shawn923 Posted March 18, 2011 Share Posted March 18, 2011 Just wondering... Has any of the advice given on here, such as NC, actually lead to reconciliation? Just wondering... All i ever hear is heartbreaking stories. It would be nice to hear a positive one from somebody whose played these games, and is now in a happy relationship! Anybody out there? Link to post Share on other sites
Lovely House Wife Posted March 18, 2011 Share Posted March 18, 2011 My husband and I were married for 4 years and had two children... things didn't work out so well between us we decided to seperate and get a divorce. About a year later we decided to give our relationship another go and try different types of counseling to help pinpoint our problems. During our seperation I used this forum a lot, and just seeing that I wasn't alone helped me through the emmontial hardships of divorce. I'm not sure if this really answered your question....but every little bit helps Link to post Share on other sites
heartbrokengrl Posted March 19, 2011 Share Posted March 19, 2011 don't know if this is "successful" yet but we were only together for 2 months and he had just come out of a 8 year relationship (4 year engaged) and they only broke up a few months ago and he was still not ready and tried to break it off twice. I stayed by his side, didn't pressure him, just having fun and taking things slow and so far so good. he's back to being awesome and texting/e-mailing me like we used to. it hasn't been that long since he's been like this, but being hopeful. i know it's still hard for him to try and move on from what he had with his ex-fiance, but by enjoying our time together, im hoping it's doing him and us some good and i can see him really falling for me i hope! Link to post Share on other sites
PowerOfOne Posted March 19, 2011 Share Posted March 19, 2011 I don't think you'll find too many people on this forum that are now in a happy relationship. This is a forum for people going through breakups you know. But I'll give you my experience with NC and second chances. When my ex ex and I broke up I found this site early and went NC after a couple of days. Well she came back begging to try again after 5 months, 1.5 years and 4 years. All NC from my side (including ignoring her calls for months on end). All contact initiated by her. Each and everytime I told her I had moved on and didn't want to go back there. So not a success story. But I had the option. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shawn923 Posted March 19, 2011 Author Share Posted March 19, 2011 I don't think you'll find too many people on this forum that are now in a happy relationship. This is a forum for people going through breakups you know. But I'll give you my experience with NC and second chances. When my ex ex and I broke up I found this site early and went NC after a couple of days. Well she came back begging to try again after 5 months, 1.5 years and 4 years. All NC from my side (including ignoring her calls for months on end). All contact initiated by her. Each and everytime I told her I had moved on and didn't want to go back there. So not a success story. But I had the option. So even after ignoring her, she still tried to contact you?? how much contact did u give her those first 5 months? also were u the one who got dumped? Link to post Share on other sites
BackToYou Posted March 19, 2011 Share Posted March 19, 2011 I got my ex back after 7 months. She did not even consider to get back with me until I went NC for 2,5 months. NC made her realize that she made a wrong decision. I tried all different approaches to get her back but only NC did the magic. Anyway, she dumped me again month ago. NC ever since. I am not sure if I ever want to be with her again if she comes back but who knows what future brings. Link to post Share on other sites
PowerOfOne Posted March 21, 2011 Share Posted March 21, 2011 So even after ignoring her, she still tried to contact you?? how much contact did u give her those first 5 months? also were u the one who got dumped? Yep. In the couple of months after we broke up there was only a couple of texts, then I got invited round to her place to catchup. I ended up crashing in bed with her that night (no sex involved). She was still with the rebound at that stage. After that night I was really messed up so I went NC. Ignored her calls for a good 3 months when she turned up at the front door one night unannounced. She did that again a year later. And then a few years later she called, I answered and we spoke for a while. A couple of months later I went round to see her. Didn't really want to but she hounded me for ages. Each time she wanted to get back together. We had a messy breakup. We got into a huge fight and I walked out saying never contact me again. I won't go into details but I was quite justified. Anyway a couple of days later when I had cooled down I went to see what the deal was with us. She didn't want to continue. I was pretty messed up, first love and all - even if it was a terrible relationship. I was completely over her by the time she came knocking the first time. And each time since. NC worked in that case because she was quite full of herself and couldn't accept someone wouldn't want to be with her. Link to post Share on other sites
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