dreamingoftigers Posted March 20, 2011 Share Posted March 20, 2011 :lmao:And here's another little secret - a woman can be a super-model and 99% of men will STILL act like a jackass and want more. And that would be because they're jackasses. Seems that those super-models don't do to well with marriage either. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted March 20, 2011 Share Posted March 20, 2011 God, what are you - the food police? Every single thing the woman puts in her mouth you've described in one of your posts. What I don't understand is why SHE'S willing to allow you to chip away at her self esteem every single day... By the way, if you read all my posts you would see that I rarely say anything to her about what she eats. I said it is a sore subject and I don't bring it up. I called it a white elephant in the room remember? That's something that is there, however you don't say anything about it. i will tell you this... people put out/off certain energy without saying anything. don't think for a moment your wife can't read your energy and body language... especially when you sleep away from her and avoid intimacy. now would you please answer my question above in post 87? i have asked now three times... Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted March 20, 2011 Share Posted March 20, 2011 I have to agree with this. I wonder what the reaction would be if we reversed the genders. Do women love their men for who they are? I loved and felt attracted to my husband when he looked pregnant. We took matching maternity pictures when I was 8 months pregnant with our daughter. Link to post Share on other sites
sniffys Posted March 20, 2011 Share Posted March 20, 2011 @dreaming - i have that sugar/white flour addiction too, but i dont eat it every day (i'd rather buy stuff to wear, etc) but when its in front of my face..i eat it anyway my friend told me that i can eat all the meats i want and it will help me lose weight, just as long as i dont eat bread or rice , etc with it. so being presented with bacon, steaks, etc i choose the meat im happy knowing i can eat bacon if i want to, or any meat, with moderation of course. Link to post Share on other sites
WorldIsYours Posted March 20, 2011 Share Posted March 20, 2011 saying there's some wipes upstairs for her to clean her ass with. No wonder she doesn't want to do a lot for you, man. WorldIsYours, you're a real dick for saying this. I said when she saw the huggies she asked what's up and I told her that I heard on Howard Stern that he uses them after regular wiping to do that little extra cleaning to smell fresher. She just laughed and thought it was one of my germ phobia things. She never uses them and I have never told her to use them. Stop putting words in my mouth. Like I said man, this type of attitude you bring around her is hurting her. Just divorce if all you're going to do is be disrespectful. If you really wanted to help her out, you wouldn't be trashing your wife's self-esteem, and hiding behind Howard Stern. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tanner2000 Posted March 20, 2011 Author Share Posted March 20, 2011 tell me what YOU can do to be the CHANGE in your marriage that YOU expect to see I need to tell her she looks great more often, even if I don't think she looks great. I guess like women faking orgasms for a husband. I need to to continue to ask her to join me for a walk, bike ride or workout. I need to be more involved in the meals and impart my healthy eating habits on her. I need to get back in bed with her. But if she starts snoring, I'm back on the couch, because it's really bad. I'll ask her out more often. I asked if she wanted to go to Vegas and she said she would love to. I'm making an effort here and have been doing these things for years, however not on a regular basis. I don't cheat and never would. She knows that and has said to me that I'm not that kind of guy. I respect her too much to ever do that. I'm an Eagle Scout and if any of you know what that means, you'll see that I am a good guy. I do have the weight hang up though. I went for a bike ride this morning by myself, she said she was too tired to go. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted March 20, 2011 Share Posted March 20, 2011 Please respond to my post too. I hope that you have read and considered that it may be physiological and that there may be more work here and more support required. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tanner2000 Posted March 21, 2011 Author Share Posted March 21, 2011 Please respond to my post too. I hope that you have read and considered that it may be physiological and that there may be more work here and more support required. I'll check out the books you mentioned. It would be nice to be able to download them to my iPad as I don't want her seeing me reading them. Unless, seeing me reading them would hint to her that I am doing what I can to help in other areas than just diet and exercise. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted March 21, 2011 Share Posted March 21, 2011 tell me what YOU can do to be the CHANGE in your marriage that YOU expect to see I need to tell her she looks great more often, even if I don't think she looks great. I guess like women faking orgasms for a husband. I need to to continue to ask her to join me for a walk, bike ride or workout. I need to be more involved in the meals and impart my healthy eating habits on her. I need to get back in bed with her. But if she starts snoring, I'm back on the couch, because it's really bad. I'll ask her out more often. I asked if she wanted to go to Vegas and she said she would love to. I'm making an effort here and have been doing these things for years, however not on a regular basis. I don't cheat and never would. She knows that and has said to me that I'm not that kind of guy. I respect her too much to ever do that. I'm an Eagle Scout and if any of you know what that means, you'll see that I am a good guy. I do have the weight hang up though. I went for a bike ride this morning by myself, she said she was too tired to go. i think the mixed and negative energy you are giving off is because you show evidence of being highly critical of a woman you state you love- yet at the same time show evidence of YOU being this ultra great husband and have such an elevated opinion of yourself while showing otherwise. a woman wants EMOTIONAL attachment with the man she loves = intimacy! you are with holding that part of the relationship and are completely unaware of what that means. get connected! get to KNOW your wife. know her deep inside... not just how she looks... you are missing the whole point of having the privilege of knowing her... and when it becomes more of how SHE feels instead of being so concerned about you - then, and only then - will you understand what it means to love her. right now - your love is simply selfish and self serving = i'm sure she understands she short changed her emotional side when she married you. you NEED counseling. learn how to be giving... without all your expectations attached to why you give. too bad being an Eagle Scout didn't teach you how to consider being unselfish... and how to achieve an authentic connection with the woman you married. your wife is empty. she's trying to comfort and fill herself up with food - mainly because she knows she's missing out on a true marriage but she doesn't want to leave you... but she's stuck because she knows you won't do the changing to become what she needs to be happy... a man who understands how to FEEL and express how he feels without all those strings attached. you must stop worrying about keeping up with others - and what others think... you have about killed the spirit of your wife. get bust - you need serious counseling. can you start with counseling immediately? Link to post Share on other sites
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