Sw3etdev1L Posted March 1, 2011 Share Posted March 1, 2011 I love my boyfriend. The only thing I dislike is.. he talks much about our future together as man and wife.. he is 31. He sees us married with children.. and I want to look at him with him too, usually I do. What makes me feel doubtful is that he complains much about his economical status, were he works in.. He is quite ambitious and is an industrial engineer, he is very intelligent. He has dreams of being very very rich and stuff.. Dreams that sometimes make him really physical tense with pain in his back and stuff. I love him.. I want to see myself married with him, but sounds to me as a contradiction to want to get married not being economically stable enough and with all these ambitions.. he is not yet able to get married, the only way we could be married in a year or so is , with.. lacks of things.. which I don't want because I've always been spoiled. I have to accept it. I don't want to have problems economically.. I don't want to sound interested, because I am not.. I love him deeply.. It just worries me, were he is standing.. he wants to be the man who buys everything and just the man of the house.. u know... makes me wonder. But, I still love him.. thats the issue Positive insight? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sw3etdev1L Posted March 1, 2011 Author Share Posted March 1, 2011 Plus... my mother died a year and two or three months and I feel strange being happy. Usually I'd say.. "hey, I have eveverything", but I still don't get used to the situation.. how do I know if I am well enough to know to that I really picked the man of my life? Link to post Share on other sites
Eeyore79 Posted March 2, 2011 Share Posted March 2, 2011 Does he complain about his economic status because he's doing ok but he's ambitious and wants to do better? Or does he complain because his economic status is so poor that he can't afford to have a life with you? As long as he's doing ok then surely that's all that matters, since even if he never achieves his ambitions he will at least have a stable job and be able to manage. You say he's not yet able to get married - why not? I assume you have an income too, and you're managing fine on your two incomes now, so I see no reason why you shouldn't continue to manage just fine on your two incomes after you're married. It sounds like you're only factoring his income into your future economic status, not your own! I can kind of understand if he's earning significantly less than you and you feel like he can't contribute equally, but you can't really complain about his economic status unless it's significantly worse than your own. Is this about him not being able to afford a big princessy wedding? If that's what you want, why can't you contribute towards paying for it, instead of expecting him to afford it? When you talk about not wanting to marry him because he can't provide certain material things, you sound extremely spoiled and shallow. Marriage is supposed to be about becoming a couple with someone you love, not about material things and expensive dresses. If someone's income level would prevent you from marrying them then you don't really love them are aren't really ready for marriage anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
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