Eternal Sunshine Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 This is still bugging me. I am just wondering if anyone else has ever been in the same shoes. Being rejected for NSA sex means that the guy must find you really ugly indeed
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 Nah, he is single - that's the worst part. Seriously WTH
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 yes:bunny: Hey you This is Oceangirl. I would love to stay in touch with you off the forums but have no privileges to PM you.
Knittress Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 I honestly think some men only want to have sex with people have have an emotional connection with. Er... um... then again, my last ex might have been gay.
Titania22 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Hey you This is Oceangirl. I would love to stay in touch with you off the forums but have no privileges to PM you. Yeah, well I can pm you when you get the privileges. I missed you.
eric82 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 I'm a guy and have turned down sex. It's not because you're ugly or undesirable to men in general, and it's not because he's gay or religious. It's because he's not attracted to you and therefore he doesn't want to stick his dick in you. As for no strings attached, in my opinion that's rarely the case. Even when a woman has convinced herself that's all it is going to be in the beginning... reality shows up when she starts cock-blocking you around other women and pushing for something more.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 I'm a guy and have turned down sex. It's not because you're ugly or undesirable to men in general, and it's not because he's gay or religious. It's because he's not attracted to you and therefore he doesn't want to stick his dick in you. As for no strings attached, in my opinion that's rarely the case. Even when a woman has convinced herself that's all it is going to be in the beginning... reality shows up when she starts cock-blocking you around other women and pushing for something more. Yep. That's pretty much the blunt answer.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 Yeah, well I can pm you when you get the privileges. I missed you. Aww missed you too girl
anne1707 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 As for no strings attached, in my opinion that's rarely the case. Even when a woman has convinced herself that's all it is going to be in the beginning. OG If it really was NSA for you then you would not still be posting about it and be so bothered by his rejection, especially now that you are dating someone else. Does your new bf know you are thinking about someone else so much?
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 OG If it really was NSA for you then you would not still be posting about it and be so bothered by his rejection, especially now that you are dating someone else. Does your new bf know you are thinking about someone else so much? Hey anne, I am not really thinking about HIM - I am thinking about the rejection of NSA sex itself. Just finding it hard to take. Especially since he seemed really into me when we made out.
betterdeal Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Maybe he's a human being and as such can have one or more of millions of reasons. Just an idea. Or it just women who are complicated, have multiple dimensions, different tastes, and issues in your world?
P&R Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Don't dwell on it OG, there is no reason too. He could of had a million other reasons why he didn't want to have sex with you. Besides you have another man in your life. A person who finds you attractive, and likes you.
Emilia Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 This is still bugging me. I am just wondering if anyone else has ever been in the same shoes. Being rejected for NSA sex means that the guy must find you really ugly indeed I think it's a bad idea to suggest NSA to a man, if he wants it he will ask for it. It's not the same as taking the initiative to ask someone out on a date. generally speaking it's a good idea to come across as someone with substantial self respect
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 Don't dwell on it OG, there is no reason too. He could of had a million other reasons why he didn't want to have sex with you. Besides you have another man in your life. A person who finds you attractive, and likes you. Yeah, I have someone who not only wants to have sex with me, but also likes my personality and wants to be with me for real. I got a much better deal. Thanks for pointing it out.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 I think it's a bad idea to suggest NSA to a man, if he wants it he will ask for it. It's not the same as taking the initiative to ask someone out on a date. generally speaking it's a good idea to come across as someone with substantial self respect It probably comes across as cheap and desperate :S
Trojan John Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 I've turned a woman (nude and coming out of my shower) down for sex before. She was a friend and I wanted to keep it that way. Ironically, we are no longer friends.
Titania22 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 I think it's a bad idea to suggest NSA to a man, if he wants it he will ask for it. It's not the same as taking the initiative to ask someone out on a date. generally speaking it's a good idea to come across as someone with substantial self respect Actually, I once asked a guy for sex, in front of 2 other guys, and the next time one of those other guys saw me, he told me he really respected my forthrightness. To be clear I didn't specify NSA, I just asked for sex. Thankfully it was one time I wasn't refused, and actually was the best sex of my life.
Titania22 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 I've turned a woman (nude and coming out of my shower) down for sex before. She was a friend and I wanted to keep it that way. Ironically, we are no longer friends. I think that's in the fine print, girls don't appreciate getting rejected.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 Yep, the guy that rejected me for sex offered me friendship and wanted to go out for a beer I felt so humiliated by his rejection that I turned him down. We never spoke again.
betterdeal Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Nobody appreciates being rejected. I doubt you like reduced to a simple caricature, yet these attempts to fit everyone into a few categories is doing just that.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 BTW Titania, I think that it's easier to have one off sex and you are less likely to get rejected if you come on to a man that way. But to ask him cold for NSA arrangement implies some sort of commitment, if only commitment to see you multiple times for sex. Some men find even that too much to take.
Trojan John Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Yep, the guy that rejected me for sex offered me friendship and wanted to go out for a beer I felt so humiliated by his rejection that I turned him down. We never spoke again. That's not fair. I'm sure if the roles were reversed you would take offense, no? I'd known the woman for six or seven years. I had approached her several times in the past, but I'd resolved myself to being the best friend I could be. In response, she had sex with some guy and ended up pregnant within the same month. I dodge bullets like Neo. However, she was an anomaly. I'm still friends with other women I've rejected or who have rejected me in the past. My excuse these days is that I'm happily married.
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