Armalite Posted April 2, 2004 Share Posted April 2, 2004 I have read post's here and the story sounds allot like mine. My wife and I have been together for 8 years. We have 2 kids. Last year I was laid off and with drew into a shell. I wouldn't talk to her , kiss her , spend time or go out with her. But I always loved her. Now after a year it's all blown up in my face. Where on the point of separation and it feels like my very soul has been ripped from me. We are still together in the same house as of now. I talked with her and she told me that after a year of me being distant she no longer feels close to me. I've been trying so hard to do all the things that I stopped doing last year. Telling her I love her , giving her hugs , calling her just to say hi. She says she loves me but needs space. The hard part is that she started a new job and has new friends. She will go out on a Friday night and not come home to mid morning the next day. She says she was with her friends at there house , was drinking and didn't want to risk driving home. But this is almost every weekend now. I lay awake at night crying my eyes out like a baby. Its almost like she's two people right now. Last week I hurt so bad that I packed my bags and left. She found me and called me and asked me to come back. This was after a long talk in which I told her being close to her i.e. in the same house with her while one second she's nice to me then the next second distant was killing me. I came back and things are still the same way. The other night she went out and came back after having a few drinks. She lay-ed in bed and asked me not to leave. But the next morning she was distant again. We end up right back to the "I need time , to be happy with the new me" I'm so lost and don't know what to do. I cant take this one minute she seams happy then the next she's cold. I need help badly. I'm in so much pain its even hard for me to put this into words , my brain and soul are so drained. How can I give her the love she wants , but be afraid that she'll throw it back in my face. We are going out tonight as a couple , no kids at home. I want to be with her so bad , but I'm so scared of the outcome of tonight. I'm like a kid on his first date. I want her to have fun , but at the same time being with her I know I will want her attention. If anyone has any idea's on what I should do with this whole situation please tell me!!! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted April 2, 2004 Share Posted April 2, 2004 Will she go to a counsellor with you? You might also try <URL removed> Ask her to read the information with you and tell her you want to work with her to get back the love you once had. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted April 2, 2004 Share Posted April 2, 2004 I second the <removed> site. It's not too late, but you have to meet each other half way & it sure sounds like some counseling will help you. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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