tom_gbr Posted April 1, 2004 Share Posted April 1, 2004 im having one of them real real low days when when you feel completly sh*t from the moment you wake up. you know what i mean. when all the things that you and your ex have done together, all those amazing times, come into your head and you cant understand why you arnt still together and why she wants to be apart from you and why she wants to be with someone else. i did everything for her. everything that i could possibly do to make her happy, i took her to paris. spent xmas with her, whenever she needed me i was there for her. ive came out of this not knowing why we are not together. all she said that with everything thats going on in her life she doesnt need a boyfriend right now. i wish the pain would go away Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted April 1, 2004 Share Posted April 1, 2004 Originally posted by tom_gbr i i wish the pain would go away It will....but it won't happen overnight. Regardless of what all you do for someone or how many memories you shared...you still can't make a person love you. The worst part is....they can't make themselves love you either. Link to post Share on other sites
sinkerswim Posted April 1, 2004 Share Posted April 1, 2004 Tom you and I have our bad days on the same days.... I cried all morning thinking about him. I cant figure out why he wont talk to me. Did I do something that bad? Yes..I was controlling...but why cant he at least sit and talk about things with me after 8 years. Seems like everyone else gets that chance but me. I am sooo hurt by this. I hurt because I miss him sooo much and he wont communicate with me...its part of his personality.. but I wonder if I did something that bad to be ignored like this. A good friend of mine told me that its probably because he is insecure and cant face his own grief/guilt..so why would he face mine? To make things worse on himself. Its a lousy thing to do. But it sounds like it could be the reason. Link to post Share on other sites
curiousgeorge Posted April 1, 2004 Share Posted April 1, 2004 When I got divorced I felt like this for a year. It was really hard to get out of bed every day. Then it got better and better. You will get better as well. Until then just go through the motions and keep fighting it to the best of your ability. Try to stay active. This should help and make friends with people here. you can write me if you want. I will PM you with my address. I just wish I had had this website when I went through the break with my wife. Anyway just keep strong. Renee.... quit writing your story to everyone over and over again. If you answer someone's mail try to be supportive instead of bringing them down. Its not fair. Link to post Share on other sites
sinkerswim Posted April 1, 2004 Share Posted April 1, 2004 Sorry..I was just aggreeing with him. I also come to this site because I have nowhere to turn to besides family and friends. I thought this was a support group site. Its been helping listening to people and writing to people. I am going through the same thing! So I am telling him. I dont know what else to do already. Forgive me for being so self centered. If I cant come here and vent, then I dont know. Im sorry If I cant be enough support to people. Im in the same boat..I write to tell them they are not alone. Link to post Share on other sites
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