Country_Girl Posted March 3, 2011 Share Posted March 3, 2011 So, I'm going on 2 months post breakup. I have lost a lot of weight, I don't know how much because i don't have a scale...but if I could guess I would say anywhere from 25-30 pounds. I was never over-weight, but my ex was an emotional eater and I found myself eating more around him the year we were living together. I am guessing I gained 15 lbs while with him. That weight is gone now, plus some. And I really feel I am over him, in the sense that I don't care if we get back together. So why hasn't my appetiete returned? It's really weird. I have no desire for food, I eat 1 small meal a day if that. And friends/family keep asking me "did you eat anything today"? I guess the weight loss is obvious and they are concerned. But they don't understand, I am just not hungry. And if I try to force food, it makes me feel worse- I feel sick the times I try to make myself eat, and it's worse in the long run because that detours me from food in the long run because I remember the past experience of those sick feelings. I have no history of an eating disorder or anything. I am not trying to lose weight, I just don't have a desire for food and forget to eat. Has anyone been through this? Link to post Share on other sites
Tybalt Posted March 3, 2011 Share Posted March 3, 2011 Yes, I have. I lost about 15 lbs during my last bad breakup. I found that it related to anxiety over everything. I wasn't sleeping that well either. Eating around people helped, as it was distracting. You may also find that talking to a therapist or to friends to get reassurance and comfort may help. In my case, as I did not have a lot of weight to afford to lose, I ended up taking a mild anti-anxiety med for a brief time to quell it and that helped me eat. If you are taking in enough calories, working out also really helps boost one's mood. Link to post Share on other sites
VanCan06 Posted March 3, 2011 Share Posted March 3, 2011 As weird as it sounds I was the opposite. I have been weight training for about 10months now, and when I broke up with my GF a few months ago, it actually caused me to put on more size I wanted. As well it gave me the motivation I needed to clean my diet better. My advice would be, if you don't have much of an appetite after a break up, make yourself some shakes. You can add any fruit, peanut butter, oats, whatever you fancy. Easier way to get healthy calories in when you have a hard time eating, and they usually taste great! Link to post Share on other sites
strangeways Posted March 3, 2011 Share Posted March 3, 2011 Very similar to me. Lost about 30 lbs in the first couple of months. Was eating a small meal for lunch and that's it. I think its pretty normal. The less you eat the less your body expects and adjusts to what you're giving it. I wouldn't have been able to force myself to eat more either. Took about 3 months for my appetite to get back to normal. I think this was mainly due to getting back into running and weights. There's a forum here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/f24/ that might be of interest if you haven't already looked at it. Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted March 3, 2011 Share Posted March 3, 2011 I went from 245 to 218 after my wife left. I need some new clothes, everything is falling off me! (btw I'm 6'4) Link to post Share on other sites
JrRos Posted March 3, 2011 Share Posted March 3, 2011 I lost 10lb in about three day... O_o I went back to my regular weight after when I started going to the gym. Link to post Share on other sites
z00m25 Posted March 3, 2011 Share Posted March 3, 2011 i was 212 when she left jan 11th and down to 190 yesterday. last week i was 185 but i skipped a week or two of the gym to party and that didnt help haha but hopefully i can get it back off. havent touched fast food since she left proud about that since we had it just about everyday while she was here. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Country_Girl Posted March 3, 2011 Author Share Posted March 3, 2011 I suppose I could try some protien shakes or maybe even a meal replacement shake. It actually kind of sucks because I don't "crave" anything like I used to. Nothing just seems appeasing to me. I'm in a new state now and we have Chick-fil-a here which I used to LOVE, been here 2 months now and haven't even gone there. I just feel very wasteful, any food I do buy I eat 2 bites then throw it in the trash. I guess the good news is, the weightloss did help me gain some confidence back after this breakup. Which was much needed after a blow to the self esteem like that. Link to post Share on other sites
poorguy Posted March 3, 2011 Share Posted March 3, 2011 It's hard because nothing even appeals to you. Even things you typically love you don't even want to eat. I do think that some type of meal replacement is use though that should suffcie or now. I want to cauton you though tat if it contain a lot of protein (which isn't a bad thing) make sure you are drinking plenty of water. What happens is the protein shakes alone ar a lot for your kidneys to metabolize. What I mean is that that amount of protein can be tough on your kidneys. Drinking plenty of water will lessen the burden. I also thin that no eating a proper amount of food prolongs the depression stage so it's a double edge sword as far as that goes. I have always noticed when I began to go back to a regular diet for some reason I felt 20 times better Link to post Share on other sites
D78 Posted March 3, 2011 Share Posted March 3, 2011 I suppose I could try some protien shakes or maybe even a meal replacement shake. It actually kind of sucks because I don't "crave" anything like I used to. Nothing just seems appeasing to me. I'm in a new state now and we have Chick-fil-a here which I used to LOVE, been here 2 months now and haven't even gone there. I just feel very wasteful, any food I do buy I eat 2 bites then throw it in the trash. I guess the good news is, the weightloss did help me gain some confidence back after this breakup. Which was much needed after a blow to the self esteem like that. I drink protein shakes for breakfast. I found that eating new things was easier than eating what I ate before. For the first few weeks, I think I only ate baked sweet potato french fries with avocado dressing (sounds gross but it's not!). They were fun to make, too, so it was distracting. Now I can eat the foods I used to eat. After 3.5ish months, I still have no appetite, despite mentally feeling a lot better. ? Try to include as much protein and healthy fats into what you do eat. If you find the solution, please update LS! Link to post Share on other sites
young werther Posted March 3, 2011 Share Posted March 3, 2011 I lost 60 lbs after me and my gf of 3 1/2 years broke up. Link to post Share on other sites
Rose T Posted March 3, 2011 Share Posted March 3, 2011 Yes, I lost weight, too. I didn't want to eat, but I also didn't want to cook, which was significant as I always loved it. I think I associated cooking with taking care of my ex, it's always more fun cooking for two rather than one, so I had no desire to be in the kitchen. That's changing now, 3 months on, for me.I'd suggest, if you like cooking at all you could maybe try experimenting with new recipes? Like D78 says, really. I've also gone back to ingredients that my ex hated and found it very liberating being able to prepare certain dishes again! In general, as a girl I eat less and I'm actually enjoying the smaller portion sizes and keeping my slimmer figure. It takes time to rediscover the pleasures of food though and I think people in relationships often carry a few more pounds than singles anyway. If you don't want to eat a lot, just make sure you're eating the right things - plenty of fresh fruit and veg and good quality protein. Link to post Share on other sites
SunsetRed Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 I've lost weight after every major break up I've ever had. With my recent break up, I lost 15-20 lbs. I'm actually happy about the loss as I never thought I'd be at my current weight again. If I lose anymore though, I'm going to look too thin and I don't want that. I can't eat either. Its as if the food won't go down my esophagus or as if my stomach is repelling food. I am drinking carnation instant break fast and trying to make fruit smoothies as well. I need nutrition and energy to work my 60 hour a week schedule. Link to post Share on other sites
depplover_1980 Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 Hey folks, Weighloss is one of the only great things to come from heartbreak!! I lost 21lbs since I quit drinking, not quite the same but I recognise the stories of never feeling hungry. I rarely crave food. Link to post Share on other sites
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