sinkerswim Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 I really would... I wish my boyfriend/ fiance would just call me or write to me and we will get back together. My heaviness of my heart..would suddenly go away. That is my wish...I am praying so very hard. 8 years!!.... 8 years is a very long time. Every day that goes by...I try to live every day for the day itself... but the pain of missing him is becoming more and more unbearable. I am on medication and seeing a therapist... but NOTHING can take away this pain. I never got closure from him.. just "I dont knows". He knows better than to do this to me...but he is. Thats what hurts so bad. Isnt he remembering our good times? Doesnt he remember all that I have done for him? And believe me, I have done ALOT for him!! Because..I wanted to. Last time I saw him was Feb 3rd. How can he NOT be missing me even just a little? We have done everything together. 8 years solid. No breaks...except for one week when I went away on vacation w/family one year. I remember the look on his face when I came back. His smile was sooo wide and he kissed me and hugged me. I will never forget the feeling I had that day. I just want that feeling to happen again. Thanks for letting me vent. Link to post Share on other sites
DancesWithWolves Posted April 1, 2004 Share Posted April 1, 2004 What's up? I just got dumped on a 7 year relationship. I am a similiar boat situation as yourself and I'm glad you are able to vent and get some things off of your chest. However, I think you are excessively acheing for this man. If love is a form of a mutual relationship where two people need to fall in love; then at the end, when the one wants to break up with another, then how about the concept of two people both falling out of love at the same time? Impossible, right? Yes, it is impossible. But my point is simply this: What is the point of continuing to love a man/woman when that person has already moved on and doesn't want to talk to you? My ex girlfriend's dad has taught me a few things back in the day and whenever he gets screwed over at work because of work politics, instead of him getting all pissed off about it, he'll just say"Well, that's life..." Try to think positively about everything so that you can give yourself the extra edge that you'll need in finding your TRUE soulmate. If you believe in fate, and if you believe that there is a perfect someone out there, then after finding out that you didn't find your soulmate, then wouldn't you want to make improvements on yourself to be more prepared for that perfect someone for the future? I guess that's 1 positive idea. As for me, I don't care to find that perfect someone. That perfect someone could be right under my nose and I might even not know about it. People like to call that fun and exciting, simply because they think it's intriguing to be thinking that idea, but if you are meant to find that person, then why look for it? Let it find you. Until then, keep improving and improving until that one day when you realize that there may be others that are improving themselves to find you. Best, DancesWithWolves aka (the angry mob) Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted April 1, 2004 Share Posted April 1, 2004 I would give anything in the world, for a 2nd chance..... I think at some point of our lives....we all feel like that. Link to post Share on other sites
lisapisa Posted April 1, 2004 Share Posted April 1, 2004 Hi, 8 years is a very long time and you are still getting over him. It is going to take 6 months at least so accept that and try to keep busy. Something wasn't working for him. If you weren't married after 8 years and didn't think something was wrong with THAT, then maybe you weren't all that happy, either, when you really think about it. Think about it. Most people who DO marry after dating that long do not stay married forever. Anyway, something was not working for him....and you know men, they will stay in a relationship forever unless someone kicks them out or until they have been in long enough to finally realize, hey, this isn't for me. It has nothing to do with you...nothing. He likes you and probably loves you but the passion, the marrying love, was not there. Be glad that you didn't marry or continue dating for 1 more year or 10 more years only to be left then. My guess is that you are still young, because people in their 30s don't date for 8 years, normally. Get out there, meet other people, talk to your family and realize that your true love is still out there and now is your chance to find him. Best of luck. Read some good books, see some funny movies, eat some good food and get exercise daily. Make the decision to feel better every morning. No one is worth anguishing over. Link to post Share on other sites
Dixiecron Posted April 1, 2004 Share Posted April 1, 2004 Hey now lisapisa, Not that I disagree with your advice in this particular situation, but all men are -not- like that, so don't get her going on the "men suck, cows free milk" thing. Read some of the other threads here and you'll find just as many guys as women that have gotten screwed over. Link to post Share on other sites
lisapisa Posted April 1, 2004 Share Posted April 1, 2004 Dixiecron--I think you grossly misunderstand my post. I never implied that men don't buy the cow if they are getting the milk for free. Not at all. Sometimes they do buy that cow, though in this case, that's not the point. Link to post Share on other sites
Dixiecron Posted April 1, 2004 Share Posted April 1, 2004 OK, just checkin Link to post Share on other sites
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