deckoff Posted March 7, 2011 Share Posted March 7, 2011 I am in a real time-out situation. I have been living with a girl since last October, after we met two months before that. She left the city where she used to live(500km away from here) all of her life and came to live at my house. She is a young medical doctor, and I helped her find a job in a hospital where she wanted to. Everything was just like in the fairly tales. Then, in the 4th month of our relationship, the problems begun... She is very jealous. She was angry with my parents coming every once in a while, with my registrations in adult sites, she was accusing me of all sins possible and so on. I agreed to everything she wanted, and thought everything passed, but she begun urging me to propose her since 14.02.2010(yes 2010). I felt scared, because a hurricane just passed, and another one was coming. I was forced to give promises which I never really meant just to stop her from screaming. 14.02 passed, her birthday, even Christmas. She decided that it is time for us to move to her city, because she does not like her job in the hospital, and want to return to the hospital , where she worked when she was studying medicine. I had to quit my job, although I earn really well ( for the standards here, have a company car and so on. In her city there is no clear perspective for me and even for her, she is promised a job, but the signing of papers is always postponed... Meanwhile, I dated with a colleague of mine for a 3 months( no sex, but I went to drink coffee in the afternoons for a few times). When she understood, she was furious. I was forced to promise that I will buy a ring for this St Valentine's day. I didn't do it. She decided it is time for her to dump me, but after a few days only, she made her mind... She told me it is time for me to buy her a ring for the 8th of March. I told her we have to speak on the 7th for our relationship, and told her that I will pre-pay a diamond ring, if everything goes well for at least 2 weeks. She told me it is a no go , and I should call her tomorrow at 8:00 GMT to tell her if we are going to break up or to engage. She is really sweet, when she is sweet, she is really beautiful and clever, but when she is angry she is hell on earth. What should I do, I have only a few hours to decide, and I am still undecided If I propose, I should leave my house, my job, my family does not support her very much, and should go live in her city, she does not have an own house there, no job at the moment. ANy ideas... Link to post Share on other sites
UnsureinSeattle Posted March 7, 2011 Share Posted March 7, 2011 Look- how do you think a marriage is going to work if she's already giving you ultimatums? It's not worth derailing your career and life for her. Live for yourself and find a partner, not a boss. Link to post Share on other sites
denise_xo Posted March 7, 2011 Share Posted March 7, 2011 That all sounds like a recipe for disaster. You can do better. Link to post Share on other sites
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