love no more Posted March 14, 2011 Share Posted March 14, 2011 p { margin-bottom: 0.08in; } I want to know if others have been through this type of experience, and how did it affect your life. I'm the oldest child and I have siblings that are many years younger than me. When I was in junior high, my siblings father took off and I was forced to become an adult. I had to take care of them, because our mother was out getting drunk and being the town tramp. I don't want to count how many times I got up for school and see some different guy trying to sneak out the door. I had no life growing up, only a couple of friends, and my only escape was church. I could go to the football game, but I had to go home right afterwards because mom was dressed and ready to find a new lay for the night. I don't hate my mother, I just have no respect for her. I think that having to be a grown up at such a young age affected me in ways that I'm not sure I understand. I have been down roads of destruction and survived. Now that I'm a lot older, I feel like I wasted many years of my life just drifting along and not trying to do anything with them. I need a way to restart my life and get back into dating again. I'm looking for ideas. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted March 14, 2011 Share Posted March 14, 2011 I don't really speak about my past but yes I grew up too quickly. The main downside was I was a bit of a doormat for a while. I didn't take it to the blinding levels I read about on this site but emotionally I can relate to a lot of stuff here. I didn't forgive my Mum until she was on her death bed. Other than this I think I have been unusually driven by my experiences in terms of how I follow my faith and my absolute determination to create a good life. I simply don't give up. Dealing with my anger was a major part of my healing. Mostly my anger was an inward experience and it nearly drove me crazy. This was tackled over a number of years through key transitions too numerous to note! Is the main thing for you dating then? Who do you typically date? Take care, Eve x Link to post Share on other sites
JVWood Posted March 14, 2011 Share Posted March 14, 2011 I don't think you should dwell on your past and how you think you wasted many years of your life. The past and years you thought to be wasted is what made you the person you are now. The important thing is that now you realized what you have done then, now you should focus on how to make up those years and live your life by dating and doing what you want in general. As life is unpredictable at times, at least you'll know to yourself that you've done what you wanted and be satisfied, rather than clinging on old thing that doesn't matter anymore. I was a little like that a few years back, but upon realizing that, my life and the way i perceive things is totally better now. Link to post Share on other sites
vvjack Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 I think that having to be a grown up at such a young age affected me in ways that I'm not sure I understand. I have been down roads of destruction and survived. Now that I'm a lot older, I feel like I wasted many years of my life just drifting along and not trying to do anything with them. I need a way to restart my life and get back into dating again. I'm looking for ideas. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
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