Mindface Posted March 5, 2011 Share Posted March 5, 2011 Pretty mad. We had dinner at our house with both of our families last night and she humiliated me in front of everyone. I felt so foolish smiling while everyone was laughing at me and making fun of me even more. It was horrible and that hurt me really bad. Then when everyone was gone she tried to soothe me and seduce me like everything's alright. I blew up on her and cussed her out. I got so heated that I had to sit down before I passed out. I got a little dizzy. This has also brought back my thoughts of leaving her for good because of her ONS she had in November with her former co-worker. Won't even feel right speaking to my family or hers anymore. **** em all. Maybe I'll leave her then move out of the state to start a new life. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted March 5, 2011 Share Posted March 5, 2011 Welcome newcomer to LS! Feel free to read the threads, you've come to the right place to express your perspective on a matter. Link to post Share on other sites
Carrot2000 Posted March 5, 2011 Share Posted March 5, 2011 For her to belittle and embarrass you in front of her family and have a ONS shows that she has little to no respect for you. It's like she thinks you're a joke; do whatever you need to do to maintain your dignity. No one deserves to be mistreated. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mindface Posted March 5, 2011 Author Share Posted March 5, 2011 Sorry you're going through this. I think you should leave her. If you don't mind, could you please tell us what she said that embarrassed you? She made a joke about a specific body part of mine. I won't tell exactly what but I felt horrible when she said it. She knew this for as long as she's known me and knew I didn't want that out in the open. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mindface Posted March 5, 2011 Author Share Posted March 5, 2011 For her to belittle and embarrass you in front of her family and have a ONS shows that she has little to no respect for you. It's like she thinks you're a joke; do whatever you need to do to maintain your dignity. No one deserves to be mistreated. I know. Thanks. It's conflicting feeling like this. On one hand I still love her and the next I dislike her for what she's done. Don't know how much more I can take. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mindface Posted March 5, 2011 Author Share Posted March 5, 2011 And our families? Don't even want to so much as see them anymore..... Link to post Share on other sites
FryFish Posted March 6, 2011 Share Posted March 6, 2011 This is the internet and we are strangers... Tell us what happened. Oh, and she had a ONS in november? That is probably the WORST part of your story so far... Has the whore quit the job she worked at with her coworker? Link to post Share on other sites
Duckduckgoose Posted March 6, 2011 Share Posted March 6, 2011 Have you told her what is bothering you? Really sat down and explained that those behaviours are getting to you? She might think you are okay with all of this stuff. If she won't listen when you talk, write her a letter or email it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mindface Posted March 6, 2011 Author Share Posted March 6, 2011 This is the internet and we are strangers... Tell us what happened. She made a joke about my enlarged breasts. That's all I will say about that. Oh, and she had a ONS in november? That is probably the WORST part of your story so far... Has the whore quit the job she worked at with her coworker? Yes she did quit her job after she told me. I asked her to do it. Link to post Share on other sites
K.K. Posted March 6, 2011 Share Posted March 6, 2011 My ex had man boobs. I'm a weirdo so I kinda felt like I was getting the best of both worlds ya know wha i sayin *gangsta nose thumb flip* Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mindface Posted March 6, 2011 Author Share Posted March 6, 2011 Have you told her what is bothering you? Really sat down and explained that those behaviours are getting to you? I told her how I felt last night. She might think you are okay with all of this stuff. If she won't listen when you talk, write her a letter or email it. She knew I didn't want nobody to know. She knew I was never okay with her running her mouth or even joking about that. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 6, 2011 Share Posted March 6, 2011 She made a joke about my enlarged breasts. That's all I will say about that. Yes she did quit her job after she told me. I asked her to do it. Your wife is cruel and also, hearing that other family members, even your own, laughed and made fun of you, isn't nice at all. It really pisses me off when I hear about people making fun of others about sensitive things. Karma, ... It's a real bitch when she bites back! Your wife owes you a HUGE apology, so does your family. And hers as well. Imagine YOU cracking a joke (sorry to be crass here, it just popped into my head) about your wife infront of everybody about her certain body part smelling bad sometimes, or she (if she has small breasts) your nickname for her is "bee stings" or "flea bites". Im sure she would be embarressed and upset, pissed off at you as well. fact that she thinks it's no big deal shows how little respect she has for you. Sorry, I ranted here.. Don't let this go, fight her about this and if she still refuses to apologize or sympathize, understand WHY it upsets you, then you have every right to leave since it seems this is just another thing pushing you out the door. Link to post Share on other sites
K.K. Posted March 6, 2011 Share Posted March 6, 2011 But knowing that you are self conscious (oh god don't make me look it up) about them, she was an ASS. Yes. An ASS. That's how people grow resentful. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 6, 2011 Share Posted March 6, 2011 I told her how I felt last night. She knew I didn't want nobody to know. She knew I was never okay with her running her mouth or even joking about that. So, she has a big mouth. You handled it well. If my H did something like that to me, or if anybody tried to embarrass me like that I would have 1)reacted instantly on emotion and reaction (not good, I know) and make abit of a scene or I'd probably just say I wasn't feel well and excuse myself, go upstairs until everybody left. What did she say when you told her how you felt? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mindface Posted March 6, 2011 Author Share Posted March 6, 2011 Your wife is cruel and also, hearing that other family members, even your own, laughed and made fun of you, isn't nice at all. It really pisses me off when I hear about people making fun of others about sensitive things. Karma, ... It's a real bitch when she bites back! Your wife owes you a HUGE apology, so does your family. And hers as well. Imagine YOU cracking a joke (sorry to be crass here, it just popped into my head) about your wife infront of everybody about her certain body part smelling bad sometimes, or she (if she has small breasts) your nickname for her is "bee stings" or "flea bites". Im sure she would be embarressed and upset, pissed off at you as well. fact that she thinks it's no big deal shows how little respect she has for you. Sorry, I ranted here.. Don't let this go, fight her about this and if she still refuses to apologize or sympathize, understand WHY it upsets you, then you have every right to leave since it seems this is just another thing pushing you out the door. Thanks Whichwayisup. She did apologize and said she was sorry while she was crying but I didn't care. I was mad so I went to bed to calm down. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 6, 2011 Share Posted March 6, 2011 Thanks Whichwayisup. She did apologize and said she was sorry while she was crying but I didn't care. I was mad so I went to bed to calm down. She should feel bad! Let her cry and feel awful, then maybe she'll learn not to talk about personal things that are meant to be kept quiet. Tough lesson for her, but hopefully she won't do it again. Still.. WTF went through her head? Did she say why she blabbed it? It just blows me away that she told everybody. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mindface Posted March 6, 2011 Author Share Posted March 6, 2011 But knowing that you are self conscious (oh god don't make me look it up) about them, she was an ASS. Yes. An ASS. That's how people grow resentful. Yes I know. It just seems like the trust is gone now...... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 6, 2011 Share Posted March 6, 2011 Yes I know. It just seems like the trust is gone now...... I think the trust has been gone for a while..Or whatever was left of it, is almost gone.. The cheating.. She quit her job, that's good. I do hope she's not still talking to the guy? How long ago did this happen? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mindface Posted March 6, 2011 Author Share Posted March 6, 2011 She should feel bad! Let her cry and feel awful, then maybe she'll learn not to talk about personal things that are meant to be kept quiet. Tough lesson for her, but hopefully she won't do it again. Still.. WTF went through her head? Did she say why she blabbed it? It just blows me away that she told everybody. "I don't know, I was in the moment." "I didn't think." Before she trashed me some of our family members were telling jokes about one another, and some stupid stuff they did when they were young. I guess she took that as the time to joke on me. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 6, 2011 Share Posted March 6, 2011 Suggest to her that she call her family and yours too. Explain that she made an awful error in judgement and told them something personal that she wasn't supposed to tell. She needs to let them know that you are upset and angry about it. Fact is, they laughed about it and none of them showed you any sympathy or stood up for you, even if they were joking about stupid stuff. She crossed the line and needs to repair this. Not only for your sake, but for hers as well. She can think now of what to say to them, and also think of ways to make it up to you in the meantime. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mindface Posted March 6, 2011 Author Share Posted March 6, 2011 I think the trust has been gone for a while..Or whatever was left of it, is almost gone.. The cheating.. She quit her job, that's good. I do hope she's not still talking to the guy? How long ago did this happen? No she's not talking to him no more. This happened in November of last year. I met him once at a visit to her old job back in the summer and I remember seeing them talking while I was sightseeing (Friends & Family Day). Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mindface Posted March 6, 2011 Author Share Posted March 6, 2011 Suggest to her that she call her family and yours too. Explain that she made an awful error in judgement and told them something personal that she wasn't supposed to tell. She needs to let them know that you are upset and angry about it. Fact is, they laughed about it and none of them showed you any sympathy or stood up for you, even if they were joking about stupid stuff. She crossed the line and needs to repair this. Not only for your sake, but for hers as well. She can think now of what to say to them, and also think of ways to make it up to you in the meantime. Thanks. I will tell her to call everyone. She came home this evening with flowers and told me she was sorry. I accepted it but I'm still mad. And not only about this but her cheating on me. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 6, 2011 Share Posted March 6, 2011 Did you two ever seek counselling? If not, now might be a good time to talk about going. It's good she's sorry and showing you by giving you flowers. Hope she understands that it's going to take you abit more time to work through the anger. Link to post Share on other sites
FryFish Posted March 6, 2011 Share Posted March 6, 2011 I wouldnt have her call everyone... That would only make things worse... I would leave her for cheating though. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mindface Posted March 6, 2011 Author Share Posted March 6, 2011 Did you two ever seek counselling? If not, now might be a good time to talk about going. She went to counseling on her own. It's good she's sorry and showing you by giving you flowers. Hope she understands that it's going to take you abit more time to work through the anger. It was nice of her, I agree. But I still question her loyalty to our marriage. We may need to separate for a while. Link to post Share on other sites
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