JakeyZ Posted February 27, 2011 Share Posted February 27, 2011 A few weeks ago I stupidly believed some rumours about a very close friend that she was using me, and deleted her from facebook thinking she had been using me. I called her the next day explaining the situation, and apologised profusely for even considering stupid rumours. Now I regret this seriously and understand why she would be incredibly hurt by this. I tried apologising and made attempts to make things better between us to no avail, that being said I don't blame her for not accepting my apology, since it was pretty bad of me to believe. Later on, i found out, for a fact, that she had been saying some rather nasty things about me, which essentially boiled down to her taking things I had said once, while really depressed due to my mums recent diagnosis with cancer, and mocking and laughing about it with one of her friends, calling me pathetic, and wanker and delusional. When I asked her about this, she justified it and basically said she had a right to, since she was cut at me. However I feel that, even though I did wrong her and i feel guilty for it, her comments were unjustified, since I never intentially meant to hurt her at all, while shes spreading personal things and making light of them. After that we would still occasionally text each other, just to see how the other was going, but things seem hopeless and awkward, like she just doesn't seem interested in talking anymore, despite, being as close as family before the incident started. Despite things that were said, I still really want to be friends, and try get things to the way they were before, but she never seems interested, at most she would say that "she hope things work out in time." So is there anything that could be done? am I wasting my time in wanting to get things back to the way they were? i feel stupid for letting this get to me the way it does, but it's driving me insane at the moment. Link to post Share on other sites
ChristineB Posted February 28, 2011 Share Posted February 28, 2011 Ok, first of all you need to ask yourself, why do you want to continue a relationship with a friend whom wanted an eye for an eye, a leg for a leg? Especially when her eye and leg cost twice as much as yours... mocking and making fun of your mother's illness because you deleted her from your facebook? How old is she really? Link to post Share on other sites
Author JakeyZ Posted March 1, 2011 Author Share Posted March 1, 2011 Yeah, you're right. I don't know why I want to continue the friendship, I sort of swing from not wanting to have anything to do with her anymore, to hoping things go back to they way they are, since we were like family. I guess I really need to stop trying to make that effort, I just find it hard not to for some reason :S Link to post Share on other sites
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