Jerrica Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 so an update on my story.... he came to get his stuff last night (I chose NOT to be there). When I did get home I noticed he didn't take all his stuff. There remains a computer desk, computer, an engine and engine hoist and his BBQ. I texted him mentioning he didn't take much of his stuff. He knows I want it out, because I'm getting a roommate. So I told him again "I really need your stuff out by this weekend" He replies with this: "blah blah, tell your new boyfriend to f*ck off if he has a problem with it. Piss off and leave me alone" This made me furious, he broke up with me and I'm moving on so how does he have a right to get mad at me? I NEVER mentioned EVER that I had a boyfriend (only a roommate moving in), these are his own assumptions...and my god it's only been 2 weeks, how could he possibly think I have a boyfriend already? oh well, let him think what he wants I guess... I got mad and of course stuck up for myself, told him I'm moving on with my life and reminded him this is what HE wanted! So I don't understand why he's being so miserable and bitter towards me, and that he's hurt me enough already. The last thing he texted me was "When I hurt, I push people away. Let's leave it at that." how selfish is it to push others away and hurt others when you are hurting? I didn't reply to his last text. Back to NC now, til he gets his stuff I guess. Anyway, why would he be so angry with me? He's the one who broke up with me and hurt me! It's not fair for him to be angry/jealous, make baseless accusations and treat me like I'm the bad guy when I did nothing but love him and be a good girlfriend. It just doesn't make sense. Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 he's just a prick? take the high road. Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 Put his crap on craigslist with a note that it will be available to be sold in 5 days. Forward it to him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jerrica Posted March 23, 2011 Author Share Posted March 23, 2011 "Put his crap on craigslist with a note that it will be available to be sold in 5 days. Forward it to him." I don't want to stoop to his level and become bitter myself. I am not bitter or angry towards him, I forgive him and myself. I don't want to add fuel to the fire, I'm definitely one for taking the higher road. Link to post Share on other sites
SingVoice Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 You know why he is pissed? Because you ARE moving on...not sitting there miserable and moping over him. Let him THINK you have a boyfriend. I don't know why...but I have this feeling that theres something else going on here. I have a feeling that there is another woman. And he is leaving his stuff there as a way to keep you as a back burner gal while he sees whats going on with this other person. I mean...why else would he think you had moved on so quickly? Maybe because HE did. It's not stooping to his level by getting rid of the stuff. You could have trashed all of his stuff...that would be stooping. Instead...you have given him chances to get the stuff. If he isn't going to take it...seriously...GET RID OF IT. Because the longer it sits there...the longer he can continue to use "getting his stuff" as an excuse to get back at you. Link to post Share on other sites
danrs Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 "Put his crap on craigslist with a note that it will be available to be sold in 5 days. Forward it to him." I don't want to stoop to his level and become bitter myself. I am not bitter or angry towards him, I forgive him and myself. I don't want to add fuel to the fire, I'm definitely one for taking the higher road. Jerrica, I believe he is doing this to mess with you and keep you from moving on. If he was moving on or not trying to mess with your head, he'd of had his thing out, not be throwing guilt trips or anger at you over a split he initiated. Tell him this: Listen You...you broke up with me. I didn't want that, but don't be shocked that after some time to think about it that I now agree it was for the best. I am moving on, and I want your things out of my place so I can continue to do so. You've got until Sunday to come get your things, and then they are going to be put out on the curb with "Free" signs posted on them. I am moving on in a mature manner. I wish you'd do the same. Good luck. He broke up with you. Take "the high road" FOR YOU. Remain mature, collected, and keep your composure, but DON'T take his crap. I agree, he's purposely leaving his stuff there to possibly "backburner" you. He doesn't want to move his stuff out because he thinks he may need to move it back in at some point. Don't deny you have a boyfriend either. It will be good for him to wonder if you do. When he starts this nonsense, just tell him the moment he dumped you he lost all rights to know what's going on in your personal life, and you owe him NO explanations. Tell him to come get his stuff or it gets chitcanned Sunday. Link to post Share on other sites
EyesWideOpen Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 Personally, I think the Craigslist idea is great. There's a difference between taking the high road, and allowing him room to mess with and/or manipulate you. He chose to break up with you. He chose to leave his crap behind knowing full well that you want it out. Refusing to take his stuff is him resorting to playing games, and you not putting your foot down is allowing him to do so. He's apparently going to use the property as a way to mess with you, so remove the property from the equation and you take away his leverage. Incidently, I'm under the impression that he still has access to your house? I don't think I would be comfortable with an ex (especially one who is acting like an *ss) having the ability to come and go as he pleases. Link to post Share on other sites
Jdw_Icequeen Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 You know why he is pissed? Because you ARE moving on...not sitting there miserable and moping over him. Let him THINK you have a boyfriend. I don't know why...but I have this feeling that theres something else going on here. I have a feeling that there is another woman. And he is leaving his stuff there as a way to keep you as a back burner gal while he sees whats going on with this other person. I mean...why else would he think you had moved on so quickly? Maybe because HE did. It's not stooping to his level by getting rid of the stuff. You could have trashed all of his stuff...that would be stooping. Instead...you have given him chances to get the stuff. If he isn't going to take it...seriously...GET RID OF IT. Because the longer it sits there...the longer he can continue to use "getting his stuff" as an excuse to get back at you. I have to completley agree I think there is someone else involved too.. Thats why he jumped to the conclusion you are seeing someone else. I know I read your back story but don't remember what it said exactly. Maybe I am just bitter after having my heart broken over and over but when someone just UP and leaves for no reason completley blindsides you. Usually someone is the cause. Then they tell you somtimes they are confused and not sure of what they want and need to fix themselves. This I also beleive is usually because someone else is involved. YEA they're confused they don't know if they want to stay with you or get with this new person!! Anyway I agree with everyone here about giving him a certain amount of time to come get it. If he dosen't get rid of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jerrica Posted March 23, 2011 Author Share Posted March 23, 2011 I suppose I am being too nice.... I actually did say to him, "funny usually when others make baseless accusations it really means they are doing it themselves" he replied with "the last thing I need or want is someone in my life" He is a jealous person, so I think he is just jealous. Also, his last ex replaced him right away and he has always been insecure about that, he's been upset about it still as how he could so easily be replaced. I think he may be jaded from that, and insecure about being expendable. I gave him a deadline of the weekend, so I guess if he doesn't come get it I"ll have to set aside the nice girl and box it up myself and put it outside... If he did leave me with someone else, why is he so miserable? he should be happy that he gets to be with that person now. There is NO reason for him to be bitter and angry, all I did was give him what HE wanted, and started moving on. Link to post Share on other sites
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