milkmaterial Posted March 15, 2011 Share Posted March 15, 2011 just a recap. my ex and i had been a couple since april 11 2008, before that we were friends for a long time. around may 2009 i found an email in his inbox to his ex, she was asking him how he was and if there was anything new in his life right then at that time and his response was nothing was new in his life. it felt like my head just emptied itself and i couldnt see from my eyes, like all i see is white clouds and i was filled w/ rage. it was already 1am at that time and i came back from the hospital (work), havent had anything to eat (dinner, etc) and worn out from 1 hr drive..i woke him up and got really mad at him. now its my fault i even looked in there. but lets just say, it was my fault, ok, i still should know details about these things because we do have plans of marriage. i dont understand him..in terms of this. i really dont know if he is still in love w/ her. she was the first gf. she and my bf were still a couple, but got seperated because he had to go back to the u.s. and she was still abroad. she got knocked up by someone else, and she broke up w/ him. i think my bf wouldnt have broken up w/ her if she didnt initiate it. thats how in love he was (or is). before u berate me into saying that im overreacting, this is how the email went: hey hun good to hear from ya, i know u're busy n stuff. I've been workin wit my dad and goin to school so i'm a bit busier than before, other than that nothin new in my life hehe. I hope u're doin well, gotta take care of urself k. If u got time write to me hehe, I usually don't got much to say bout myself hehe so yah. Take care of urself n (her kids name)k, Love u hun. (bf name) From: (her email) To: (his email) Subject: Date: Tue, 6 Jan 2009 03:39:45 +0000 .ExternalClass .EC_hmmessage p { padding: 0px; }.ExternalClass body.EC_hmmessage { font-size: 10pt; font-family: Verdana; } Hello Hun, I hope you had a great Christmas and New Year. How are you? What's new? Haven't talked in a while. I hope all is well with you! As always just keeping busy with (her kids name)and work. That's my life =P What about you? Hope to hear from you soon. Love, (her name) ---------------------- this was the email he sent last 2008: Hey hun Hey hey birthday girl, I just wanna say happy early Bday to ya hun. I wish the best for u this year, hope everything will go as u wanted this year. So wat's new wit u n (her kids name)?? How are u guys doin? Both of u are well I hope, (her kids name)must be big by now hah. I'm ok over here, still strugglin a bit hehe, but doin ok. Sigh... nuthin's new in my life, I know u asked me if i got anybody special in my life before, and I've always told u no. Heh it's just my luck i guess, but that's not really important to me rite now. Rite now i'm just tryin to make money n go to school, other stuffs is like watevers to me, if it comes it comes, if not it's all good too hehe. Well i'll stop blabberin, Happy Bday again hun. Best wishes to ya. Luv u. (his name) ----------------------------- i really want to rip her face off but at the same time i wanna punch him hard in the face. i really have no idea if he still loves her or what, am i playing second fiddle. im scared ..he never once did mention me to her, i told people about him. my co workers, friends, even my ex knows about him. **** even the old guy i was taking care of at a nursing home knows about my bf. i dont know what to do at all somebody pls help me before i add her on msn and hurl curse words Link to post Share on other sites
Eclypse Posted March 15, 2011 Share Posted March 15, 2011 Well he seems like a jerk. She doesn't seem to be at fault though since she doesn't know he's found anyone, so don't add her and yell at her. I've just got 1 question though: why are you posting this now and not in 2009 when you found it?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author milkmaterial Posted March 15, 2011 Author Share Posted March 15, 2011 i got another msg from her , stating shes back in the u.s. i really really dont know if my bf still wants to be back w/ her and is just waiting for her to come out and say it, or she wants him to do the first move. either way we just got our engagement official a few weeks ago, and i just found out about that 2008 email like a few mins ago also. it jsut sort of stunned me that he wrote to her like that Link to post Share on other sites
heartshaped Posted March 15, 2011 Share Posted March 15, 2011 Have the two of you talked about this? Are you okay with him having contact with her? I don't see why if the two of you are engaged he is even contacting his ex... Link to post Share on other sites
Author milkmaterial Posted March 15, 2011 Author Share Posted March 15, 2011 he said she is "dead" to him thats why he didnt mention me. its hard to argue with him, and i am not 100% sure if i should break up with him. i really dont know at this point. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted March 15, 2011 Share Posted March 15, 2011 He is writing emails to a dead woman? Bullsh*t! He is lying to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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