Mothers & the name fetish

[Disillusioned]

Those of you who were given a name that you hate will be able to understand this post.

 

Let's say your family name is Whifflefart, and your first name is Waldo. You got picked on nonstop in school, even by your teachers... it was almost enough to drive you to suicide (OOPS---we're not supposed to talk about that!). Yet your parents thought it's a WONNNNNDERFUL name! A godsend!

 

You'd eventually get tired of it and say "I want to change my name" to your mother. BIG MISTAKE. At that point she'd do one of two things:

1. joke about it ("Would you rather be named Percy? Hahaha---oh Perrrrrcyyyy!") for the next 30 years.

2. go volcanic and jump up and down and tear her hair out, because being the little ingrate you are, you don't appreciate the wonderful euphonious name she picked for you!

 

So you turn 18, and you find out which judge in the county courthouse will OK a name change for you because you've picked the one you want: you'll be John Smith instead of Waldo Whifflefart. You proudly announce your name change to your mother, at which point she'll do one of two things:

1. make the most pitiful face you ever saw, in an effort to melt your heart and guilt you into taking your old, dorky name back.

2. get all loud and tell you how God is going to put lightning up your butt for tarnishing the sacred Whifflefart family name (Dad may do this too).

 

Well, my name isn't Waldo Whifflefart, but I was almost driven to suicide by merciless taunting well into my 30s, and yes, my late mother used to go volcanic on me whenever I made the mistake of admitting in front of her that I wanted a legal name change. Taunters would get all sour and defensive when I told them I was going to change my name. My aunt was the one who told me God would put lightning up my butt if I changed my name. But for $375, I can do it myself without a lawyer.

 

I think parents (especially mothers) are too fetishistic about the whole name thing... I mean, you're still their kid. IMO kids should legally be allowed to go in front of a judge and pick the names they want, age limits be damned.

 

Because if you give your kid a name that he hates, he's going to go through life thinking that you never loved him as much as you should have. Take it from someone who was that kid.

[sally4sara]

I think this might be an opinion reflective of your maternal relationship a bit more than some world wide phenomenon. Most parents I've known chose the names TOGETHER. I get that Freud blames it all on the mom, but hey - he was a coke head.

 

Hell, I didn't even have a chance to name my son. He came out and his dad assumed those choices he knew we were still not in agreement on as quick as he could while they were still attending to me. Now my son's genitalia has been mutilated to polite societies expectations and he's been saddled with one of those obnoxious trendy names.

[fooled once]

Those of you who were given a name that you hate will be able to understand this post.

 

Let's say your family name is Whifflefart, and your first name is Waldo. You got picked on nonstop in school, even by your teachers... it was almost enough to drive you to suicide (OOPS---we're not supposed to talk about that!). Yet your parents thought it's a WONNNNNDERFUL name! A godsend!

 

You'd eventually get tired of it and say "I want to change my name" to your mother. BIG MISTAKE. At that point she'd do one of two things:

1. joke about it ("Would you rather be named Percy? Hahaha---oh Perrrrrcyyyy!") for the next 30 years.

2. go volcanic and jump up and down and tear her hair out, because being the little ingrate you are, you don't appreciate the wonderful euphonious name she picked for you!

 

So you turn 18, and you find out which judge in the county courthouse will OK a name change for you because you've picked the one you want: you'll be John Smith instead of Waldo Whifflefart. You proudly announce your name change to your mother, at which point she'll do one of two things:

1. make the most pitiful face you ever saw, in an effort to melt your heart and guilt you into taking your old, dorky name back.

2. get all loud and tell you how God is going to put lightning up your butt for tarnishing the sacred Whifflefart family name (Dad may do this too).

 

Well, my name isn't Waldo Whifflefart, but I was almost driven to suicide by merciless taunting well into my 30s, and yes, my late mother used to go volcanic on me whenever I made the mistake of admitting in front of her that I wanted a legal name change. Taunters would get all sour and defensive when I told them I was going to change my name. My aunt was the one who told me God would put lightning up my butt if I changed my name. But for $375, I can do it myself without a lawyer.

 

I think parents (especially mothers) are too fetishistic about the whole name thing... I mean, you're still their kid. IMO kids should legally be allowed to go in front of a judge and pick the names they want, age limits be damned.

 

Because if you give your kid a name that he hates, he's going to go through life thinking that you never loved him as much as you should have. Take it from someone who was that kid.

 

I am stunned by the names some people give their kids - Apple, Coco, Merlin, etc. It is so cruel to those kids because we know kids are cruel and will tease kids for just about anything. I think parents forget about that.

 

I think if a kid turns 18 and wants their name changed - as long as it isn't something even more ridiculous - they should do it. They have to accept tho that they may never be called that name by their mom/dad/siblings.

 

It would be nice if people didn't name children off the wall names, but I guess what is ridiculous to me is perfect for someone else.

 

My ex and I agreed on our child's name - and we both agreed on his circumcision lol

[somedude81]

Is it possible to give a child a last name that is different from you own?

 

I want to name my first son, Ganondorf Onizuka.

[Disillusioned]

I think if a kid turns 18 and wants their name changed - as long as it isn't something even more ridiculous - they should do it.

 

Screw 18, they could have hanged themselves and been dead and forgotten by then. I think there should be no minimum age... after all, how many 6 yo's try to commit fraud?

 

Is it possible to give a child a last name that is different from you own?

 

I want to name my first son, Ganondorf Onizuka.

 

Believe it or not, Animal X (a costume designer), Love 22 (a toy maker), Spaceman Africa, and Crazy Horse Invincible (2 drinking buddies in the UK) are all real people.

 

Then there was the Korean immigrant in L.A. who couldn't figure out why people thought he was full of crap. His name was... Dung Hiep.

[Tayla]

Is it possible to give a child a last name that is different from you own?

 

I want to name my first son, Ganondorf Onizuka.

 

IN the USA its legal to give the child his own last name. HIs own first name and his own middle name.

Its also legal to request from the courts a name change. Barring any previous incarcerations or federal standings, a person is often granted the name change. Some folks have petitioned just exclamation (!) Be there name, how loony is that!! OOps I stuttered their name

 

DisIllussioned- Yes I can identify with the ridicule and how the family can re-act. At 18 you pay your own taxes have your own job and pretty much can be accountable for your actions, but try to take stand on a name change and suddenly the family makes your decision. Get the name change, be done with it and move on. Tell them you are using the new name as a stage name, gosh only knows movie stars and authors use pseudo names ...Same difference . Or really freak them out and tell them your next change is a gender one

[Disillusioned]

IN the USA its legal to give the child his own last name. HIs own first name and his own middle name.

Its also legal to request from the courts a name change. Barring any previous incarcerations or federal standings, a person is often granted the name change. Some folks have petitioned just exclamation (!)

 

Besides my name having been an object of public ridicule, a couple of years ago there was a credit crook with my same first and last name who lived only 3 miles from me. I used to occasionally get copies of his bad checks in my mail, and had to get on the phone with his creditors to prove I wasn't him.

 

About 4 years ago, before the bottom fell out of the jewelry market, I tried to sell my work through a national jewelry chain---and you guessed it, Mr. Credit Crook owed them money too!

 

DisIllussioned- Yes I can identify with the ridicule and how the family can re-act. At 18 you pay your own taxes have your own job and pretty much can be accountable for your actions, but try to take stand on a name change and suddenly the family makes your decision. Get the name change, be done with it and move on. Tell them you are using the new name as a stage name, gosh only knows movie stars and authors use pseudo names ...Same difference . Or really freak them out and tell them your next change is a gender one

 

Maybe I'm some kind of pathological lawf***er, but I just don't see the necessity of waiting until one is 18 before they get their brains. I was intelligent enough at 12 to know my name was a liability... but what does a bright kid do when surrounded by unintelligent adults who love to get into socking matches with each other? Remember, my late mother regularly threatened me with knives when I was little.

 

I don't understand why she was so attached to my old man's last name anyway, that lazy bum bailed when I was 5 and we never got a penny from him.

[florence of suburbia]

My mother gave both me and my brother names that are almost identical to very common names, but with a twist. There are at least three common names that my name resembles. It gets misspelled and mispronounced so often that I answer to almost anything that begins with the same letter.

 

It does have a strange psychological effect (but not so much re my relationship to my mother) to have teachers and coworkers and employers call me by the wrong name all my life. It has warped the way I perceive myself, I think, in relation to the way others perceive me. I identify with my name. But it feels like my identity is too much bother for people to get right. I'm a one-off, so they just stick me into a useful category of their choosing. It feels like being dismissed, and often, as though they think I've gotten my own name wrong!

 

Haha, that sounds so fraught. Mostly I just blow it off instead of dwelling on the above.

 

My brother's name is a common New Testament biblical name, but we're Jewish, so my mom spelled it differently. So if he's asked his name over the phone for business purposes, he has to say, my name is blank, but I spell it like this.

 

Just not very user friendly.

Edited March 6, 2011 by florence of suburbia

[Disillusioned]

I can only imagine how volcanic Jeremy's mother must have gone when her son became Spaceman Africa...

[SummersEve]

Disillusioned, I'm sorry but your original post had me laughing so hard I couldn't even breathe. You are very funny!

 

If you haven't done so already, I think you should pick out the most beautiful name you can think of and go for it!

 

I can relate, as you can see my name is Summer's Eve.

[Disillusioned]

Disillusioned, I'm sorry but your original post had me laughing so hard I couldn't even breathe. You are very funny!

 

I'm not that funny.

 

If you haven't done so already, I think you should pick out the most beautiful name you can think of and go for it!

 

I already have it picked out, but I'm not revealing it until I go through with the change. I'll say only that it's about the most unfunny name I could find, and it means "jail" in someone else's language... because I felt like I was in jail the whole time my knife-wielding mother made me suffer with it.

[ramoselynihassl]

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[JadedAmore]

I think parents (especially mothers) are too fetishistic about the whole name thing... I mean, you're still their kid. IMO kids should legally be allowed to go in front of a judge and pick the names they want, age limits be damned.

 

Because if you give your kid a name that he hates, he's going to go through life thinking that you never loved him as much as you should have. Take it from someone who was that kid.

 

Regardless of age? I would've probably named myself something silly when I was six, just because I could. I probably threatened that I'd change my name to PomPom.

 

In seriousness, I hated my name growing up. It's after a song, and I used to feel the person it described sounded like a homewrecking tramp (jeeze, thanks mom and dad). I just laugh it off now.

 

Good luck with the name change, as long as it's not too generic such as John Smith!

[Disillusioned]

Regardless of age? I would've probably named myself something silly when I was six, just because I could. I probably threatened that I'd change my name to PomPom.

 

In seriousness, I hated my name growing up. It's after a song, and I used to feel the person it described sounded like a homewrecking tramp (jeeze, thanks mom and dad). I just laugh it off now.

 

Good luck with the name change, as long as it's not too generic such as John Smith!

 

Well, I doubt you had a mother who used to go volcanic on you (or pull a knife on you if she was in a really bad mood).