Author don diego 78 Posted August 2, 2011 Author Share Posted August 2, 2011 I should also mention that about a month ago her mom was diagnosed with cancer and it's in a bunch of places. She's going to be going through a lot of treatment. I care about the woman and have been walking a fine line that I sometimes cross with the ex as far as support goes. It brings me back into her sphere in ways that probably aren't helping. I try to make it clear that I'm there for her mom. Her father passed from cancer a week before our first date. Life is f-ed up sometimes, and not fair. Link to post Share on other sites
Author don diego 78 Posted August 3, 2011 Author Share Posted August 3, 2011 I should mention she also said one of the reasons she went with the ex is because I made it so taboo. I kind of winced at that. Link to post Share on other sites
debtman Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Remember, no matter what YOU did, SHE made the choices that she made. You didn't force her to do anything, she's done this before...to you...she can do it again. Nothing has changed. Not really... The key thing to remember is to focus on what is REALLY best for YOU! Think about where you are. Think about the IDEAL situation, with someone who REALLY loves you, who is REALLY committed to you and will REALLY do WHATEVER is needed to make things work without just throwing in the towel. To really improve your ego, you need to focus on yourself. NOT on dating, meeting someone, relationships, etc. just on YOU. Everything else will come along. Women love confidence and, exude enough, get out there enough, get involved enough, and the perfect opportunity will come along. Good luck and keep posting... Link to post Share on other sites
Author don diego 78 Posted August 3, 2011 Author Share Posted August 3, 2011 Thanks Debtman. Here's the thing though. My ego is really having a hard time with this one. I have done a fair amount of work to bring me to a better, stronger place but I am perpetually haunted by the simple fact that when we briefly lived together again and I was on the hunt for answers I came across an old poem (she considered herself a writer of sorts) written about this ex she ended up having a fling with. The poem was from way back before we met. It basically alluded to the fact that this guy was a devil character who was very well endowed and she always fell for it. I don't have any reason to feel insecure about what I've got but like every man the idea of some other man besting me in this department (and that's exactly how it looks and feels). Its enough to drive someone crazy, especially when our love life had fizzled after having a child. Its like now I have to look for new validation. I shouldn't feel that way. Link to post Share on other sites
itllgetbetter Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 I agree with Debtman's post #53. But, in response to your #50 post, there's an organization called "it's just lunch" where they fix you up with dates over a lunch - I don't have ANY experience with it myself, other than knowing the name. It's one alternative to finding someone on the iternet. Link to post Share on other sites
Author don diego 78 Posted August 4, 2011 Author Share Posted August 4, 2011 I guess... Link to post Share on other sites
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