Darkangelism Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Ok, well i feel like giving up on girls altogether. Its not that the last one was any different, its just that why try when i already know that i will get rejected, the pain simply isnt worth it anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
reasontosigh Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 April Fools' Day is tomorrow, dude. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Only the wrong ones reject you. Link to post Share on other sites
reasontosigh Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Hokey's right. Not like you to sound so defeatist, DA. What's up? Bad day at school? Link to post Share on other sites
tattoomytoe Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 girls-and guys, are like parking spaces: the good ones are alraedy taken or are handicapped! Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 don't give up, DA -- you might find her tomorrow, you might find her a year or two down the road. But, you will find her ... in the meantime, enjoy meeting people! Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 DA, do NOT give up! I know it's got to be rough sticking your neck out there, but the right person WILL come along. It usually happens when you least expect it. I know you are frustrated now, but just hang in there!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
miz_barby Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 You shouldn't think so negatively!! They say you attract what you put out! If you continue to think that you will be rejected you may just be putting out vibes saying that you're not really into trying! Anyway you will find someone soon...don't look so much and before you know you're dream person may cross your path! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkangelism Posted March 31, 2004 Author Share Posted March 31, 2004 Originally posted by reasontosigh Hokey's right. Not like you to sound so defeatist, DA. What's up? Bad day at school? i got rejected by the girl i like. Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 that sux, Da-ism... but least she didn't string you along... -yes Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkangelism Posted March 31, 2004 Author Share Posted March 31, 2004 Yeah thats true, it could have been worse, its not really that bad, im just really frustrated, cause everytime i think somebody likes me i am always wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
meanon Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Is this the girl you were going to ask out who it turns out has a bf? If so she did not reject you, she just isn't free. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkangelism Posted March 31, 2004 Author Share Posted March 31, 2004 yes, so i didnt get rejected really, doesnt feel that much better though, cause i still cant have her. Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Originally posted by Darkangelism Ok, well i feel like giving up on girls altogether. Its not that the last one was any different, its just that why try when i already know that i will get rejected, the pain simply isnt worth it anymore. It is all too easy to meet the wrong people in life. Do not give up on women entirely. It might be a better idea to stop actively seeking a partner, and focus on yourself. Time will pass, and new people will come into your life. Hey, it worked for me. After a while you will risk rejection again, no doubt. So say "Phooey!" to women for now, if you need to, and come back to it later. Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 such is life. let yourself be upset for a while, then look for another gal who looks interesting. a good strategy is to find out if she's single ASAP, before you have the time to get used to liking her & all. similarly, best to ask her out or at least begin to spend time with her early on so that you don't build illusions. good luck, -yes Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkangelism Posted March 31, 2004 Author Share Posted March 31, 2004 Yes i waited just a bit long to find out if she was single, she was when i first liked her too. Link to post Share on other sites
meanon Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 yes, so i didnt get rejected really, doesnt feel that much better though, cause i still cant have her. Yes that's disappointing. But you turned it into a rejection so it made you feel so much worse than it should: why try when i already know that i will get rejected, the pain simply isnt worth it anymore everytime i think somebody likes me i am always wrong. These are really negative things to think about yourself when there is no evidence that they are true. Also why did you get so hung up on this girl before you even knew that she is free? Did you wait too long to ask her because you were nervous so the feelings grew? DA you've posted in the past about asking girls out. You know we all think you are great and that these girls are mad to let you slip through their fingers . If you expect rejection in life then that's by and large what you will get. It becomes a self fulfilling prophesy. Work on being more confident. Don't repeat these negative thoughts to yourself, replace them with positive ones. Expect success and you will get it, if not the first time then soon. Get to know the girls much sooner, before you become too attached to them so that it doesn't hurt so much if it doesn't work out. You have female friends - ask them for tuition!! I used to have to do it for my male friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkangelism Posted March 31, 2004 Author Share Posted March 31, 2004 Well its not just her specifically, thats just a trigger, the last few girls have been real tough on me, she wasnt that tough, more just brought back the flood of what i was holding back. I do have a problem with getting attached quick. I would ask my female friends to help me cept they have mostly male friends. Link to post Share on other sites
meanon Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 the last few girls have been real tough on me Well then they are she devils from Hell . Rant about them, get it out of your system - watch out for turning the reaction inward so you feel bad about yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Originally posted by Darkangelism yes, so i didnt get rejected really, doesnt feel that much better though, cause i still cant have her. Maybe not now, maybe not her...there WILL be others. Please, please, please try to take your mind off of finding someone...engage in some hobbies or something. It's just fascinating how when you are completely NOT looking for it, it happens. Trust me! Link to post Share on other sites
reasontosigh Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Your PM box is full. Yours truly, Just Another She-Devil From Hell Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Originally posted by faux It is all too easy to meet the wrong people in life. Do not give up on women entirely. It might be a better idea to stop actively seeking a partner, and focus on yourself. Time will pass, and new people will come into your life. Hey, it worked for me. After a while you will risk rejection again, no doubt. So say "Phooey!" to women for now, if you need to, and come back to it later. Exactly, Faux. I think when you are not preoccupied with finding someone, that's when it happens. For some reason, it's as if people are attracted to someone that's questionable about whether or not they are available. People who are eager and easy to catch aren't as appealing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkangelism Posted March 31, 2004 Author Share Posted March 31, 2004 Originally posted by reasontosigh Your PM box is full. Yours truly, Just Another She-Devil From Hell fixed Link to post Share on other sites
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