Browneyes77 Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 I'll try keep this short and hope I get to the point. I am a 33 year old woman, my daughters friends come round to our house and spend alot of time with both my daughter and I. I seem to have this situation with one of her male friends. He's 16 years old and I'm not sure if he's coming round because he is interested in me in a sexual way or just because we all sit and have a laugh and a drink together. All of her male friends think I am a MILF....I find this embarassing, but as I suspect many older woman would....I do find it a confidence booster. Every woman likes to feel attractive and so long as no one is being hurt, I don't object to anything that boosts a womans self asteem. He calls me alot (using a thing we have in common) to come and see me. He has been to the house when my daughter was out and we were alone (nothing happened) and when he talks to me, he holds eye contact the whole time which at times can make me a feel a little uncomfortable. I am a confident woman and I have no problem holding eye contact but for some reason, I find it hard to do with him. I guess what I'm trying to find out is if this boy is interested in me for anything more than a friend? He is round at our house every chance he get's and phones me nearly every day, again....this could be the result of the thing we have in common which I won't mention or it could be because he is interested in me. We spend alot of time together and I am starting to wonder if maybe we shouldn't be? He is first and for most, my daughters friend and I guess I don't want to be unintentionaly leading him down the garden path. I don't want to do anything that would ruin my daughters relationship with him. If his actions towards me are friendship then I have nothing to worry about and I'll put it behind me, but...If he is showing signs that he has feelings for me of anything more than friendship then I'll need more advice, Lol!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Duckduckgoose Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 If you just want him for sex then do it, but be really careful... since the whole age of consent thing might bite you when he brags to his friends (and he will don't worry). If you are looking for a relationship then look elsewhere. MILFs are conquests... just watch the American Pie movies (Stiffler's mom and ****break). If you have sex with this boy then he will have gotten his conquest, and you might be finding yourself the ridicule of the whole school... or you might have horny teenage boys beating down your door. Your daughter will definitely hear of it, will probably catch hell at school for it, and she might hate or resent you for getting the attention from males HER age that she should be attracting. But if you are really wanting to try the cougar thing go for it, just be aware of the consequences of THIS particular fellow since he's your child's school buddy. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 I have no issue with the cougar thing but he is 16 years old. This isn't even legal. Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 I have no issue with the cougar thing but he is 16 years old. This isn't even legal. Thank you for your common sense Woggle. OP this is a child you're talking about here and one your daughter's age at that. You need to take a look at your motivation here and stop considering preying on someone else's child. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 16 will get you 20. Don't be a predator. Stay away from children. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Browneyes77 Posted March 4, 2011 Author Share Posted March 4, 2011 I am from the UK and 16 years old is the legal consent for sex! I understand where the confusion 'might' come in. Trust me, I ain't no kiddie fiddler. Further to add.....did I say in any of my post that I was 'going' to sleep with him? NO, I didn't! READ IT CORRECTLY NEXT TIME! If anyone is doing the pursing....it's HIM!!!! Lol I never call or text him unless he contacts me first and there is a reason why I would need to contact him back. Wind yer necks in and stop the hating! Thank you, Goose for your words of wisdom. I will not lie, I have felt a 'slight' attraction for this boy, but nothing that would make me 'act' on it. I am more or less looking for some advice on how I should handle the situation. For saying's sake....If I approach him and tell him that nothing can happen between us and he wasn't even in that frame of mind with me I'd be pretty red faced! I was more looking along the lines of 'Is he interested in me?' and if so what do I do to stop him in his tracks without it affecting my daughters friendship with him or mine for that matter....see where I'm going now folks?! Link to post Share on other sites
Datura Posted March 7, 2011 Share Posted March 7, 2011 (edited) I was more looking along the lines of 'Is he interested in me?' and if so what do I do to stop him in his tracks without it affecting my daughters friendship with him or mine for that matter....see where I'm going now folks?! Easy - stop answering his calls, and replying to his text messages. Entertaining a 16 year old boy -alone- in your home whom you are attracted to, and whose actions make alarm bells go off is highly irresponsible. Edited March 7, 2011 by Datura Link to post Share on other sites
Jannah Posted March 7, 2011 Share Posted March 7, 2011 I won't join on the "ICK" band wagon, but OP - he is a teenage boy. Most women, want a MAN. Having said that - I think the best course of action, in none. If anything, he probably has developed a crush on you, and it's up to you as the adult, to steer him in the opposite direction. Do not hang out with him one-on-one or correspond with him on the phone - all the things you've done in the past, change it from here on out by NOT engaging in it. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted March 7, 2011 Share Posted March 7, 2011 I am from the UK and 16 years old is the legal consent for sex! I understand where the confusion 'might' come in. Trust me, I ain't no kiddie fiddler. Further to add.....did I say in any of my post that I was 'going' to sleep with him? NO, I didn't! READ IT CORRECTLY NEXT TIME! If anyone is doing the pursing....it's HIM!!!! Lol I never call or text him unless he contacts me first and there is a reason why I would need to contact him back. Wind yer necks in and stop the hating! Thank you, Goose for your words of wisdom. I will not lie, I have felt a 'slight' attraction for this boy, but nothing that would make me 'act' on it. I am more or less looking for some advice on how I should handle the situation. For saying's sake....If I approach him and tell him that nothing can happen between us and he wasn't even in that frame of mind with me I'd be pretty red faced! I was more looking along the lines of 'Is he interested in me?' and if so what do I do to stop him in his tracks without it affecting my daughters friendship with him or mine for that matter....see where I'm going now folks?! Hey MILF, er I mean Browneyes77, the only thing that occurred to me is could having an encounter with this fellow damage your other relationships were others to discover it? Are you together with your daughter's father? What might your daughter think? Are there other people around you who might think less of you or whatever? Do you feel all that confident that this guy will keep a trust or be a braggard about it? Stuff like that. I'm sure you struggle with all these questions but if it all seems like the risk isn't all that bad, then blessings be upon you.That would be one lucky young man. A 33 old took my cherry too but she was no great looker. She was divorced with no children and I was legal by American laws so there were no reel risks. Link to post Share on other sites
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