sb8098 Posted March 29, 2004 Share Posted March 29, 2004 hey everyone, ok it has been 3 yrs since i actaully went out on a date. And i started dating this what i first thought was a good guy about 2 weeks ago. Met him online but we had actually gone to the same college and know the same people it's was funny. We have a lot of mutual interestes too. And thing s were good; communicaton is there, affection is there, too. But , like this past weekend we went to a game and at first i though it was just going to be us at the game and then he mentined his working assoc will be there too, So i was a bit nervouis, you know kinda quiet and shy but still nice and freindly. It was over all ok and i understand he was at work partly, since his asscoaites, were there but seriously, I sat by myself a the game more than half of the game i am no t being sarcastic . I mean he was talking to the other guys but he never appologized for it. Then, we go to his assoc place and talk Really i was quiet again cause they were having a converstaion I didn't know anything about so I just acted like I was having a good time. We occsionally kept glancing at eachother then at one he said are you ready to go , I said when you are , he said i can se taht you are I was hey I tottally understand you work with them ; we can stay seriously. So luckily we left lol Then i mentioned too bad we didn't get to just han out ourselves tonight.,. So he invited me to hang at his place for a while. I said to hang thats all i said. ANd i have mentioned to him that I am just getting back into the dating scene. ANyways i guess , he didn't undertsand my hanging out cause he tried his rico suave and i said look i can't/won't , and we actually talked looke d at eachother while talking and it seemed fine and he said he wasnot angry . 15 min later he was snoring.lol i was ticked felt like oh youre the guy of put out or get out, sorry but that s how he left me feeling. So, I am then getting on my way to leave his house, He knows i didn't plan to sleep over just not wanting to do that , and again we haven't know eachother that long. SO i gave him a kiss goodnight so at least i now i left in a good manner. HE woke up and kissed me too. ANd as i was leaving walking out by myself i mention just tpo see what he says, i go so are you going to lock the door after i leave and he gets up and says be careful on the ewway home, and i left him a message yesterday which he hasn't returned. He has a game to play tomorrow whicxh he had previously invited me too. I am just not comfortable caus 1- i don't know him . So i am between calling him agian adn saying he are we in good stangings i was want ot make sure we are both on the same page, or not? Advice please oh we are both in our mid twenties too. Thank you Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted March 29, 2004 Share Posted March 29, 2004 He doesn't sound like much of a 'keeper'. You can stay friends with him, but stay on the date site in hopes of finding a better guy. It doesn't mean he's a big jerk or anything. He just doesn't sound like someone who has a clue as to how to date a woman. He may or may not change. Could be why he's single....HAHAHA! If some guy did me like that.....I'd have left him DURING the ball game. I would not want to see him again. Link to post Share on other sites
priscilla Posted March 30, 2004 Share Posted March 30, 2004 I agree with Arabess. He should have included you in the conversations at the game and then later on. But, not the whole time. In that situation you also need to hold your own and strike conversations or get involved in convos with his friends. It should be kind of a 50/50 thing. He doesn't want to feel like he has to entertain you the whole time. If he knows you are shy, he probably should have made more of an effort. Ok, back at his place. You guys haven't known each other that long so yes he was trying to get lucky. Unless you are in a committed relationship or just friends, it is usually difficult to just hang out. Most guys 99% will try to get laid. That is just a guy. Since you didn't want to, he was probably tired and that is why he went to sleep. But, he should have walked you to your car if you drove. That is good manners and it is also about safety. He should want to make sure you get to your car okay. If you didn't drive, he should have taken you home. He doesn't sound like a gentlemen. Don't worry that he didn't call back. And, go with him to the game you have already committed too. But, back off a little bit. He knows you are interested so just let things progress naturally. You are just dating, you are not b/f g/f so you may have to lower your expectations a little. And, if you have the opportunity, date other people. If you were in a committed relationship with him then there may have more reason for concern. I don't know if this helps. Watch his manners though. I just think that was rude not walking you out. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
priscilla Posted March 30, 2004 Share Posted March 30, 2004 p.s. If he does continue to display these poor manners then move on. You deserve better. Link to post Share on other sites
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