joel Posted March 15, 2011 Share Posted March 15, 2011 you think its normal and ok to play with people you meet off the activities page off craiglist and you never met them before. be it softball, baseball, floor hockey and all... you just join in and jsut play. pay the drop in fee and just play well im asian and my folks and from china but came and been here for long time . dad and mom around 60. asking who i play with and how i met these so called ppl and i told them through craiglist and they told me not to be playing with ppl you never met("strangers") get this im 30 and they scolding and lecturing me that its not right and you shouldnt be meeting strangers and playing sports with them but then you go to a random church and u dont now anyone there and they think its ok- just go the the church as they say what do you think. i just trying to make new friends and extend my network, Link to post Share on other sites
Kelvin Posted March 19, 2011 Share Posted March 19, 2011 Nothing wrong with playing sports at a park off a CL ad. It wouldn't be strange to show up at a park and do pick up sports with guys there either. Don't tell your critical friends about it. It's easy for them to judge, but they aren't begging to play baseball or basketball with you. Live your life and ignore them. Some of those of CL might wind up being better friends. Link to post Share on other sites
ReturnToSender Posted March 19, 2011 Share Posted March 19, 2011 I met one of my best friends off Craigslist... I posted in the platinic friends area just looking for someone to hang out with, put in what sort of things I like to do and he replied. He introduced me to most of the friends I have now and we still hang out and do stuff together. I say go for it...its the wave of the future LoL Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted March 19, 2011 Share Posted March 19, 2011 (edited) Sports seems like one of the most benign possible uses of Craigslist - hard to imagine someone seeing an "abnormal" issue here. Now, it seems the issue isn't really Craigslist, but rather that you are associating with strangers, or as you put it, "playing sports with people you never met." This sounds like either a cultural issue, or just a weird family dynamic thing, but in my opinion, I don't see anything abnormal with it. Frankly, I see it as abnormal that family members of a 30-year-old adult would have a problem with seeking out a sports activity just because you haven't met the people before. To me, that sounds pretty silly. As Kelvin pointed out, there's a rich tradition - in our culture, anyway - of "pickup" or "drop in" sports activities. People see postings on Craigslist, a poster on a bulletin board, an Email gets passed around, etc... and a fun activity is born. This is normal. And.... it's also a very good way to extend your network of friends and associates, as you said. This is an excellent way, because you reach out and expose yourself to a completely new and random assortment of people, but in a fairly "safe" interpersonal environment (as contrasted with, for example, going out nightclubbing, let's say...) But of course, this exposure to a random, broad assortment of new people may be exactly the thing that scares your parents, because perhaps it is unusual to them, from a cultural perspective. Tell them: "I did meet them; then we played softball." Out of curiosity, is this an anomaly - are your family members usually pretty calm about things, but just having a weird problem with this one aspect of your life, or are they meddling and controlling in other areas as well? Edited March 19, 2011 by Trimmer Link to post Share on other sites
Fugu Posted March 22, 2011 Share Posted March 22, 2011 you think its normal and ok to play with people you meet off the activities page off craiglist and you never met them before. be it softball, baseball, floor hockey and all... you just join in and jsut play. pay the drop in fee and just play well im asian and my folks and from china but came and been here for long time . dad and mom around 60. asking who i play with and how i met these so called ppl and i told them through craiglist and they told me not to be playing with ppl you never met("strangers") get this im 30 and they scolding and lecturing me that its not right and you shouldnt be meeting strangers and playing sports with them but then you go to a random church and u dont now anyone there and they think its ok- just go the the church as they say what do you think. i just trying to make new friends and extend my network, The issue isn't craigslist and sports. The issue is, do you want your family to control your life? If you want your family to control your life, then listen to them and do what they tell you. Problem solved. If you don't want your family controlling your life, if you want to follow your own path, then you will have to decide how to do this, but you'll eventually have to start supporting yourself. Move out. Get your own job. Get your own pad. But stay close to your family as you do this...if it's possible. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 Most of the teams I've played on in the last several years were due to Craigslist. Link to post Share on other sites
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 No, I don't see anything wrong with that. Link to post Share on other sites
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