yessy21 Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 this guy that i know and talk to occasionaly became friends, he was super nice and respectful. he has a gf and he still kinda flirted with me. well he hasnt written to me in about 4 days so i go check his page on facebook and he deleted me. i couldnt believe it. i met him when i was 15 we dated briefly and just came back into contact. either way... it wasnt a problem until now. by the way his girlfriend is 10 years older than him adn ugly... but i never told him that. why would he delete me? Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 this guy that i know and talk to occasionaly became friends, he was super nice and respectful. he has a gf and he still kinda flirted with me. well he hasnt written to me in about 4 days so i go check his page on facebook and he deleted me. i couldnt believe it. i met him when i was 15 we dated briefly and just came back into contact. either way... it wasnt a problem until now. by the way his girlfriend is 10 years older than him adn ugly... but i never told him that. why would he delete me? Because she caught him writing to you, she knows you look better, shes insecure, and made him delete you. You know why. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 this guy that i know and talk to occasionaly became friends, he was super nice and respectful. he has a gf and he still kinda flirted with me. well he hasnt written to me in about 4 days so i go check his page on facebook and he deleted me. i couldnt believe it. i met him when i was 15 we dated briefly and just came back into contact. either way... it wasnt a problem until now. by the way his girlfriend is 10 years older than him adn ugly... but i never told him that. why would he delete me? Why would he delete you? 1)He has a girlfriend. 2)Maybe he deleted his whole account. Did you search his name and was it there? 3)His girlfriend found out he was flirting with you. Or maybe he realized what he was doing was wrong by flirting so he deleted you. 4)You don't know him anymore. It doesn't matter that you used to be in his life when you were 15 years old, now you aren't and as you said you just got back into contact with him. Maybe they have a rule, no ex's allowed on fb. Anyway, you haven't seen him, only been intouch through facebook, so it's not like the end of the world, you've lost a good friend. Who cares if you think his gf is ugly. What does this have to do with it? Link to post Share on other sites
baguette Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Because you call people ugly. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yessy21 Posted March 16, 2011 Author Share Posted March 16, 2011 Because she caught him writing to you, she knows you look better, shes insecure, and made him delete you. You know why. U must be correct. cause thats all i can think of... needless to say he has two accounts and he stayed friends with me on the other. shes not on the other. so i defenitley know why now. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 U must be correct. cause thats all i can think of... needless to say he has two accounts and he stayed friends with me on the other. shes not on the other. so i defenitley know why now. Yet you still want friendship with a guy who is lying and hiding you from his girlfriend? Is this new found friendship THAT important to you that he has to HIDE you? He cant' be proud that you two are friends.. Doesn't it tell you something? Like you are a secret. He isn't an honest person. He's selfish, to knowingly keep flirting and chatting with you on facebook all the meanwhile he's aware his gf isn't happy with the 'new friendship'. He's LYING to her now and made it seem like you aren't in contact anymore. You *may* have feelings for this guy and it'll prevent you from finding someone else since this could lead to an affair..Even if only online. It isn't something you should be proud of .. That he has a 'secret' facebook account and you're on it. Link to post Share on other sites
spice4life Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Yet you still want friendship with a guy who is lying and hiding you from his girlfriend? Is this new found friendship THAT important to you that he has to HIDE you? He cant' be proud that you two are friends.. Doesn't it tell you something? Like you are a secret. He isn't an honest person. He's selfish, to knowingly keep flirting and chatting with you on facebook all the meanwhile he's aware his gf isn't happy with the 'new friendship'. He's LYING to her now and made it seem like you aren't in contact anymore. You *may* have feelings for this guy and it'll prevent you from finding someone else since this could lead to an affair..Even if only online. It isn't something you should be proud of .. That he has a 'secret' facebook account and you're on it. Seriously, WWIU is right. Leave the guy be because it will only lead to heartache and pain down the road. That's a garauntee. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yessy21 Posted March 16, 2011 Author Share Posted March 16, 2011 i deleted my facebook. last night. i was upset. but i dont want any contact with him. Something my dad always told me since i was a kid when someone wasnt in my life anymore or shouldnt he would phrase it nicely. " They just dont belong in your world." So i have to accept that and thats it. Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 U must be correct. cause thats all i can think of... needless to say he has two accounts and he stayed friends with me on the other. shes not on the other. so i defenitley know why now. Actually, you did need to say that. They are two completely different situations: (1) someone deleted me and I don't know why... and (2) he's got two facebook accounts, and he deleted me from the one his girlfriend knows about. Really, while #1 by itself might be a mystery, #2 is the answer, isn't it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author yessy21 Posted March 16, 2011 Author Share Posted March 16, 2011 yes number 2 is the answer. she must have seen the messages. I wonder though... if he really cares for her or is he just with her to be with her. shes not that attractive. (her teeth are huge and her gums stick out.) shes way older. but he says that when he was in a situation....(jail) she took care of him. he added me. i dont know. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 17, 2011 Share Posted March 17, 2011 i deleted my facebook. last night. i was upset. but i dont want any contact with him. Something my dad always told me since i was a kid when someone wasnt in my life anymore or shouldnt he would phrase it nicely. " They just dont belong in your world." So i have to accept that and thats it. You deleted your entire facebook account just because somebody's boyfriend deleted YOU? Don't get it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yessy21 Posted March 17, 2011 Author Share Posted March 17, 2011 I did because i didnt want for him to message me from the other account. when i thought about it fairly well. i changed my privacy setting and just deleted his other account from my friends. He doesnt seem a good honest person... if he has to keep people hidden. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabella Posted March 17, 2011 Share Posted March 17, 2011 You act as if the only reason to be with someone is attractiveness. Occurs to you that perhaps she's got other things going for her? Education, maturity, income, sexual experience, etc? All these things can be very attractive to a younger man. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yessy21 Posted March 17, 2011 Author Share Posted March 17, 2011 if he liked her that much... in those ways.. why would he try to talk to me so often. he knew i was seeing people... maybe he just figured he wasnt going to compromise the fact that she takes care of him... financially since he got out of jail. he looked for me. i never looked for him. i found out later on he had a gf. he told me himself. shes not pretty but shes nice and shes there for me. shes a cashier. maturity yea who wouldnt be mature at 40. they hardly see each other so sexualy i wouldnt know. either way. i wouldnt be with anyone im not attracted to in any way. so i do understand a point somewhere in there. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabella Posted March 17, 2011 Share Posted March 17, 2011 Sounds like he's using her, but then again, he was using you too for validation. I wonder how many more girls is he doing that with behind his gf's back. Either way, not someone you want in your life, is he? Link to post Share on other sites
Author yessy21 Posted March 17, 2011 Author Share Posted March 17, 2011 Sounds like he's using her, but then again, he was using you too for validation. I wonder how many more girls is he doing that with behind his gf's back. Either way, not someone you want in your life, is he? he is. and he probrably was. probrably a whole lot. hes a very attractive man. I would never want someone like that in that way. I know that if he did that to her he would probrably do it to the next one too. but he was a friend and a great memory once a long time ago. Link to post Share on other sites
codycat Posted March 20, 2011 Share Posted March 20, 2011 this guy that i know and talk to occasionaly became friends, he was super nice and respectful. he has a gf and he still kinda flirted with me. well he hasnt written to me in about 4 days so i go check his page on facebook and he deleted me. i couldnt believe it. i met him when i was 15 we dated briefly and just came back into contact. either way... it wasnt a problem until now. by the way his girlfriend is 10 years older than him adn ugly... but i never told him that. why would he delete me? I'm kind of guessing here but maybe his GF noticed he was paying too much attention to you and asked him to delete you. Get over it. After they break up he will probably try to friend you again. Then you can tell him to stick it where the sun don't shine. Link to post Share on other sites
spackle Posted March 20, 2011 Share Posted March 20, 2011 in defence of Yessy, reading the thread it sounds like she does like him and that will mess with decision making, we've all done it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yessy21 Posted March 20, 2011 Author Share Posted March 20, 2011 sooo funny thing is he messaged me under his other account even after i deleted it. he said that he was sorry and that he was just trying to avoid problems. atthe end he put... 'im still able to talk to u though right?' i havent answered back. i think its wise and best to just leave it alone. after careful thought i wouldnt want to put myself into that predicament either way. and yes i did like him. but that was it. just a like. Link to post Share on other sites
harmfulsweetz Posted March 20, 2011 Share Posted March 20, 2011 Wow, what a catch! He's a liar, been in jail, he's secretive, sounds like a user, jeez...I wonder what else he is? I wouldn't concern myself with him, in fact, instead of bitching about how "ugly" this woman is, I'd feel rather bad for her instead. I'd rather be ugly on the outside, than on the inside, but that's just me. Sounds like she has done an awful lot for him, for him to hide things from her. Link to post Share on other sites
Bionic Me Posted March 21, 2011 Share Posted March 21, 2011 this guy that i know and talk to occasionaly became friends, he was super nice and respectful. he has a gf and he still kinda flirted with me. well he hasnt written to me in about 4 days so i go check his page on facebook and he deleted me. i couldnt believe it. i met him when i was 15 we dated briefly and just came back into contact. either way... it wasnt a problem until now. by the way his girlfriend is 10 years older than him adn ugly... but i never told him that. why would he delete me? Whatever she is (ugly, fat, etc) it's really none of your business, babe. Makes you look unpretty too, stooping to that level of picking flaws. Maybe he was asked by his GF to disconnect and he respected her wishes. Maybe he sense trouble by keeping a connection with you, and took charge before it ended in a mess or simply he doesn't want to fux with you. He has a GF, yet he flirts with you and you want to entice it? He deleted you. Respect it and have some grace. Keep it moving. That is my best palabra. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yessy21 Posted March 23, 2011 Author Share Posted March 23, 2011 ha! i aint writing him nada! but i used to have penpals and we wrote to each other all the time. letters are beautiful. i just didnt like the unjustice of unfriending me under no circumstances. yes she is ugly and old. he has said it himself. he liked her inner beauty. i do respect that. i liked him and i know that he used to like me a long time ago and maybe still does now too... but i havent answered him and now he is emailing my sister asking why i dont answer his emails... soooo as i said..... i am not putting myself in that predicament. i guess i was also being defensive by calling her ugly. i have no right. well i am human. Link to post Share on other sites
alethean Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 ha! i aint writing him nada! but i used to have penpals and we wrote to each other all the time. letters are beautiful. i just didnt like the unjustice of unfriending me under no circumstances. yes she is ugly and old. he has said it himself. he liked her inner beauty. i do respect that. i liked him and i know that he used to like me a long time ago and maybe still does now too... but i havent answered him and now he is emailing my sister asking why i dont answer his emails... soooo as i said..... i am not putting myself in that predicament. i guess i was also being defensive by calling her ugly. i have no right. well i am human. Lol. I definitely appreciate your honesty throughout this thread. It's refreshing. As for the guy...yeah. That sucks. He wants to have his cake and eat it too (or whatever that silly expression is). Well, at least you're smart enough not to become his next victim. Link to post Share on other sites
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