Sarabina Posted March 6, 2011 Share Posted March 6, 2011 My parents and I have very different values and world views. We disagree on everything and so we are always arguing. My parents are very religious, traditional and conservative; they are also very racist and sexist. I am an atheist and I am a very liberal and progressive person I go to University, but right now it is impossible for me to move out. I have to stay at home for at least another 3-4 years, so moving out is completely out of the question. My question is – How do I maintain peace in the house when my parents and I disagree on everything? Should I just nod my head politely when they say something? Should I just pretend to agree with them, in order to maintain the peace? Taking to my parents in a mature way is also out of the question – whenever I say something too them that they don’t agree with they start shouting and calling me names (everything from bit*h to wh*re) WHAT SHOULD I DO TOO MAINTIN THE PEACE IN MY HOUSE? Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted March 6, 2011 Share Posted March 6, 2011 A simple statement of: "I gather you have a passionate view on that" One- it acknowledges their view without agreeing or disagreeing. two- It gives you an out to have to tolerate the further narrow minded remarks. Most folks who are mature and willing to hear even the most bizzare viewpoints are said to be patient and attentive without being emotionally tied to the statement. I work with a fellow who is an extreme racist and he is a preacher at his bible thumping church. I, one day, said the simple statement above and it stopped him in his ranting phase as if someone finally listened and took it to a different level, a level of I hear what your saying and you have a conviction. Nothing more nothing less. SInce then he has toned down his remarks ....its worth a shot! Link to post Share on other sites
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