Author s2k1099 Posted March 22, 2011 Author Share Posted March 22, 2011 In that vein, yah she probably targeted you. In that sense thank your lucky stars that you got away from this without serious financial impacts. I have no knowledge of the American legal system (thank heavens it seems...) is there any possibility this could come back to bite you in the a$$ later? Not at all. An annulment voids out a marriage in it's entirety like it never happened. Hypothetically speaking - I could get married on the 10th, get the marriage annulled on the 11th, and get married again to the same woman on the 12th. I wouldn't have thought i was lucky after it happened, but more signs point to a fraudulent reason she had. Then again, its early on. Link to post Share on other sites
CM2009 Posted March 22, 2011 Share Posted March 22, 2011 Yeah bro reading through this you were pretty reckless in your thinking, face it you and her were hit with drunk-love, I mean the foundation of your relationship started with an affair type of event because she was already engaged to someone else. From what you've said in your post you seem like your young, with no child of your own so my best advice is to try and put this sort of thing behind you and enjoy the rest of your life. Next time take a little bit more time to study the character of the individual whom your courting before deciding to get married, take care and God bless...... Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted March 22, 2011 Share Posted March 22, 2011 And the other reason, too, why she maybe didn't take this to court: she and/or her fiance already have a criminal record that could haunt them if they'd try to fleece you in court. Best for them to keep a low profile, bilk a few easy nice guys, without raising suspicion in the courts. didn't I see this on a much grander scale in the movie Tommy Boy? Link to post Share on other sites
Eeyore79 Posted March 22, 2011 Share Posted March 22, 2011 Just because she backed out, doesn't mean it wasn't planned as a scam. Maybe she initially planned to rip you off, but then felt guilty and decided not to. Or maybe her fiance made her do it because he wanted your money, and she stood up to him and said she wouldn't do it because you were a decent guy. Or maybe she realized she wasn't likely to get any of your money anyway, and could end up in big trouble if she was accused of trying to defraud you, so she just let it go. For whatever reason, she simply ended the marriage and went back to her old life. Count yourself lucky that she didn't rip you off, and be more sensible in future. Marrying a broke ex-stripper who was engaged and had a kid with someone else is probably one of the dumbest things you could do, never mind the fact that you married her so quickly! I really hope you can learn from this and not make any more crazy mistakes which could ruin your life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author s2k1099 Posted March 22, 2011 Author Share Posted March 22, 2011 s2k1099: With all compassion to her, even though she's a manipulator, she has an ingrained 'survivor's' mentality. She has to do what she has to do, and sadly it comes at the expense of potentially-loving relationships. No doubt she probably has a history of abuse (towards her), which has only solidified her world view (i.e. get what you can get and quickly before you get hurt, and then move on!). Correct again. Her history of abuse is extensive. Even more so beyond mine, and I've had a rough childhood. I could tell she always wanted to say things as i wanted to hear them. I had asked her a question once and she got nervous and said to herself "I'm trying to say what you want to hear" I never really took that statement too deeply though, but it seems it was the red light for this tainted matrimony. I've always been self sufficient and able to cope with devastation rather well, thank god. I just wanted unbiased opinions and now i know my thoughts were on track. But who knows? I haven't been able to contact her since then. I know for a fact if this was her attempt to swindle me and she backed out because of impending guilt, she defiantly knows how to make someone fall in love with her illegitimately. Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted March 22, 2011 Share Posted March 22, 2011 Hate to bring this up...but even in a very short-lived marriage as you had...no chance she could have gotten pregnant is there? Something you should probably consider in case that comes up as a paternity suit later on..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author s2k1099 Posted March 22, 2011 Author Share Posted March 22, 2011 The impulsivity I had, was indeed beyond moronic, however, irregardless of my financial disposition and how opposite of this woman i seem in this post, I was in juvenile placements from the age of 12 to 18. Ive had a lot of issues with things not-so-pretty.. I do feel this misfortune we shared was what connected us and gave us better understanding. I'm leaning more towards what eeyore mentioned about potential plan she may have had, then she backed out. But i may be thinking that so i wont feel insecure of my stupidity. And trust me, i don't consider normalcy having a shot gun wedding. But I'm no where near normal Link to post Share on other sites
Author s2k1099 Posted March 22, 2011 Author Share Posted March 22, 2011 Hate to bring this up...but even in a very short-lived marriage as you had...no chance she could have gotten pregnant is there? Something you should probably consider in case that comes up as a paternity suit later on..... I doubt it. She had a contraceptive device called implanon. It's a rod thats implanted in your skin with hormones that prevent pregnancy for 3 years. She still had her implant carrying card as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 22, 2011 Share Posted March 22, 2011 Anyway, me and her decided to start making plans for our future. She had left the father of her kids, but hadn't moved in with me yet. You've mentioned her five month old son. What about the other kid(s)? Where were they in all of this drama? I am surprised at all the posts suggesting that she was trying to scam you. I doubt it. If she were, and willing to go this far to do it, she would probably not have bailed with nothing to show for it. Not even a dentist appointment. If a grown man like yourself can get swept up in a fictional love affair like this, and make many decisions and moves based upon it, a woman can as well. Evidently that's what happened. Link to post Share on other sites
Author s2k1099 Posted March 22, 2011 Author Share Posted March 22, 2011 You've mentioned her five month old son. What about the other kid(s)? Where were they in all of this drama? I am surprised at all the posts suggesting that she was trying to scam you. I doubt it. If she were, and willing to go this far to do it, she would probably not have bailed with nothing to show for it. Not even a dentist appointment. If a grown man like yourself can get swept up in a fictional love affair like this, and make many decisions and moves based upon it, a woman can as well. Evidently that's what happened. That wasn't supposed to be plural. She has only one child. As fictional as it seems, it was a fictional ecstasy in a realistic world. It's hard to explain how that is. It's blinding to all reality, impulsively exciting and outlandish beyond a discernible explanation. The best explanation is in folklore, as ridiculous is that is of me to use as an example. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Succubus Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted March 22, 2011 Share Posted March 22, 2011 hahahha... i married and procreated with a 5'3 Succubi!! I'm sorry I just have to laugh. Link to post Share on other sites
worldgonewrong Posted March 22, 2011 Share Posted March 22, 2011 didn't I see this on a much grander scale in the movie Tommy Boy? Fat guy in a little coat! http://www.adamspiff.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/FatGuy.gif Link to post Share on other sites
Author s2k1099 Posted March 22, 2011 Author Share Posted March 22, 2011 Heres a better example for the star trek fan http://memory-alpha.org/wiki/Orion_slave_girl Link to post Share on other sites
Duckduckgoose Posted March 22, 2011 Share Posted March 22, 2011 Spot on with that one. She used to be a stripper. The man she's with is an unattractive, socially awkward guy, and shes been off and on with him for 4+ years. Shes been married twice and each time came back to him, because he's always willing to take her in despite her infidelity. Her intentions just confused me. But i believe she is just a mental case. She's been married twice and she's 22? Yeah mental case. Does the marriage with you make 3? Her track record speaks volumes. She wants to have the record for most marriages in a lifetime it seems... maybe you will be able to get your name in the Guinness book of world records? Okay I just read about it and it's a lady in the state of Indiana... married 23 times. Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted March 22, 2011 Share Posted March 22, 2011 yea man chalk this one up to experience and be so glad you were able to get it annulled. and stay away from engaged strippers with kids in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
worldgonewrong Posted March 22, 2011 Share Posted March 22, 2011 ...And that's one to grow on. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted March 22, 2011 Share Posted March 22, 2011 You should have seen this coming from 100 miles away. Next time be much smarter about who you commit to. Link to post Share on other sites
Duckduckgoose Posted March 22, 2011 Share Posted March 22, 2011 You should have seen this coming from 100 miles away. Next time be much smarter about who you commit to. He might have been the frog slowly boiling in the pot on this one. Stranger things have happened. I am not justifying anyone's behaviour or condoning anything just sayin' is all. Not like I can talk I suffer from bad judgement of character and true intentions as well. Link to post Share on other sites
WorldIsYours Posted March 22, 2011 Share Posted March 22, 2011 This has got to be a troll. The immaturity of this guys actions, his offensive/defensive posts, etc. It's either that or he's just one really selfish, immature person who refused to see that this skank was bad news from the start. Link to post Share on other sites
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