Poison_Ivy2121 Posted April 1, 2004 Share Posted April 1, 2004 [font=courier new][/font][color=blue][/color] The other night my fiance and I got into a argument over something totally stupid like religion. He told me he was thinking about breaking up with me. Course I love him and I cried for about a day and a half. He tells me that today that he wants to forget the past and start fresh. Its not that easy for me. I remember there was a time that he was in jail and I was standing by him side the whole time trying to get him bailed out. I never would have left him. Never once have I ever thought of breaking up with him. I love him so much. He sits there now and says that he loves me and that he doesn't wanna lose me, but do you think he is saying that because he sees how hurt I am or do you think he really means it? I've always been there for him. I don't want to lose him now. We are supposed to be gettin married. He says not to worry theres no one else. But I wanna know whats going on. I sit here everyday just waiting for him to tell me he no longer wants to be with me. I'm trying to push myself away, I'm becoming very distant, I'm trying to detach from him and he doesn't understand why. He thinks just because he says lets start over fresh that I am not gonna remember. Him telling me he was thinking about breaking up was one of the hardest blows I have ever taken. Link to post Share on other sites
sarah42 Posted April 2, 2004 Share Posted April 2, 2004 You really need to talk to him. You need to ask him how he honestly feels about you and if he wants a future with you. I'm on the other side of the fence where my ex gave me no opportunity to talk to him about us. He just dumped me by phone, wouldn't see me, and I can't tell you how much I wish I'd had the chance to talk to him. At least you are in the position where you can talk to him. If you are trying to detach yourself from him and he doesn't know why, he may think you don't want him and he may be scared to ask you how you feel. If you're really sure you want him then tell him and ask him to be honest with you. Best of luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Poison_Ivy2121 Posted April 2, 2004 Author Share Posted April 2, 2004 yea I know I need to try to talk to him a lil more, the hard part is we've been livin together the last 6 months. So he can't just dump me by phone. Link to post Share on other sites
Martin Guerrini Posted April 2, 2004 Share Posted April 2, 2004 I agree with Sarah. Let him know that you need an open-heart coversation with him. By now I don't see anything clear except for your hurt after the argument. Link to post Share on other sites
sarah42 Posted April 2, 2004 Share Posted April 2, 2004 It doesn't really matter whether you're living together or not. The fact is if he moved out and you become 'estranged' and you're not in a position to talk to him, it becomes even harder. I know from experience when you're 'not talking' just how hard it is. Don't put yourself in that position. You have a chance to talk, TAKE IT. I can't talk to my ex because he's cut me off. Don't wait until you are in my position. I wouldn't wish that on anyone. Link to post Share on other sites
ace6061 Posted April 2, 2004 Share Posted April 2, 2004 Ivy Mavbe you should hold on to the fact that he did say lets start over and not I'm leaving. Maybe he noticed some problems arising in the relationship and he thought that was the way to fix them. Maybe his intentions were better then you are thinking. I am in almost the some boat as sarah. My fiance left me in the cold. He hasen't left! You pushing him away may just make things worse. Talk to him before it gets worse. I'm hoping things work out for you. Link to post Share on other sites
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