kis Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 I had a very strange event at work. I Just happened to be in the bathroom at the same time as a women I see sometimes but barely know. She aksed me when I got divorsed. I told her I am not. " what makes you think that?' She looked very embassed and said "sorry to tell you this but your husband's on Plenty of fish" I Didnt know what to think. I waited all weekend until I was alone and searched the site. He was not on there. But when i went to the site a login screen popped up and he had a user name that was stored???????????. So what should I think??????? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 Why are you surprised Kis? You've been having an affair on your H for a long time now, I'm sure he knows about your affair and that's why he's on that dating website. That's all I have to say, since it seems in the past whenever I've posted any advice to you, you've never acknowledged me, so I'm assuming you have me on ignore. Link to post Share on other sites
desertIslandCactus Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 I had a very strange event at work. I Just happened to be in the bathroom at the same time as a women I see sometimes but barely know. She aksed me when I got divorsed. I told her I am not. " what makes you think that?' She looked very embassed and said "sorry to tell you this but your husband's on Plenty of fish" I Didnt know what to think. I waited all weekend until I was alone and searched the site. He was not on there. But when i went to the site a login screen popped up and he had a user name that was stored???????????. So what should I think??????? I was on POF for a few years .. but not real active on it .. I don't know what "user name that was stored" means. Does it mean you typed in the POF address, and a user name immed came up - for you to type the password into? Link to post Share on other sites
Author kis Posted March 4, 2011 Author Share Posted March 4, 2011 I was on POF for a few years .. but not real active on it .. I don't know what "user name that was stored" means. Does it mean you typed in the POF address, and a user name immed came up - for you to type the password into? That is exactlly what it means. Yes. Link to post Share on other sites
desertIslandCactus Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 That is exactlly what it means. Yes. I am no longer a member. But it is easy enough to start a membership and the site is free. You can start your own membership .. on another computer Then there is an area that you can look up his user name and check out what he says about himself. I am going to go over there now and see if you can see his profile w/o joining.. be back Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 I am not saying either of you are right but if you are cheating yourself you really have no moral authority. If both of you are looking elsewhere maybe it is time to end this marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
desertIslandCactus Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 OK .. I was just there. You can do it w/o joining. www.pof.com Then do the following: First line hit the prompt "search" .. Then on the Second line, hit the prompt "user name" .. Type in his user name, and it should reveal his profile. If any prob, get back to me. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 I am not saying either of you are right but if you are cheating yourself you really have no moral authority. If both of you are looking elsewhere maybe it is time to end this marriage. Thank you for saying this Woggle. I know my words or any advice i give kis is ignored, so it's nice to see another poster acknowledge the fact she's been having an affair for quite a while. Two wrongs don't make a right.. A divorce seems necessary, or atleast a conversation about an open marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kis Posted March 4, 2011 Author Share Posted March 4, 2011 I am no longer a member. But it is easy enough to start a membership and the site is free. You can start your own membership .. on another computer Then there is an area that you can look up his user name and check out what he says about himself. I am going to go over there now and see if you can see his profile w/o joining.. be back You can look with out joining. I seen lots of profiles while i was looking for his. He was not on there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kis Posted March 4, 2011 Author Share Posted March 4, 2011 OK .. I was just there. You can do it w/o joining. www.pof.com Then do the following: First line hit the prompt "search" .. Then on the Second line, hit the prompt "user name" .. Type in his user name, and it should reveal his profile. If any prob, get back to me. Thanks alot. That worked I found him. Says he is looking for an intimate encounter. No commitment. Married. I see why I couldnt find him. The women said his picture was on there and that is what I was looking for. The picture is gone and no name. Cant emagine getting any responses from that. Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 .....If both of you are looking elsewhere maybe it is time to end this marriage. Wise words. Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 Thanks alot. That worked I found him. Says he is looking for an intimate encounter. No commitment. Married. Hey Kis, So are you going to confront your H? I don't know your story, but others have mentioned that you're currently involved in an A. If your H just wants NSA sex, why don't you 2 just have an open M and that way you wouldn't have to hide your A. ...something to consider? Or, if things are that bad, and both are willing to cheat - maybe divorce (?) So is this woman at work attached, cuz then it would be kinda funny that she too was on the Intimate Encounters page looking for people Link to post Share on other sites
What_Next Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 I'm not 100% sure of your back story kis, but if you are involved in an affair and your H has found out, he is on POF looking for a revenge affair. I was in exactly the same boat. After I discovered my wife's affair I did the same thing. Actually before I was 100% sure I created a profile and began to use it. Personally I hope he succeeds and gets him some if you are actually in an affair. Link to post Share on other sites
tamil-friends Posted March 7, 2011 Share Posted March 7, 2011 Think first of the woman, why she told you that and what is her intention. Kis, a story will never be a story if there's nothing happened. You've been together with your husband so you must know the changes and something went wrong to him. Username popped up? Well, it could be suspicious. Yeah, all they advised is right join POF and find him. Good luck and hope it will work. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kis Posted March 9, 2011 Author Share Posted March 9, 2011 Think first of the woman, why she told you that and what is her intention. Kis, a story will never be a story if there's nothing happened. You've been together with your husband so you must know the changes and something went wrong to him. Username popped up? Well, it could be suspicious. Yeah, all they advised is right join POF and find him. Good luck and hope it will work. Yes i was wondering why this women i barely know and cant remember ever having a conversation with before chose to tell me this. Hmmm. Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted March 9, 2011 Share Posted March 9, 2011 Yes i was wondering why this women i barely know and cant remember ever having a conversation with before chose to tell me this. Hmmm. Maybe she's been deceived in the past and takes a moral stance as a result...? Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted April 19, 2011 Share Posted April 19, 2011 If you barely know this woman and if you have never had a conversation with her, then how in the heck does she recognize your husband from a picture on PoF? Link to post Share on other sites
desertIslandCactus Posted April 19, 2011 Share Posted April 19, 2011 If you barely know this woman and if you have never had a conversation with her, then how in the heck does she recognize your husband from a picture on PoF? I thought that too. Either there was involvement on her part - or there was gossip on the worksite. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 I thought that too. Either there was involvement on her part - or there was gossip on the worksite. Maybe she knows you're having an affair and also has seen your H on that site so she assumed you two were divorced. Even more so if your MM is a coworker. Anyway, don't know why I'm replying to your thread since you never acknowledge anything i've ever said to you on ANY of your threads. Good luck though! Link to post Share on other sites
ver13 Posted April 22, 2011 Share Posted April 22, 2011 How can you even consider what your H is doing wrong if your doing the same crap. IMO if you are already in an "A" what do you care? Unless it's the "At least my thing is on the DL" how could he have the nerve to go public, how dare he!!! If this is what is actually going on then you have some serious issues that you don't need to be talking to us about you need to seek professional care. I'm just saying Link to post Share on other sites
Author kis Posted April 24, 2011 Author Share Posted April 24, 2011 If you barely know this woman and if you have never had a conversation with her, then how in the heck does she recognize your husband from a picture on PoF? he is very well known in our town. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 24, 2011 Share Posted April 24, 2011 he is very well known in our town. Then you two should talk about an open marriage instead of both of you lying and cheating. I know you have me on ignore, so if someone else could say this so kis can think about this..But what if (since her H is well known in their Town) someone has been using his picture making it seem like it's him. Stolen his picture and using it on dating sites. I find it hard to believe that someone so well known in a Town, would go on a dating site when they're married and know they're going to get busted. Link to post Share on other sites
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