She liked me, and I screwed it up. What do I do tomorrow?

[WilliamY]

I'm not popular (that's right, another high schooler . . .) or attractive or anything, so why this girl likes me, I don't know.

 

I and everyone go to the same places and do the same things just the same every day. So, it was just very conspicuous. This girl, I've always thought she was pretty, she kept looking at me. Turning her head. Just being there when she really hasn't been ever before. She was trying to get my attention over and over, I didn't know why and I'm so confused. I ignored her every attempt for the last two weeks. Last Friday seem kinda pissed about it. But this week she kept trying, except for today. Today she really did just give up. I've blown it. I'm an idiot, and I've totally blown it. I don't know what I can do? I didn't know what she wanted me to do. And she's always got friends round her, well, and so do I. And we're both way too shy. I never talk to girls. Especially if I like them.

 

Point is, I need to talk to her or do something, tomorrow, the end of the week. In my mind that's my very last chance, If I've even got one.

 

Or maybe I'm worrying over absolutely nothing!

[Darkangelism]

You need to talk to he, oh and get some confidence in urself.

[fundamental]

Hey bud, just talk to her like you would one of your friends. I know it's easier said than done but just give it a shot. Don't miss out on an opportunity to meet someone, because if you do, you will always think about it. Just say "Hey, what's up, do you got a problem with me?" Do it in a joking way though--to break the ice.

 

Good luck!

 

 

fundamental

[purehearted]

first of all - have some confidence in yourself! maybe your self-perception is a little warped (as all of ours is) and other people perceive you as attractive and popular even though you don't.

 

if she's always with her friends, making it difficult for you to approach her, maybe you could slip her a note and ask her to drop you an e-mail or give you a call or something. it sounds, though, like she's making it pretty obvious that she has an interest - so it's worth a shot on your part!

[WilliamY]

Thanks.

 

So long had passed by, and I had done nothing. But I talked to her, sort of, on Friday. I snuck up on her at the beginning of lunch, the first time I've ever seen her by herself. I mumbled 'what's your problem', so I don't think she heard what I said. She would hardly even face me too, though. I asked her what her name was, and she gave me it, and she was smiling . . . ; I said "yeah, that's what I thought." For some reason I said everything angrily. I don't understand myself. I couldn't think of anything else to say, and she had her back to me, so I mumbled, "all right, fine," and just walked away.

 

The ice has definitely not been broken. I feel worse every day about it. I've been moping around school, not really talking to anyone. But I do now I see it's not that hard.

 

Sometimes she'd pass by at a certain walkway, but again, always with friends. Today, though, by that walkway, she was alone, and she almost walked right into me. I should have just turned around and caught up with her, since the rest of the day, she was almost hidden, as though she's lost interest, or never had any. I'm gettin that a lot. But, if these weeks of me doing nothing haven't stopped her altogether, I guess today wouldn't be all that different.

 

We're both so shy . . . if I can catch up to her still, tomorrow, what should I do? Slip her a note like Purehearted said?

[sportsloving]

Slip her a note

 

I was really shy in school, so if I was interested in a guy, I would constantly be where I knew he would be (lol, sometimes just so I could say "Yeah, I saw him"). It does get better as you get older, but those school years are really tough on an shy ego.

 

I also found that it was easier for me to talk to someone if it was on the phone rather than face to face (at least to begin with). I used to spend hours on the phone with him at night, and we could talk about everything and anything.. but in the light of the school halls, we would barely say hi to each other. Now of course you can use IM and email.

 

The object of my affection, lol, turned into a great friend and nothing more... but to this day every once in awhile we will still talk and laugh about "back then". (I think he stills wants me to set him up with my single friends, LMAO).

 

I wish you loads of luck

[Kelebek]

Hi William

 

God, you sound just like I did when I really liked this guy at school, and didn't know how he felt...although my instinct told me he did. If you think she likes you, then you never know - maybe she actually does, trust yourself!!!

 

Do you ever stop and think how many opportunities we let pass us by, simply because we're too scared to take the chance? I do...and it makes me go for it!! Sure, I'm scared of getting hurt, and fear of rejection - especially in school years, is a nasty thought. I'm sure you're imagining how embarrassed you'd be if it all went wrong. But at least you'd have given yourself the CHANCE! If you go for it, and get turned down...fine, so you don't get a date, at least you tried. But if you never ask her, then you DEFINITELY won't ever get a date with her!

 

I know it's tough, believe me. And maybe don't be too obvious about it - I realise you're nervous, who wouldn't be The next time she looks at you, give her a big smile, maybe look away...then look back. If you see her heading towards a door, rush over and open it. Those kind of hints let her know that you like her, and however she reacts will let you know how she feels. If she distances even further from you, then you'll know she's not into you - but you haven't actually experienced public rejection. However, she may smile back, breaking the ice...and then you know to keep going.

 

Just relax - she's only a girl, try and talk to her as if it was just anyone (believe me I know it's hard but it works) Sure, I'm in the "beginnings" with a new guy of my own, and I'm nervous as hell. But I just force myself to chat away and be normal! I never, ever thought this guy would like me, but I just went for it, thinking "Well, if I don't, I'll never know." And what's the worst that could happen? A bit of rejection? Sure, it's horrible, but you'd get over it, trust me

 

Oh and by the way - I never went for it with that guy in school....turns out he liked me for ages at the same time!!! See what you miss out on if you don't give yourself a chance.....

 

Good luck William, I'm thinking of you and hoping it goes well. Little subtle hints (although not TOO subtle remember) should do the trick, so that you can suss her out before making a proper move.

 

Take care

[WilliamY]

I didn't see her anywhere at first, so I walked where I thought she'd be at lunch again, but just passed her by. Then later, I went 'n bought food; something I only do because I run into her a lot there. When I got my food, I turned around, and she and her friends were standing just near a foot away from me. A 'hi' blurted out of me, and she said 'hi' back. Again, I just walked away. I was so nervous that I dropped my drink, but I caught it before it hit the ground; I don't think anybody saw that.

 

Then they walked by where I eat my lunch, and then later at my next class at the end of lunch. I really wish I had said something again then because she was around after school where I usually am, but all by herself for once, but I had to leave early for an doctor's appointment.

 

If I can't get myself to say anything, what could I say in a note? Just give a phone number?

 

Thanks a lot for the responses though.

[Kelebek]

Well first of all - you said hi!! That's an improvement Did she say hi back in a nice way?

 

Sounds like you're slowly building up the courage, and I think you're doing well. You know, one guy once gave me a folded up bit of A4 paper, and inside was a little scribble of his mobile (cell) phone number and his home number...no words or anything, but it had a little colourful pressed flower next to it, a flower that he knew I loved. I was SO touched, it was such a personal and sweet thing for him to do. I didn't feel the same way about him, but I didn't make him feel rejected, because I thought it was such a lovely gesture that we became friends. No doubt he FELT rejected, but he wasn't publicly humiliated, you know?

 

So many you could try something like that...? Or would you prefer to actually write something? Sometimes actions speak louder than words though - I always remember that flower Just wish I'd fancied the guy, lol!! However, it sounds like she may have those feelings for you, and if you give her a little note like that, it's telling her without the actual agony of TELLING her, see what I mean? GO FOR IT!! What do you have to lose?? And look what you could gain!!

 

Good luck!

[WilliamY]

I think I need to say something in the note. You're so right though, I have nothing to lose.