arcsigner Posted February 27, 2011 Share Posted February 27, 2011 Basically a lot has happened in my life so far, just joined university a few months ago in September, met lots of new people, and of course relationships have been created and im starting to get used to uni life. And of course there is a girl. Let's call her jane and me dave for discussions sake. My problem is the classical mixed signal situation, or rather she does one thing, and says another. She flirts with me all the time, stroking my leg, hugging me unnecessarily, playing footsies with me. Her face literally lights up whenever she sees me, shes even given me a pet name. We gaze into each others eyes for well over 4-5 seconds sometimes, also the whole body language signs are there, legs pointed at me ect if your into that kind of thing. She often spends hours in my room from 11pm-5am in the morning on a regular basis, always has time to listen to my problems/issues, she often asks me about the girl situation and who i like, which i tell her no one at the moment, although there was a girl at the start of uni i told her about/asked advice. She also pretty much refuses to talk to me about other guys. She texts me at least 10 times a day unless shes really busy, always strikes up a conversation on facebook, basically i cant get away from her lol. She spends more time with me and cares more about me than pretty much all of my other exes. Then there's a bombshell. The other day we were talking about her ex, the only time shes spoken about a guy i might add, who is basically jealous of the time she spends with me, and she says "well he doesn't understand that i can do stuff, like hug you ect, without leading you on" and then she said the dreaded sentence "your like family" which is almost as bad as flat out saying your like a brother -_-. This to me made no freaking sense, everything was telling me she was into me, i mean ive asked a girl out with alot less signs than this, and i have 4 mature relationships with girls where we are just friends, i even have an honorary sister who i grew up with and feel nothing towards in that way, i usually understand freind zones when its coming lol but not this one, i meant she says that but acts in a TOTALY misleading way, i mean theres leading someone on, and then theres plain mind f**k! Whats worse is that i saw/heard something i wasn't supposed to, she said to her freind "Do you know when you have butterflies but dont know why, cos i have that now" and her freind clearly guested at me while i was turned away on a laptop, not realizing i could see her out the corner of my eye through a mirror, and "jane" responds "no, not that kind of butterflies" in a completely un-joking manner, and then goes on to say "besides your the one that said that thing last night" and the freind says "shutup!". I mean at the moment my mind is just in a mess reading this girl now, she makes 0 sense. Any one can give me some insight? Link to post Share on other sites
Author arcsigner Posted March 3, 2011 Author Share Posted March 3, 2011 A new development: She asked me today to go on holiday with her, just me and her, to somewhere overseas like italy in the summer. I mean what is that supposed to mean? I really dont get it, the family comment makes me think we are just friends, but we arn't close enough to go on holiday together surely, we've only known each other a few months, even if we've shared some personal things, so what does that mean? Link to post Share on other sites
nalfy88 Posted March 13, 2011 Share Posted March 13, 2011 Be careful! Coming from a female, you are dealing with someone who is way too sure of themselves! She sounds like she would play you for a long time, just because you have feelings for her, and it makes her feel good. These daddy's girls who need 24/7 attention will use anything to get it, and it doesn't necessarily have to have anything to do with her liking you, she just gets off on the ego stroke. Coming from a different breed of female, I say watch your back mate! Stop also doing nice things for her like carrying her bags for her, or responding to her advances, it will only make her head get even bigger! Link to post Share on other sites
Author arcsigner Posted March 15, 2011 Author Share Posted March 15, 2011 (edited) Thanks for the advice and for replying Yeah i guess this could be it, i would say she does generally care about me though, shes put up with alot of crap from me in the past and is a good listener, but what do i know lol. Also of late shes suddenly been throwing around i love you ALL the time, not adding as a freind or anything, which she never says to any of her other guy friends and has never said to me before about 2 weeks ago, posting it on my FB page and all, personally i don't really like it when people throw around that word like it means nothing. Edited March 15, 2011 by arcsigner Link to post Share on other sites
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