tom_gbr Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 thought it would be a good idea last night to phone the ex girlfriend last night as hadnt spoken to her or had any contact since the last time i saw her, which was just as a friend as we had broken up two weeks before, so i saw her last wednesday. wanted to phone her to find out how she was and what she had been up too. i never thought she would of been as upbeat and happy as she was when i phoned her. she answered the phone and sounded excited to hear from me and said it was strange as she was gonna text me later. she was asking loads of questions about what id been up too and how i was. we had a great phone conversation but it was starting to upset me as i didnt think it was right so i ended it. i told her where i was right now and that im finding it really hard coping and i dont think that im gonna contact her for a while. i cant understand why she was so upbeat and happy on the phone. was it because shes feeling happier now shes single or was it because i had phoned her? what do you guys think? it really messed my head up as she knows that my feelings havent changed at all and that i still love her as much as when i was going out with her Link to post Share on other sites
Stiletto Posted April 1, 2004 Share Posted April 1, 2004 Did SHE broke up with you? Stiletto Link to post Share on other sites
Hesitant4Now Posted April 1, 2004 Share Posted April 1, 2004 Dear tom_gbr: I did the same thing last week, and have been having caller's regrets. I broke up w/ him, but was feeling bad & called him @ a week & 1/2 after the breakup. He sounded light and nonchalant, but I think he was trying to cover-up his real feelings. We saw each other in the gym a week later & seemed to have a friendly conversation, but no activity since then .... but one positive note is that I've been checking his match.com profile, he's not been online since my call. Keep your fingers crossed - I'll do the same for you! Link to post Share on other sites
Dixiecron Posted April 1, 2004 Share Posted April 1, 2004 tom_gbr, Calling wasn't such a good idea, was it? As the resident exponent of the no contact (whatsoever) policy, I'll say this: She's the one who dumped you, right? So why are you calling her? It just messes you up, as you have found out. Stop trying to figure out what her reaction to the call meant. Actions speak louder than words. So far her actions say she doesn't want to be with you. Now that you've caved in, don't call her again. On the other hand, excellent job on telling her you won't be calling for a while. If you're smart "a while" will be "forever". If I'm not mistaken, this is the same b***h that ditched you after you took her to Paris for Valentines. I know its easier said than done, but forget her, and GET YOUR STUDIES DONE WITH. I know this from some very hard earned experience with the first so-called "love of my life". Once you've gotten that out of the way and gotten your s**t together, then go out and find a woman that is worth taking to Paris. Hesitant4Now, If you dumped him, why the hell should you expect him to act like he gives a damn about you? Did you want to get a little ego boost by finding out that he still cares and is hurting since you dumped him? Did you want to think that you could go back to him after dumping him? If you want him back you need to try for real. Link to post Share on other sites
tom_gbr Posted April 1, 2004 Share Posted April 1, 2004 thanks guys for your advice i know what you mean by saying that she dumped me so why should i give a damn, your right but our breakup was my complicated as she thinks shes suffering from mental health problems and i still wanna be there for her. when i was speakin to her i was thinking this is all fine and good now but do i really wanna be speaking to her in another couple of weeks when she is out meeting new guys or has a new boyfriend? she said thats she not going to have a boyfriend for a long time but i know what she was like before she met me, she's going to be just seeing some guys for a bit of fun and that still hurts like hell. at the end of the day i think she is trying to come out of this relationship with the best of both worlds, she gets to be single again and she can meet someone new, but yet she still has me in her life as a friend and someone she can talk to when she's down. she knows that no one can love her as much as i do and no one will treat her better. Im sorry i love her to the end of te earth but i dont wanna be the mug that has his ex girlfriend crying down the phone because her latest boyfriend messed her around. Link to post Share on other sites
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