ver13 Posted February 28, 2011 Share Posted February 28, 2011 Well all I've been just sitting back thinking about what it is that we all are doing in this thing that we call marriage. I mean whenever I talk to someone about it it's like I'm hearing talking to my dau when she was 4yrs old. I mean there are all these fairy tale assumptions like flowers and candy need to be there everyday before we go to bed. I know one thing for sure it's not all that but I think that there are a few things that it has to have like the following. 1. Love that continues to grow and never rest to what we had yeaterday. 2. Intimacy and privacy. 3. Freedom to pursue your dreams 4. Sex that is uninhibited. These are just a few of my many thoughts I would welcome any and all additions to my treasure chest. Link to post Share on other sites
prettylady01 Posted February 28, 2011 Share Posted February 28, 2011 Well all I've been just sitting back thinking about what it is that we all are doing in this thing that we call marriage. I mean whenever I talk to someone about it it's like I'm hearing talking to my dau when she was 4yrs old. I mean there are all these fairy tale assumptions like flowers and candy need to be there everyday before we go to bed. I know one thing for sure it's not all that but I think that there are a few things that it has to have like the following. 1. Love that continues to grow and never rest to what we had yeaterday. 2. Intimacy and privacy. 3. Freedom to pursue your dreams 4. Sex that is uninhibited. These are just a few of my many thoughts I would welcome any and all additions to my treasure chest. I like your list. Everyone has different values according to their intimate relationship. For some freedom is high up on the list but in reality you arent free to just go do what you want the same way you are when you are single. Freedom to live your dreams is a bit different but I think you get what I mean. People need to evaluate their values and make sure they match the person they are with, if they dont either change the order of values or move on. Some of my values are yes growing, if your not growing your dying hehe. Freedom of expression, being able to bring up any issue without feeling like you are going to get yelled at or put down. No name calling, open and beautiful sex is for sure! haha The biggest thing is to take care of yourself, make sure you are emotionally fit and complete within yourself. No one completes you, they just add to who you are. My hubby helps me be a better me for sure but I don't need him for my own self worth :-) Link to post Share on other sites
Author ver13 Posted February 28, 2011 Author Share Posted February 28, 2011 Yes, this I can agree with it makes sense I like this view. Link to post Share on other sites
Spark1111 Posted February 28, 2011 Share Posted February 28, 2011 This is a really great topic and I like your points. I think marriage, like parenthood, is the one job no one trains or teaches you about, and they should! There is a wealth of information on how to be happily married and the effort it takes. I believe it should be mandatory reading, but it is not. Also, marriages, like many long-term relationships, goes through stages, and not all are positive unless you educate yourself and your spouse to it; prepare for it; and learn to communicate kindly about it. My advice: start reading on the web, a library, wherever, and share that info with each other. Be prepared to be surprised by a lot of the best resources out there! Link to post Share on other sites
devilmaycare Posted March 6, 2011 Share Posted March 6, 2011 Beautiful. Really wonderful. Thank you for reminding us of the simple things. Link to post Share on other sites
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