Full of Doubt

[fullofdoubt]

My fiance and i have been together for 4 years now. 1 1/2 of those were long distance. we've been living together now for about a year. I proposed to her in december. Lately i've been having lots of doubts as to whether or not this is what i want to do. Im a very independent person and i feel like i'll miss my independence. I stay up a night wondering if im making a huge mistake, then i wonder if i bring it up and we break up, if ill regret it forever. She's really done nothing wrong, she's been great for the most part, but i feel like she's always wanting me to change. like she's find some flaw and work on it until that's fixed then she's fine for a while until she finds something else. she also requires a lot of affection, but i require very little so that causes rifts sometimes. but lately i dont even want to have sex with her. she recently started working at home as do i. so were around each other like 24/7 which i dont think caused these feelings but it certainly doesnt help. i've been having these feelings off and on now since we got engaged, they're just getting more and more consuming lately. what should i do? is this normal?

[StevieJanowski]

Dude......I have never proposed but you're feelings toward your girl sound remarkably similar to mine. I find it harder and harder to motivate myself for sex.....and it is not something physically wrong on my end. I love her and she has never been untrue or unloving to me. She is a beautiful girl too. More attractive than some girls who at this moment I am more sexually attracted to than her....if that makes any sense.

 

I see you mentioned the flaw of your girl being that she tries to change you. I wish I had something that obvious to point out with mine....but she is just a truly good person. Only real problems we've ever had have been over jealousy by her...which in reality I brought on myself by flirting with co-workers and customers in my work. Never anything physical but it led to a few texts/emails sometimes and of course any girl with common sense would say something.

 

The text/emails usually involved me telling the other girls I was in a relationship and not a cheater...but I admitted to my girl that a big part of me was very attracted to them and wanted to take advantage.

 

How long has your sex life been going downhill? It is hard for me to tell because despite my girl being attractive I have never had that "gotta have sex with you feeling" with her. I can't even point to a particular reason. I just haven't.

 

We have never even had sex two times in a row. Something that..

A)She has expressed desire to do

B)I have easily done with other women

 

I feel your pain and indecision(no homo lol).

 

Just the other night a little cutie(probably 21)gave me her number and we exchanged texts the past day or so. Driving me absolutely nuts. I want to ask her to meet me for a drink with every ounce of my being. But I cannot flat out cheat like that. I have to come to some sort of resolution first.

 

Good luck to you in your decisions too.