Hopeless_Romantico Posted March 17, 2011 Share Posted March 17, 2011 Well folks, I have fallen in love with this lady and I really dig some aspects about her. I love her fashion-the way she dresses definitely make heads turn but in a good way! She always gets compliments from men and women alike and wears awesome wigs, dresses, hats, boots, stuff that just really make her stand out and look damn sexy. She has a style all her own! She has a very cute bubbly, friendly and funny personality. She's young at heart and just so easy going and loves the simple things in life. Of course she's also gorgeous and we have plenty in common with each other which I love. We can converse about so many stuff and I enjoy talking and being with her (sometimes, I'll explain). Now, for the bad: I understand where she comes from. She has gone through a lot of crap in her life when it comes to relationships and has gone through domestic violence being physically, mentally and verbally abused by her ex-husband. They rushed into getting married and she also has legal troubles with this guy and its just traumatized her and made her afraid to be in relationships or trust other men, which is understandable. Me and her though we have gotten close, things between us just sometimes go sour and I feel like I have to second guess being with her. The reason being is because I feel as if I can't do anything right by or for her. We usually get into disputes because she takes things the wrong ways. I'll give some examples. One time her and I had phone sex which she initiated, then the next day she said she felt bad the relationship was becoming sexual because she really likes me and wants more of me then sex at the moment. I respected that but fast forward a few days later, we mentioned making out and then I simply just implied that I want to hold her close to me and with our bodies close together. For a day and a half she ignores me completely but post stuff all over Facebook but doesn't give me a text back. She explained that I was trying to get sexual with her and thought I was going after just that, I had to bang into her head she took it the wrong way. Things got resolved, business as usual. Then we got into another dispute because I got into a scuffle in another state and was in a precinct jail till bail was posted and had my phone confiscated. For the past few days she thought I was just ignoring her and when I tried reaching her I had to BANG into her head what the situation was. Then we got into another dispute this time because she was telling me how she wants to change things in her life and find real friends and not be around negative people. She also said she wants to see me more often but due to the distance between us (3 hours drive) she was afraid of falling in love and then being so distant. I simply told her "Well, what do want? Rather be around and complain about the negative people who will plague you are be just a little further away from someone who cares, loves you and want to give you nothing but happiness?". It was through text so she mistook that as me being arrogant, rude, obnoxious self-righteous etc and didn't appreciate me (being 6 years young, she's 30 I am 24) talking to her in that town. We got that situation resolved and I went to see her the day after that. We hung out and had a nice time, HOWEVER, she got so upset that I complimented on her legs....Yeah, she said she wanted chicken legs and all I told her that chicken legs are overrated and that I LOVE her legs. I showed it and told her and told her that there's no problem with her legs having no meat on it. However, she took what I said WAY out of context, AGAIN and pushed herself off me. Which really made me depressed because I traveled that way to go her happy because she was very depressed and crying all day but I get no love for not even insulting her. PLUS, I brought her a present for her birthday, took her out to eat and all that. We parted ways on the sour note that she was mad about me "insulting" her legs just for saying they were meaty. NOT fat, not ugly, NOTHING negative. Then this past Monday, I had a horrible day. I got some bad news on my health and some other stuff I won't go into but I basically shut my phone off and isolated myself by taking a walk and sleeping most the day. The next day she thought I was ignoring her but I explained that I had a terrible day Monday. Surprisingly she sort of understood but went on to tell me how her day was miserable and I let her vent to me, of course. However, I tried being optimistic and told her some stuff to hopefully brighten her day. It all seemed to reverse on me because she ignored me the WHOLE entire day yesterday despite me posting a message on her for Facebook, and sending several text throughout the day. This morning I finally get through to her and told her why isn't she texting me back when I see she can go on Facebook throughout the night and post away but can't leave a simple message. I'm just frustrated that she can never understand me. Everything I say, she takes the wrong way, overreacts, flies off the handle. When I'm just trying to be honest in a nice and helpful way, she takes it the wrong way. It just makes upset. I understand she's sensitive, that she has two kids and is no longer married, that she goes through a lot of junk with her husband, that she has one obsessed friend who just treats her like crap. However, its no excuse to be so guarded with me. At times I feel like dropping her because it makes me depressed that I feel like I have to walk on eggshells with her on what I say because one little thing hurts her, she doesn't let it leave her head. I love this girl and WANT to make things work but she just doesn't seem to understand that I am NOT trying to hurt her at all. Ugh, sorry. I'll let you guys give some input then I can elaborate more since I don't want anyone's eyes to get sore and bored of reading. I am just trying to simplify stuff. So give me your input everyone and we can trade opinions. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
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