes, so I tend to be more cautious. For example my father cheated on my mother about 7 times. My grandfather cheated twice, and so on and so fourth. My family is stupid. I could not ever imagine being with anyone else, nor do I ever have any urges, I always feel nauseous at even the thought of it.

 

Anyways, I treat her, the very best I can. I do anything she asks me, and I can't help myself not to. If I'm 10 miles away and its snowing outside and she says she wants me, you better bet I'll be on my bike riding through town, in the snow, at 10 o'clock at night, just for her. No bike? I'd walk. Anything she wants, I give her, and don't get me wrong she is wonderful, she can be very loving. Although there are other times when she can be pretty hateful, and my heart can't take much emotional abuse. My whole life has been nothing but a big Abuse-Soup. I try very hard, I over exert myself for her, and a lot of the time I don't get anything back. I don't expect it, but after a while, it eats away. I am very kind and lovable. I'd go to the ends of the earth for her, and sometimes shes 'too tired' to give me a kiss and a hug before she goes to sleep. Or 'too tired' to be nice. I don't know, I love her so much, and my heart knows it. I am lovestruck, tied down. Theres no way out, but I don't want out, so what I'm asking for, is advice? I don't know, Can anyone relate, or help? I feel like I can keep going, even though it hurts, and when I'm expecting it to be a great day, half of time time she ends up ignoring me because shes 'not thinking' but I do love her, and its very obvious she loves me. I just, am lost right now.

[pinkie]

She probably does love you... but, you put yourself out there for her so much that she's taken you for granted. Back off a little bit and stop being so available to her every whim and desire. (She isn't giving you the appreciation you deserve...) I'm sure there's more to it... however... You can't love her more than you love yourself. Stop being a 'doormat' and stand up for yourself. No one deserves to be abused, but I think you might just be a little 'codependent'... Start putting yourself first, I bet you will notice a significant change. Goodluck!

Edited February 26, 2011 by pinkie
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[Grinning Maniac]

I agree with Pinkie. Put yourself first a little more.

[Duckduckgoose]

Fact: Anyone too tired to be nice isn't worth it.

[Stealthbreed]

im going through the exact same thing mate!!

 

iv been going strong with my girlfriend since July last year. We see eachother for about 3 days a month. She couldnt come down for 2 months (January - feb) because she had a lot of work. She came for a week now to make up for the fact she couldnt come in january and she was being really odd with me. For the first time she said to me "im not really in the mood for sex" and "im too tired". We hadn't seen each other for two months and the first thing she wanted to do was sleep in bed!!!! yes i was a bit frustrated but i cant stay mad at her for more than a few seconds.

 

As you said i would do the exact same thing, i would travel from 100 miles if she asked me too. It would be nice if she put a bit more effort in, but i know she is putting effort in, in her own way...

Edited February 27, 2011 by Stealthbreed
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[shanehayesr]

Finally with my soulmate. I love her

[Cersei]

A different woman than the one from the first post?