Confused and hurt...

[princess75]

I feel I am lucky but I am confused...

 

This is my current situation.

I have left dating the second guy I was dating with for no more than 1 month. He is nice and understands the truth.

Truth is I am still in love with my ex bf...who has been with another gal and now since 1 month or more wants to come back with me.

My ex and I are trying but I don't trust him, even though he is doing all he can to gain the trust ...now we have reached that point where I have to change my behavior of mistrusting him at all times and telling him in the face "he cheated" etc... but, I am confused.

The real situation is he has not officially broken up with that gal, and it makes me sad. They have not met nor seen since over a month but I have continuously asked him to tell her the truth which is he loves me and wants to try with me. He said why should he? Now that gals situation is as follows, she is not in love with him, but she is in bed from a heart operation. SHe is with 20 stitches on her chest. So he feels sorry to tell her. He has not gone to see her since after the operation. I have asked him to do so, but he says she doesn't want to see him unless it is unofficial. This means he should come to her when no one is around from her family members, she is basically hiding him from parents and brothers. SO he says he doesn't want to see her because she will think their relationship is still on, and there is no point of friendship if that gal does not want others to know him. Also he says why should he officially break up when she herself does not talk so much to him and etc. I just don't understand this situation.

Well, I have still asked him to make official his love for me, but he has not..I mean he has with his friends and family but not with those people (that gal and her friends)

I am confused, one part of me wants to make it work. And want to give it time. One part of me says I don't trust him and he is putting me in a lose lose situation.

I don't know what to do cause I used to trust him a lot but now after all he did I have lost it...and wonder if I should hang on to see if it comes back.

 

Another thing, should I tell him we should be just friends..and see if it would work out? Should I be there and keep being annoying (which I don't like? ) Is he the one who has to do something?

 

Well, another thing, he goes crazy if I hang out with other guys. It is like he cannot tolerate it.

I don't know, is there any suggestions?

Should I work on it?

Should I let go?

 

What should I do..I am confused...and hurt.

[dixiepix]

You seem to be in quite the predicament. I assume you are certain that this gal is really in the hospital with heart problems. If this is truly the case, I do understand your bf stand on not going to see her. However, I understand yours as well. I would wait until she is recuperated enough for him to break it off with her before I set myself up for a possible letdown. If he is serious about getting back together, he will do what is necessary at the appropriate time. In the meanwhile, I would continue to hang out with whomever I choose regardless of how he acts. He chooses not to break it off with this girl for whatever the reason. He cheated to begin with. It comes down to a matter of when he has taken care of breaking up with his current gf then the two of you can discuss where your relationship stands.