ludachris Posted March 7, 2011 Share Posted March 7, 2011 I just broke up with the love of my life. It hurts so much I love her so much and I just broke up with her because I look past everything I love about her and I just realize her mistakes. I did treat her great throughout our 7 month relationship, but I would get mad at her for a lot of small things... and I would get mad and jealous a lot because she has a lot of guy friends, including her ex bf as one of them. About 2 months in our relationship we went on a break because our relationship was having issues...this was a mutual break up. i still like her but at this time i was not in love with her. So this was hard for me but i thought we would eventually get back together. During our break she went to my friends party while i was out of town and they messed around.....This tore me apart...i couldnt eat a lot for a couple of weeks and i just felt horrible. I told her I wanted nothing to do with her anymore and i didnt talk to her for about two weeks...after the two weeks i decided i still wanted her in my life and we became close again, and started going out again about a month later. During this time i pretty much broke up with her two times because i still had the thought of her messing around with my friend, but the break ups only lasted a day if even that. After that our relationship was pretty much smooth sailing....except for one thing. Her ex bf is her best friend. I knew from the beginning about this but i still have not been able to completley get over it. Well just recently she was going to go to mardi gras and stay over there for the weekend and see her ex bf because he goes to lsu. And this made me sad but i told her it was okay for her to go. Her friends said there was not enough room for her so she decided she would drive on her own, but she ended up still not being able to go because she needed more money but couldnt get it. I was hurt because when she found out she had to go on her own she didnt even invite me. When she found out she couldnt go she called her ex immediatly, in front of me, and told him she couldnt go and he got mad at her for not sounding sad enough. This made me jealous because he is treating her like she is his gf because he is getting mad at her for a stupid reason like that. Idk....i just get jealous for stupid reasons. Well two days after that we are talking about which college to transfer to and i told her that i might go to texas tech but i would rather go to utd which is a university near where we live so i could see her more often. But she told me that she should not play a factor in where i go and she told me she wants me to go to tech. and i told her she should play a factor because she is family to me and she is important to me, but she said that she should not play a role at all in my decision for which university to transfer to. This made me feel like she wasnt taking our relationship as serious as i was....so i said well if you want me to go off to a far away university than why are we even still together if we are just gonna break up when i leave to transfer over there? so i broke up with her just than....and since than she wont even talk to me. she tells me how i hurt her so bad and how i must not love her if i just broke up with her. But its only been a day since i have broken up with her and i miss her so much. I dont want anybody else i just want her...she is the love of my life, she is everything to me. But i feel like i wont be able to get her back because now she is ignoring me and wants nothing to do with me....It just hurts so bad and im hoping it will eventually work out... sorry it was so long i just needed to get some of this off my chest...she is so important to me and it sucks that i did this to her....i wish i could take it back. Link to post Share on other sites
Hilary0011 Posted March 7, 2011 Share Posted March 7, 2011 that's my own opinion, contact me if you are interested Link to post Share on other sites
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timchambo Posted March 7, 2011 Share Posted March 7, 2011 This girl sounds like trouble man. I don't see this ending well. She doesn't sound like she takes you guys serious either. Also sounds like she knows she has you by the balls. Whenever she gets mad she knows you will crawl back. Just like when she messed around with your friend you came back. I don't think she respects you very much. Sorry to sound so harsh, but I think your gut reaction was probably correct. Maybe ask her what she wants out of you guys when she chills out a bit. Hopefully she is honest. I would also find out more about the ex-bf dynamic. She was gonna go see him without you, and didn't even invite. This doesn't sound like a just friends RL with him. You can love a lot about someone, but if their character is poor, whats the point in a RL with that person? There was a lot to love about my ex of 7 years, but she eventually showed her true colors. She wanted a break to be "single". She immediately starts pursuing another guy so I told her to F off. It was clear what her intentions were. Turns out she was like this for a long time and I just never knew about it till now. this was just over 2 months ago. She disgusts me when I think about her now. Best of luck man Link to post Share on other sites
Author ludachris Posted March 7, 2011 Author Share Posted March 7, 2011 timchambo thank you so much for your response...it made me think a lot. im sorry to hear about you and your gf...its tough going through something like this but i know i will get over it. You are right maybe she does not have a lot of respect for me in which case this relationship would not end well...so maybe i did make the right decision breaking up with her....it just hurts so much and i miss her so much. i dont even want to try to talk to other girls right now because i just want her. Link to post Share on other sites
Layzie89 Posted March 7, 2011 Share Posted March 7, 2011 Just by what you've told us ludachris, clearly this girl has some hidden agenda. Best friends with an ex? Red flag!!! She messed around with him while you two were on break? Red flag! She's stil talking to him AND making plans to see him WITHOUT YOU??? RED FLAG!!! Don't let this **** slide man... This girls personality sounds a lot like my ex gf. My gut feeling is telling me that your girlfriend has actually been waiting for a reason to break up. She's ignoring you because now she has no obligation to you. She's telling you that you hurt her and you don't love her for breaking up with her to make herself feel better about the emotional affair she's been having. I also don't see why she was so hesitant about having you transfer to a college that was closer to her...if anyone really wanted a relationship to work out wouldn't they want their spouse to be as available as can be? Doesn't make sense man... The way your ex is acting reminds me of mine...and as much as I love my ex...the truth is she's cheated on me multiple times, emotional affairs left and right, simply put she's a snake man. A really really poisonous snake that you don't want to tango with. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ludachris Posted March 8, 2011 Author Share Posted March 8, 2011 layzie your most likely right man, but it sucks having a girl like that and letting yourself fall in love with her. thanks for the response knowing that other people have gone through something like this makes me feel better and helps me realize i made the right choice by breaking up with her. Link to post Share on other sites
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