Does he want me or not?

[purplepanda]

I posted pretty much the same thing for how to get over him, but i just have to know someone else's opinion about him/us.

 

Last June we met through a mutual friend (who stabbed me in the back several times in the past and after that). He had a girlfriend of a long period of time, but we were both getting over someone who knew how to hurt us pretty badly. We became pretty good friends.

 

Six months later, I got a cell phone and we talked more. I had a boyfriend, he was single, he's 18 and I'm 17. He suggested that we be more than friends, but he said he didn't want a relationship. I knew there was chemistry and I was kind of bored with a routine relationship, so I broke that off. We met up a lot and hung out, had sex...

 

We texted constantly, day to night, and we admitted feelings for each other. He'd admit things to me, things that I'd never say to him, like "When we have sex, it means more each time, I really care about you." We live 40 miles apart.

 

In the beginning of this "friends with benefits" thing, we agreed we weren't going to date. On Super Bowl Sunday, he said he was in love with me. I didn't confess the same thing. A few days later, he tells me that no, we're not going to date. I was so confused...

 

After he said he loved me but refused to be my boyfriend, all we did was fight. Over stupid things, like I said the name of his future clothing company reminded me of something funny, and he said "Go away, you're pissing me off." In person he said he's defensive because "that was how he was raised". But I've been feeling for a while now that he's trampling all over me. He demands so much of me, and yet it's not enough. When he would ask if I could get a cover so we could hang out, I'd say, "Maybe.." He'd get angry at me.

 

So much of the time he acts like he's so lonely and I'm the only thing that can cure him of that, but he WILL NOT be my boyfriend. Now I'm not allowed to date him or see him because I would sneak away to meet him; I even drove to see him and I can't have a car anymore.

 

He got back with his ex almost two weeks ago, and last time I talked to him was four or five days ago. I've been having a lot of family issues, partly because I'd do almost anything to be with him, and I was sent away for a few days. When I talked about it, he acted like he didn't even care, all he said was "me and (insert name here) are pretty happy." He then said, Not that I don't care about you... I replied with, not unkindly, Well sometimes you just care more about someone. He got all huffy and mad because he couldn't understand what I was saying, I was talking quietly, and I said, "Sorry... Also, I know that you're not right for me." He told me I was being stupid, then hung up.

 

I haven't talked to him since. He's been texting my friend all weekend, asking how I was, and she made him feel bad and told him I won't talk to him anymore cause he treats me like crap. He told her he's already sick of that girl he got back with; they broke up last night.

 

I almost started crying right there, also because over the weekend he told her how he almost had sex with someone else (I was his first...).

 

He STILL is telling my friend, "I thought I wanted to be with her, but I don't know now."

 

But he texts her EVERY SINGLE DAY and asks how I'm doing...

Does he want me or not??