DreamWeaver1 Posted March 5, 2011 Share Posted March 5, 2011 Hi I'm new and will try to make this short. I met my boyfriend almost 2 years ago when he lived in London and I was visiting(I'm Swiss). We hit it off immediately and spent a lovely month together(it was his last month living in London). We have an amazing connection and I feel as if we have known each other forever. We understand each other perfectly and when I speak with him I am so happy. When we met he was still living with his ex girlfriend. Since then I have moved to London and he is still in the Caribbean where he originally lived. In 2 years we have seen each other for a total of 3 months. We use bbm everyday and he calls everyday and we skype when possible with the time difference but lately work has taken a serious toll on him so he works late everyday and last year he cheated on me with the same ex girlfriend he lived with. They also see each other often as she lives in the same city. He confessed and I forgave him. Does this LDR even make sense and can we survive having only seen each other for 3 months in almost 2 years? Link to post Share on other sites
sammyd Posted March 5, 2011 Share Posted March 5, 2011 Hi and welcome to LS:) It's gonna be difficult to make this work. When are you planning on seeing each other again? Will he go back to London? There's also the issue with the ex, i think it could be a big trust issue, and sounds like maybe there's still something going on there. It could work, but you'd both have to be willing to put in the effort. Link to post Share on other sites
folieadeux Posted March 6, 2011 Share Posted March 6, 2011 I wouldn't be concerned with the number of visits here...the fact that he cheated on you and is still having contact with this girl should be the main concern. He obviously doesn't have the same level of committment as you do and I would move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted March 6, 2011 Share Posted March 6, 2011 He obviously doesn't have the same level of committment as you do and I would move on. Agree ^ I hope he's not still in contact with his ex after confessing. He's not worth years of your life if he is. Link to post Share on other sites
CycleOfLove Posted March 6, 2011 Share Posted March 6, 2011 Wow ! so he cheated on you with his ex and you forgave him & got back together with him ? Let me remind you its a long distance relationship and its based on commintemnt and trust. if he cheated on you before, what stops him from cheating on you again? Link to post Share on other sites
creighton0123 Posted March 7, 2011 Share Posted March 7, 2011 3 months over 2 years in an LDR is just fine. Hell, 1 week in two years can be just fine for some couples in an LDR. Your bigger concerns are two fold: 1. How he approaches the relationship 2. When the distance will end. If you don't see an end to the distance, why are you doing this to yourself? Link to post Share on other sites
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