darth_han Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 She ended it. We had only been together for 2 and a half months, but I am so in love with her it hurts. Our relationship got serious very fast. So fast it scared both of us. But we let it happen and we were both happy. Unfortunately, like every relationship before this one, I screwed up. I lied to her and she broke up with me. It wasn't a huge lie, I didn't tell her about a past fling I had. I love her with everything that I am and I need to be with her. But, I don't know what to do to get her to forgive me and take me back. Can anyone give me advice on what to do? Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 I don't know her but I would say that once you're in love, past flings shouldn't matter so much. In two and a half months, a relationship shouldn't be so intense. Too much too quickly is just as bad as too little too slowly... I am guessing that what happened was: you projected an image of undying faithfulness and adoration for 2 and a half months straight, and then reality set in - the reality that you weren't born loving her, or whatever. This total contradiction then scared the sense into her and she realized that the relationship was too good to be true and perhaps feared that it must all be a lie--that your deep feelings for her were mostly lust & puppy love. Depending on this story about the past fling, perhaps she is discovering you have a history of being a bit fickle in this regard. my advise is that you re-evaluate the nature of your attachment to this woman and suggest to her that if she's willing to forgive you for the fib (that you told only because of your love for her!) then you will be happy to resume a less-intense version of the relatinoship on more honest terms. It is also possible that she was looking for a reason to break up with you unrelated to this incident (but perhaps related to your apparent "need" for her and inability to function properly without her), and used your lie as an excuse. Needy men are a huge turn-off. Link to post Share on other sites
lost_in_chgo Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 three months is a trial period. many relationships break up at that point when the intial attraction starts to settle down. Learn from your mistakes and move on. Be better for the next time. Link to post Share on other sites
Care2 Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Wait... If you have been honest with her and explained your reason, that is all you can do. It is up to her now. Know that you have a lot of company on this forum. c Link to post Share on other sites
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