How do I forget the one person I love?

[vicky1412]

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Have you ever met someone whom at instant sight you just felt a strong attraction to? Well I did. The first time I saw him al I could do was smile. It was strange because everytime I saw him, I smiled and he was smiling back at me also.

 

I instantly fell for him but it he was older, maybe about 5 years and he was my teacher so it srtuck me that it would not work out. As time passed, I thought, this guy is only going to be my teacher for a few months so I might just have a chance.

 

When I was with this guy, I didn't need a reason to smile, I always looked forward to the one day of the week that he had to teach us. I couldn't wait for that day to come every week.

 

When I finally made up my mind to let him know how I felt, he announced to the class that he was getting married. Ever since that day I haven't been the same. I stopped smilling and I was so distraught. I couldn't snap myself out of it. I didn't even look forward to when he had to teach us. I felt like crap.

 

He is married now and somehow I still have deep feelings for him and I really dont know how to move on and forget about him. These feelings are bringing me down so badly and what makes it worst is that my next semester starts in one month and I will be seeing him around school again and I dont know how I am going to deal with it.

[hants]

Hi Vicky,

It sounds like you have extreemly strong feelings for this man, Most of your feelings you have built up in your own mind, its sounds like there has been no physical contact between you both, let alone verbal or you would have known about its plans to marry his girlfriend. This is a crush, dont take this wrong, you have a serious crush, very strong feelings for this man. Perhaps you though it was mutual between you both and with the lack of verbal communication between you both, messages can easily be confused. Continue to be plesant to this man, I suggest you make small talk, Let him know your a woman. Yes hes married, Not many marrages last past 7 years, your paths may cross again once you have left and he will remember you and how pleasant and mature you were. It will be a good stepping stone. Let him go for now and you need to get on with your life. I know this doesnt answer everything for you, but if a little of this advise is helpfull to you that would be great. good luck vicky.

 

Hants

[kgal]

Hmm.. yes.. a very SERIOUS crush! I feel for you. I once had a huge crush on my podiatrist..hahahaha. Sad but true! I emailed him and asked him if he had a gf one day and he replied that he was getting married that weekend. I was pretty crushed.. but it does get better! Smile.. don't let him take that from you... you've got a gorgeous smile so smile!!!!!

[lady104]

Ahh.. I had a similar crush on a teacher, but now I wouldn't call it love.

 

Yes, I loved seeing him, he made my heart skip a beat, I fantasised about him, I aced every test in his subject, I dressed to impress, and hung on his every word.

Yeah, we had some one-to-one conversations, and good laughs. Teachers can be a similar age and mindset to pupils, but I never fully got to know the inner thoughts, the history, the love, the family, the aspirations of my crush at college. I reckon I was in awe of a knowledgeable, charismatic, goodlooking male ideal, rather than the person within. I never spent time with him in the way that his lover would. If I did, I might even run a mile when I got to know his true personality!

For me, this wasn't love. I didn't know him, I only knew the teacher image he was giving us. Teachers have to deal with this ALL THE TIME, some more major crushes than others. Crushes are crushes. Teachers don't often take 'em seriously. You may feel powerfully in love now, but the kind of love you can get over relatively quickly (a few yrs)?

 

I must be underestimating the power of your emotions, and if you're offended do stand your ground.