OWoman Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 Yeah, people who bathe NEVER get sick. Didn't ya'all know that? How does this relate to my post? It quoted my post, so I'm assuming it was responding to it in some way....? Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 Having sex with ANYONE can expose you to lurgies if you don't practice safer sex and take the necessary precautions. Having sex can expose you even if you have safer sex and take necessary precautions. Safer sex is not 100% protective. Safer sex precautions would not be reassuring enough for me to share a man with another woman (esp if I had no relationship with her, and no way of knowing how safe HER sexual habits are). I'd sooner share her hairbrush Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 How does this relate to my post? It quoted my post, so I'm assuming it was responding to it in some way....? The claim was made that taking care of personal hygiene and exercising precludes the possibility of any negative impact from sleeping with people who are sleeping with other people. That's not true. I was simply trying to point that out in a playful, funny kinda way. It's Friday, and I'm happier on Fridays. Tend to joke around more. I'm sorry if you didn't find it funny. Link to post Share on other sites
trinity1 Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 Having sex can expose you even if you have safer sex and take necessary precautions. Safer sex is not 100% protective. Safer sex precautions would not be reassuring enough for me to share a man with another woman (esp if I had no relationship with her, and no way of knowing how safe HER sexual habits are). I'd sooner share her hairbrush :sick: I guess your kids haven't had head lice as frequently as mine. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 I guess your kids haven't had head lice as frequently as mine. True, we haven't ever had lice--even having welcomed dozens of children to share our dress-up box over the years! Lucky, I guess. But my point is that, given the choice, I'd take my chances with lice over, say, HSV (incurable, and not fully preventable with safer sex precautions). Not to mention, if you are sharing a man with a woman who has lice, you will probably get the lice thru him without ever touching her hairbrush! Whether it is head lice or pubic lice (crabs--also not fully preventable with safer sex), he's probably going to contract it and pass it on Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jonah Posted March 11, 2011 Author Share Posted March 11, 2011 Sorry, but that's just... gross! I'm sure most of us don't wear other people's underwear, or use their toothbrushes... So ah OWoman, what was you using for a toothbrush I wonder? (don't take it as mean, I love ya OW... but you are a fun one!) Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 The claim was made that taking care of personal hygiene and exercising precludes the possibility of any negative impact from sleeping with people who are sleeping with other people. That's not true. I was simply trying to point that out in a playful, funny kinda way. It's Friday, and I'm happier on Fridays. Tend to joke around more. I'm sorry if you didn't find it funny. Not sure who made that claim, but it certainly wasn't me: I guess that would be more of a worry for those with dubious personal hygiene. I'm clean, and I test regularly and keep an eye on my physical condition so I know I don't have anything to pass on to anyone else. I take responsibility for my own health and I'm a responsible sexual partner. I accept that not everybody does this, which is why that kind of up-close exposure gives me the higgly-jigglies. so I'm not sure why my post was quoted! I clearly stated, in bold, that I'm free of infection (ie, "clean"), and that I test regularly (full range of tests) and keep an eye on my physical condition, so I'd notice any symptoms as soon as they arrived. What that has to do with exercising or bathing, I've no idea... And no, I don't find it funny to have risks like HIV infection reduced to jokes about "force fields" - perhaps because I've lost too many friends to AIDS to think that it's something to trivialise. Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 So ah OWoman, what was you using for a toothbrush I wonder? (don't take it as mean, I love ya OW... but you are a fun one!) My own. Shocking, I know but I do actually own a toothbrush of my own... Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 Having sex can expose you even if you have safer sex and take necessary precautions. Safer sex is not 100% protective. Safer sex precautions would not be reassuring enough for me to share a man with another woman (esp if I had no relationship with her, and no way of knowing how safe HER sexual habits are). I agree with this. This is why I've always been very picky about my sexual partners, my sexual health practices and my own sexual health. It's not just about using condoms. I'd sooner share her hairbrush I wouldn't share her hairbrush, nor her body fluids (second-hand or otherwise). If she's not good enough for me to have sex with, she's not good enough for me to have sex with second-hand. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 And no, I don't find it funny to have risks like HIV infection reduced to jokes about "force fields" - perhaps because I've lost too many friends to AIDS to think that it's something to trivialise. Of course I didn't intend it that way, but of course you would like to make it appear so. Back to the topic at hand - I'm sure there are many folks in an A situation that would LOVE to have their AP's BS "accidentally" find out about the A. In fact, I know of a gal back in WA I used to be friends with who eventually admitted to me she was in an A with a married guy. I tried to reason with her about the inevitable fallout, but she was going to do whatever she wanted, heedless of the possibilities. She "accidentally" left a pair of earrings in his car, hoping the BS would find them. Fortunately, she didn't, and my EX friend finally got out of that situation unscathed. Link to post Share on other sites
Jane Deaux Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 No. I don't do any of those things. Nor do I get offended when he has to "shower my scent off". But he loves my scent and tells me he misses it. He doesn't ask me to not wear perfume or not do anything else. I was the one that told him I would always try not to scratch him. I don't remember your other questions but I'm sure I don't do anything else to intentionally get noticed. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 Sorry, but that's just... gross! I'm sure most of us don't wear other people's underwear, or use their toothbrushes, or rinse and use their used sanitary products. Even using someone else's shower can transmit their athlete's foot to you, so why would you purposefully want to expose yourself to whatever lurgies they have to pass on? Oh no, misunderstanding here.. I meant hairbrush, not toothbrush! Do alot of people have athlete's foot? Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 Oh no, misunderstanding here.. I meant hairbrush, not toothbrush! Do alot of people have athlete's foot? I've no idea - but it's pretty contagious... and another reason I hate changing rooms at the gym! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jonah Posted March 11, 2011 Author Share Posted March 11, 2011 My own. Shocking, I know but I do actually own a toothbrush of my own... Miss clean and pure, Don't you know its not good for you to swallow the toothpaste? Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 Miss clean and pure, Don't you know its not good for you to swallow the toothpaste? Only if you use fluoride. Herbal toothpaste is quite safe. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jonah Posted March 11, 2011 Author Share Posted March 11, 2011 I've no idea Not knowing your story, but from reading this thread, you know that you had your MM all to yourself from the get go. With that one could make sense of your posts here in this thread. Somehow the BS found out... sorry, I missed the thread there, but did you help that dday along? Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 Not knowing your story, but from reading this thread, you know that you had your MM all to yourself from the get go. With that one could make sense of your posts here in this thread. Somehow the BS found out... sorry, I missed the thread there, but did you help that dday along? There was no dday. He told her he was leaving, and did. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jonah Posted March 11, 2011 Author Share Posted March 11, 2011 Only if you use fluoride. Herbal toothpaste is quite safe. durrrn, why didn't I think of that! outwitted by the OWoman. Can anyone best her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jonah Posted March 11, 2011 Author Share Posted March 11, 2011 There was no dday. He told her he was leaving, and did. Well if it was just like that, like a clean switch, than I don't think you qualify for the moniker "OWoman". May we suggest some monikers better suited to you? Link to post Share on other sites
worlybear Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 I know. Fortunately (and unfortunately), she is the least suspicious or jealous person I've ever met, and he says she's always been that way...and until now, never had a reason not to trust him. I don't know if it's a defense mechanism or she truly trusts him that much. And knowing her.......you betray her! How do you function with that huge weight on your conscience? Link to post Share on other sites
fooled once Posted March 12, 2011 Share Posted March 12, 2011 Sorry, but that's just... gross! I'm sure most of us don't wear other people's underwear, or use their toothbrushes, or rinse and use their used sanitary products. Even using someone else's shower can transmit their athlete's foot to you, so why would you purposefully want to expose yourself to whatever lurgies they have to pass on? Gross. Why would you even bring these things up? No one brought up wearing someone elses underwear or rinsing and reusing used sanitary products. How vile. Donna, Even the cleanest people get disease and germs. If a person has many affairs with many MM, something from the past may come back to haunt a person. Many disease remain doormat for years. Just never know Link to post Share on other sites
frenchiefun Posted March 12, 2011 Share Posted March 12, 2011 My second favourite part of my MM is the back of his beautiful smooth brown neck, and it's very hard for me at times not to bite him there...however I would never intentionally leave a mark on him. He's never asked me not to wear perfume. I keep his favourite body spray and aftershave at my place to use, before he goes home. I've been to his house on numerous occasions when his wife is away, and while it is interesting to see how he lives with her, I have never "forgotten" anything, or left any sort of hint that someone else had been there. Smacks of desperation to me, and desperate is something I'm not. Link to post Share on other sites
Summer Breeze Posted March 12, 2011 Share Posted March 12, 2011 Nothing was ever intentionally done but he did have a mark on one wrist from restraints and another time at one point he moved one way and I moved another and he ended up with a cut on the end of his penis. Both were easily visible and he didn't do anything to hide any of it. We never were together when we weren't there for a couple of nights so we both showered before setting off for home or work or wherever we were headed. His clothes smelled of my perfume and he liked my shampoo so he normally had that scent on him as well. One of the ddays came from her smelling my perfume on his coat and she knew it was me and called to ask if we were seeing each other again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jonah Posted March 12, 2011 Author Share Posted March 12, 2011 Smacks of desperation to me, and desperate is something I'm not. No, not like that, not something completely obvious but more subtle. I've been to his house on numerous occasions when his wife is away.... Though you may not have left your panties behind, wouldn't you consider your being there the same thing? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jonah Posted March 12, 2011 Author Share Posted March 12, 2011 One of the ddays came from her smelling my perfume on his coat and she knew it was me and called to ask if we were seeing each other again. Did you cover for him? Link to post Share on other sites
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