Never meet anyone new who I would class as relationship material

[nrzp]

So im almost 24, and never had a girlfriend for longer than 5 months, all my friends always telling me how I am a nice guy (not that I think im that nice but thats not the point, maybe I am too nice for my own good sometimes)

 

Previous girlfriends were clearly not the right ones, even though the last one I was crazy for, guess not everything can work out though

 

Anyway my problem is now I don't seem to meet anyone new, Im a self employed programmer (not exacley the most social job) have a small bunch of friends which the vast magority are all coupled up, only time I meet new people is in clubs which isnt really the place to find a girl for dating.

Occasionally will lead to a one night stand, which im not the biggest fan of.

 

Im not exactley activley looking for a girlfriend, but I don't know what to do, I want to be in a relationship, but don't know if its just because all my friends are.

 

My biggest question is though, where can I meet new people?

[zebracolors]

First, don't get in a relationship just to be in one. I'm sure others here will tell you the same thing. Get in a relationship because you like things about a woman. You've said you have had relationships before but if the women were leaving you, it could have been because of incapatibility, or your personality because they didn't know what they really wanted. Which the women might have been at a loss to explain why. I don't know.

 

And meeting new people who have the same interests as you is a good place to start. Or rather to start over. Forget clubs if you're not finding the type of women there you would consider for a long term relationship. İts going to take physically meeting those others who share your interests. Try something like meetup.com where you can find local/nearby groups that also interested in programming. (not to exclude your friends of course)

 

Or another fun interest if you don't want to take your work into the social scene. Most likely you will only get out of this effort only what you put in but could be worth a try. But don't go into this looking for a woman with relationship potential. Because as others here are also fond of saying, "sometimes love finds you when you are not looking for it.":)