My life

[Happy Finally]

Well I will if I can still walk to the phone by the time you get your divorce. :laugh:

 

 

Got jokes I see.....good one.

[Jane Deaux]

Well I will if I can still walk to the phone by the time you get your divorce. :laugh:

 

 

Man I adore this board and all you people!

 

Ummm and I second, third, fourth or whatever number I am...Go to college, see the girls and fun waiting for you, oh yeah, and don't forget, we told you so! Man, I loved college. We are just looking out for you there. You gotta be single when you first get to college. For real though!

[Rose1977]

OP, if you are as mature as you claim to be, instead of calling us all old (BTW BB07, are we still on for Depends shopping this weekend? We also have bridge and bingo so rest up ) you would be able to appreciate the fact that the people who have responded to you are able to say the things they can with a certain amount of definity because we have all lived it. Not an affair per say, but first love, losing virginity, thinking we know it all at 18, etc.... No one has insulted you, but you have insulted a lot of regulars here who come here to help people in situations. You accused Bent of insulting your brain - actually she simply stated a medical fact. If you came here for support, insulting those trying to help you is going to result in nothing except people ignorning you.

 

I can honestly say at 24, I would have been unable to find a high school student attractive or find myself in a situation where I would even be associating with high school students. I think if things were as good as you say they are, you wouldn't be here. I think you have doubts, and deep down you are worried. If you wrote about your true concerns and worries, you would find a lot of support here. The people on this board literally helped me get my life back on track after an awful event in my life.

 

I wish you well, though I suspect you are a troll, otherwise you would not be so argumentative with people. And watch out for her H - seriously. He may be counting the days until you turn 18. I've seen it. When there is a lot of emotion involved and threats have already been made, things can go south quicker than the blink of an eye.

 

I would type more but I seem to have misplaced my bifocals and am having trouble seeing the screen. D***it, the eyes went when I hit 33

[BB07]

Hey Rose.........I hope you found your glasses so you can read my reply as I write from my lounge chair. PS.......I'll write more when my sonny boy comes to get me up in the morning and yes if we have to, we'll go play some more damn bridge. Oh yeah.........don't forget your depends either, we don't want to get the limo all messy ya know. :lmao:;)

 

Oh yeah.......for pete's sake, would you please not forget to remind me to get my teeth OK.

 

 

Signed....BB cranky ole lady!

[alexandria35]

Maybe I'm missing something, but I don't think you are a troll. I do think you are very young and immature. I know you will disagree with that, but I'm sure you read some other threads here before you posted. Do you see any of the adults here talking to each other the way you talk to us? You think you are a man but then you toss out angry childish insults like a rebellious insolent teenager. And you know what? That is okay by me. You are just acting the way boys your age act and that's alright.

 

I don't think you are open to discussion or listening to another point of view, so I'm not sure what made you post here. Again, if you have read any of the threads here you would know that posters here give their personal opinions and debate different scenarios from every angle. When people post they usually expect some disagreement. I don't get angry when people disagree with me because as a mature adult I can be secure in myself even when others are not validating me. If you wish to have a rational discussion regarding your current situation perhaps you could calm down and start again.

 

Whatever you decide I wish you luck. I know you believe that you have nothing to learn and no insight to be gained from talking to older experienced people. Again this is very common for a teenager/young adult and most of us learn our lessons in life the hard way. But please do consider that if all the older adults in your life are seeing this situation differently than you, perhaps there is something you are not seeing. Good Luck.

[Woman In Blue]

I read the rules and aronyms, and searched a few forums to decide where to post my situation. Care to know my real name and her name just to prove to a bitter man that I'm real?

You know what? You just keep PROVING what a child you really are whenever you don't like what someone posts - calling them "bitter" and all that nonsense.

 

You think you're the FIRST guy that ever fell in love with the first piece of ass he ever had? You're so cliche it isn't even funny. You're just too young and inexperienced to KNOW that just yet. In another 10 years, however, you will.

[East7]

Just saw the thread OMG....:lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

Mimo, BB..you crack me up

 

OP, first love of your life is an affair ? If I was you I wouldn't be so proud of me dude. Seriously at your age (FYI I'm not "old") I would align the chicks and never be desperate for a married/separated woman.

 

You are just helping her go through a cr@py transition. When she will get tired of you and have the divorce papers she will fack and settle with an older guy and you will come here posting "MW left me for another guy...I'm so desperate" :lmao:

[WorldIsYours]

Just saw the thread OMG....:lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

Mimo, BB..you crack me up

 

OP, first love of your life is an affair ? If I was you I wouldn't be so proud of me dude. Seriously at your age (FYI I'm not "old") I would align the chicks and never be desperate for a married/separated woman.

 

You are just helping her go through a cr@py transition. When she will get tired of you and have the divorce papers she will fack and settle with an older guy and you will come here posting "MW left me for another guy...I'm so desperate" :lmao:

 

Look who's talking. You were in his position also (and mostly every adult on this thread, who are just as immature as this kid, which makes this situation seem like nothing compared to what you guys have done), so why the hypocrisy?

[BB07]

Look who's talking. You were in his position also (and mostly every adult on this thread, who are just as immature as this kid, which makes this situation seem like nothing compared to what you guys have done), so why the hypocrisy?

 

Some of us do learn and change Dex.

[WorldIsYours]

Some of us do learn and change Dex.

 

Hopefully, but many threads on here says otherwise. And I'm not Dexter.

[Rose1977]

In all seriousness, I have given this situation some thought and OP, you say that your family is aware of the situation and are not happy about it. Depending on what jurisdiction you live in, I hope you are aware that this woman can be prosecuted for statuatory rape assuming you are under 18. Even if you are not under 18, if the sexual contact began when you were under 18, she can still be prosecuted. I have seen cases where families, husbands, etc... get so mad that they do turn the woman in and the case is prosecuted. In most juridictions, because you are/were close to 18, it would be a midemeanor, which makes things sound pretty easy... Until you add into that the fact that she will be a convicted sex offender. For the rest of her life she will not be able to work around children, and she will need to check in with police departments whenever she moves. In addition, police will have to notify her neighbors that there is a sex offender living in the area, and her picture, name and place of employment will be public knowledge. I'm just trying to give you the reality of what this situation could become. This woman you love could have to live a life of shame being labeled a child predator for the rest of her life because of this.

 

Of course if you were over 18, this whole post is a moot point, and jurisdictions do vary greatly in statuatory rape laws.

[thomasb]

Oh, this is just too funny. I can say this. Not one of my sons, the 28yr old, 25yr old, and 21 yr old would ever come here, they would die before they ever came on an Internet support forum to talk about some woman they were seeing. And they would sure never admit to being a virgin at that age. No man would. That would be a woman thing. Yep. So which reincarnation of which banned poster are you? Me thinks I could probably guess!

[Mr.Westisgone]

Why does everyone thinks this won't work out? I'm legally grown and like I said, I know what I'm doing. I honestly don't care if my family thinks it's wrong. Part of me always felt they were trying to control me. I'm on my own side now.

 

If she does decide to break it off I know I'll live, but I will be obviously hurt. For now I'm not going anywhere.

 

And I went to register for EMU last week and I saw the women there and they're ugly, fat, and mostly black so there's no way I'd be even able to think about messing with other women while I'm there on campus.

 

Just to let you people know, I didn't come here to get bashed on or insulted because I'm a century younger than you posters.

 

Someone said that I came here because I feel guilt and I do a little. But honestly what's the point of stopping now? I have a connection with this woman and I have real feelings that can't be denied, just like you all. She took my virginity and I'll never forget that. I don't regret it either. This situation wouldn't be any different if I had a high-paying job. This is real and it feels good.

[dreamingoftigers]

My only advice to you OP is to be ever-vigilant about her honesty. Having you as an exit affair can lead to some heavy baggage further down the road.

 

Maybe read a few books about constructing a healthy relationship and see if this one can fit the framework of that. Feelings, although important, cannot be the only backbone to a relationship. With feelings alone and not the dedication or character or knowledge of how to keep oneself in check enough to generate positive experiences for you and your SO, the collapse of this particular brand of relationship will be nuclear.

 

As well having a hand in the collapse of marriage may leave you wondering if it was really you she wanted, or if she wanted away from her husband but didn't want to do it alone.

[mbm69]

Just to let you people know, I didn't come here to get bashed on or insulted because I'm a century younger than you posters.

 

OUCH! I had sympathy for your plight until I read this... if you expect a helping hand here or sympathy or compassion, it's not with that attitude that you will get it.

[bentnotbroken]

Why does everyone thinks this won't work out? I'm legally grown and like I said, I know what I'm doing. I honestly don't care if my family thinks it's wrong. Part of me always felt they were trying to control me. I'm on my own side now.

 

If she does decide to break it off I know I'll live, but I will be obviously hurt. For now I'm not going anywhere.

 

And I went to register for EMU last week and I saw the women there and they're ugly, fat, and mostly black so there's no way I'd be even able to think about messing with other women while I'm there on campus.

 

Just to let you people know, I didn't come here to get bashed on or insulted because I'm a century younger than you posters.

 

Someone said that I came here because I feel guilt and I do a little. But honestly what's the point of stopping now? I have a connection with this woman and I have real feelings that can't be denied, just like you all. She took my virginity and I'll never forget that. I don't regret it either. This situation wouldn't be any different if I had a high-paying job. This is real and it feels good.

 

 

You are showing your ingnorance with each post:sick: It is better to let people just think you are ignorant than for you to open your mouth(post) and prove them right. Speaking as a black woman with a black daughter thank you for excluding us from your dating pool.

[BB07]

You are showing your ingnorance with each post:sick: It is better to let people just think you are ignorant than for you to open your mouth(post) and prove them right. Speaking as a black woman with a black daughter thank you for excluding us from your dating pool.

 

 

Any woman with a daughter would not wish a young man as he as shown himself to be considered for his dating pool.

With that last post......it is even more convincing that he is a troll. If not pity the poor people who come into contact with him in any shape or fashion.

[Kismetly]

And I went to register for EMU last week and I saw the women there and they're ugly, fat, and mostly black so there's no way I'd be even able to think about messing with other women while I'm there on campus..

 

Hey - that is really uncool my young friend, and really racist. As part of your development, and move towards manhood, perhaps you could reflect on why what you have posted here is completely not OK.

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Someone said that I came here because I feel guilt and I do a little. But honestly what's the point of stopping now? I have a connection with this woman and I have real feelings that can't be denied, just like you all. She took my virginity and I'll never forget that. I don't regret it either. This situation wouldn't be any different if I had a high-paying job. This is real and it feels good ..

 

You won't stop now ... it feels too good. Believe me, I'm an OW and I know all the reasons I should stop - and I still don't.

 

What is it you want us to tell you? That it's OK?

 

The thing is kiddo that you yourself admit that you do feel a bit guilty and you are a bit worried. The thing about real love (if memory serves) is that you don't have all those doubts and dramas. Your friends and family support you, you don't have that "what if" feeling in the pit of your gut and you still get to have great sex - in fact it can be more fulfilling, because you don't have all that other guilt and worry and doubt floating around while you are at it.

 

Be careful. I for one am very pleased I didn't marry the first person I slept with.

[daisy love]

Why does everyone thinks this won't work out? I'm legally grown and like I said, I know what I'm doing. I honestly don't care if my family thinks it's wrong. Part of me always felt they were trying to control me. I'm on my own side now.

 

If she does decide to break it off I know I'll live, but I will be obviously hurt. For now I'm not going anywhere.

 

And I went to register for EMU last week and I saw the women there and they're ugly, fat, and mostly black so there's no way I'd be even able to think about messing with other women while I'm there on campus.

 

Just to let you people know, I didn't come here to get bashed on or insulted because I'm a century younger than you posters.

 

Someone said that I came here because I feel guilt and I do a little. But honestly what's the point of stopping now? I have a connection with this woman and I have real feelings that can't be denied, just like you all. She took my virginity and I'll never forget that. I don't regret it either. This situation wouldn't be any different if I had a high-paying job. This is real and it feels good.

 

As someone who is your around the age of the married lady, I can say I would never be interested in a high school kid. Sorry. At my age, we want older, not younger

 

I have a feeling you will find out just how much she likes you when she realizes you cannot support her financially and she can't even go out drinking with you because you are underage. You really need to see that it is a first love for you; but not for her. She will end up breaking your heart, but all of us go through heart break at some point and most of us go through this with our first love.

 

Be careful though, her husband could go after you and when he and his older friends show up to show you what happens when you poke at someone's wife, it won't be pretty.

 

Honey, enjoy it while it lasts because I doubt by Memorial day you will still be with her.

 

Please stop calling everyone bitter and old. That goes to prove their points about how immature you are acting.

[WorldIsYours]

Someone lock up this thread. The hypocrisy, stereotyping, and immaturity has me rolling on the floor.:lmao:

[whichwayisup]

Wow a lot of bitterness and hatred from you old, contradicting people!

 

 

If you don't like it here, LEAVE.

If you don't like the fact your family (who loves you and wants to protect you from pain and heartache) disapproves of your choices, then MOVE OUT. Be on your own and live your life. As long as you're living under their roof, eating their food, having internet service, tv, heat, water and a bed to sleep in, pay for your education, college etc..You respect their opinion and try to listen to them. Guess what? When this MW dumps you, who's going to be there to pick up the pieces? YOUR PARENTS. Remember that. Grow up and stop insulting people here. Again if you don't like this place, GO somewhere else and get hi fives and people who will cheer you on.

[Jonah]

 

One problem is that her husband won't leave her alone. He's been calling and begging for her to get back with him. I talked to him once and we got into it big time. It was hilarious listening to him saying he should kick my ass for messing with his wife. Told him that'll never happen and he'd be stupid to try. He wants her back now that she left but when she begging him to give her intimacy he was heartless and emotionally abused her. Maybe he'll learn how to keep his next woman by not being a loser.

 

I saw a movie about a lad in exactly your situation. Take a look at the movie "In the bedroom". I think that will bring you to the reality of what is really going on.

[Heather1]

Thanks Jonah, I couldn't remember the name of that movie but I thought of that immediately too.

 

I remember seeing the news on these 2 couples making out @ some kind of known make out place. This guy went to the 2 cars, took their gf's to his van & raped them. Was about to kill both girls & an amber alert found his van before he killed them, but after the rape. The interview later of the 2 HS boys they said at no time did they think any of their lives were in danger??? VERY NAIVE!!! She may be playing you as a little pawn to her H to get him jealous. It might be their foreplay??? I used to volunteer for a battered women's shelter, this is the cycle.

 

If you don't believe us, have your parents call a social worker to find out worse case of his threats. Your parents safety could be at stake too, think about that.

[Mr.Westisgone]

 

If you don't like it here, LEAVE.

If you don't like the fact your family (who loves you and wants to protect you from pain and heartache) disapproves of your choices, then MOVE OUT. Be on your own and live your life. As long as you're living under their roof, eating their food, having internet service, tv, heat, water and a bed to sleep in, pay for your education, college etc..You respect their opinion and try to listen to them. Guess what? When this MW dumps you, who's going to be there to pick up the pieces? YOUR PARENTS. Remember that. Grow up and stop insulting people here. Again if you don't like this place, GO somewhere else and get hi fives and people who will cheer you on.

 

So funny. You sound just like my own mother, who mentally abused me. You have no idea what you're talking about. You think it's all roses from where me and my fam sit? Nope. Also for the record, I live on my own and my father is the only person I'm close with, who's helping me pay for my college education.

 

So I may not be perfect, but I'm doing most things on my own. Sure I don't make $100,000 a year but hopefully with my smarts I will get a job of that salary in a couple years.

 

I'm reading a lot about my girl's husband will probably try to come at me, and like I said it'll never happen. I know how to defend myself and I don't care about his little anger. He can take it and shove it for all I care. I love her and it is real, whether she took my virginity or not. Just like nothing can change how you people feel about the people you guys are having an affair with. But because I'm young it doesn't matter what I feel.

 

And for all of you oldies who say young men can't keep up, think again. I'm reading some of these stories on how you milfs are cheating on your husbands with people as young as me because they can't stay up. Don't even let me get started on you people and your problems.

 

So far me and my girl are going steady. We went to the movies to chill and make out, then went to her place and had some more great sex.

[whichwayisup]

laugh: So funny. You sound just like my own mother, who mentally abused me. You have no idea what you're talking about. You think it's all roses from where me and my fam sit? Nope. Also for the record, I live on my own and my father is the only person I'm close with, who's helping me pay for my college education.

 

Im sorry your mom mentally abused you.

 

And you're right, I don't know. Now I do as you mentioned your living status and fact you don't live with your parents.

 

So I may not be perfect, but I'm doing most things on my own. Sure I don't make $100,000 a year but hopefully with my smarts I will get a job of that salary in a couple years.

 

Good. Keep working hard.

 

I'm reading a lot about my girl's husband will probably try to come at me, and like I said it'll never happen. I know how to defend myself and I don't care about his little anger. He can take it and shove it for all I care. I love her and it is real, whether she took my virginity or not. Just like nothing can change how you people feel about the people you guys are having an affair with. But because I'm young it doesn't matter what I feel.

 

Just be prepared for it and own your part in the affair.

 

All I can say is, people do alot of changing in their 20's, but sometimes it works out. the one you lose your virginity to, you end up with. Just wait until she's divorced before you totally go all out and pursue her. She is still legally married and depending where you live, you could be named in their divorce, even more so if it goes to court. never say never.