Ex broke up suddenly seven months ago, now trying to make contact...what gives?

[itchy]

My ex broke up with me 7 months ago. He did it suddenly, said mean things, offered me to keep contact if I wanted, which I said no.

 

I think no contact is better. I did message him to tell him to talk about why he felt the need to suddenly break up (we'd been togethr for 6 and a half months), so he could tell me what was bothering him and he ignored me. So I deleted his number and tried to move on.

 

I have seen him driving around, but not face to face. Once he saw me as he was driving by my house, looked at me and turned away in a cold manner and stuck his nose in the air.

 

The other day he saw a friend of mine and apparently asked how I was and told her to say 'hello' to me from him.

 

I have seen many of his friends and I never ask about him nor send any greeting. I just say hello politely, ask how they are and go on my merry way.

 

Why do you think after all this angry and cold silent behaviour he is asking about me and sending me greetings 7 months later though a friend, when he won't speak to me in person?

[Arabess]

Maybe he's had a change of heart. Would you forgive him and try again?

[Darkangelism]

e is havig a hard time with the no contact, probably doesnt want to hurt you, but isnt in love with you anymore.

[Tony T]

"Why do you think after all this angry and cold silent behaviour he is asking about me and sending me greetings 7 months later though a friend, when he won't speak to me in person?"

 

Either guilt or regret. Whichever it is, just forget him and move on...like you say you have. You don't need an unstable, indecisive, uncommitted jerk in your life!

[itchy]

Thank you Tony.

 

No I don't want or need an unstable, indecisive, uncommitted jerk in my life. You described him perfectly.

 

And yes, I have moved on. Don't need answers or anything anymore.

 

I am and have been for a while quite content and at peace. Just slightly ruffled now...but I'll be fine tomorrow

 

Your accurate description made me laugh

[JulieAnna]

Some guys can't stand it when you don't make any attempts to reconcile or stay in touch. After a while you suddenly are appealing to them again because you haven't begged or pleaded to stay in the relationship.

 

He sounds like one of these guys. You've gotten this far without him - I'd keep going and not look back.

[befuddled11]

If I were you, I wouldn't even waste any more of your life on this turd, by trying to figure out *why* he's suddenly trying to make (albeit indirect) contact with you.

 

He ended things with you horribly and heartlessly. He certainly owed you some kind of an explanation, and if couldn't have chosen the easy route, to at least explain it to you by email, for goodness sake, he's not worth anything...and he deserves no second chance, and he surely doesn't deserve 5 seconds of your time or consideration.

 

Continue as you have.....don't pass any messages along to his friends/through his friends (as he's done)....just be your polite, usual self and let him go. When people treat us like sh*t and they have such little respect for us that they won't even give us a simple explanation why they disappear from our life, they don't deserve jack sh*t....ever. IMO.