tom_gbr Posted April 2, 2004 Share Posted April 2, 2004 how much does this suck.....had a dream last night that i met up with my ex girlfriend...we just started talking and having a laugh with each other...for some reason we were on a giant white quilt...we then started kissing and cuddling and both ended up crying about how much we had missed each other. then i woke up...hungover and alone...was late for university and got fired from my job...and my ex girlfriend is going clubbing 2nite with a friend and her 'mates'....on the night that we always spent together cuddled up on her sofa things can only get better Link to post Share on other sites
sinkerswim Posted April 2, 2004 Share Posted April 2, 2004 Tom..sorry you are down again. Im sorry you lost your job. Maybe you can find one of your friends to hang out with tonite? Go out for something to eat or hang out at someones house. Tonite is always "our" night as well. Just now, I have to sadly find different things to do. Link to post Share on other sites
tom_gbr Posted April 2, 2004 Share Posted April 2, 2004 ive phoned all my mates that are here but the rest are at uni.....none of the ones here are up for anything...im hating this so much...the worse thing is that my best mate is seeing my ex girlfriends friend so i am constantly reminded of her as all through the summer we did everything as a group of four....it was the best summer of my life...we all got on so well. i cant understand why she doesnt want to have everything that we have had before in the past again..all those great moments cant understand how this has all happened and why it had to happen like this. fridays was our night and i dont know if i could ever spend it with anyone else. this website has been such a great help and thanks for listening Link to post Share on other sites
sinkerswim Posted April 2, 2004 Share Posted April 2, 2004 Well, I can totally understand your pain. I know I will be coming here for a very long time as well. Things remind me of my boyfriend too. ALOT of things. Sooner or later they will realize what they had with us. I know they will.... I too, had a dream about him last night. Its bad waking up to reality... But take things day by day, Tom. Talk all you want to. Try to get through the night. You can do it. If I was in England, Id hang out with ya. Link to post Share on other sites
ace6061 Posted April 2, 2004 Share Posted April 2, 2004 Tom I know how you feel!! It’s been about three months since my GF left me and I had a dream just a couple of nights ago. One where we were at a coffee shop talking and all of a sudden we kissed and were back together. The worst part is when I woke up and turned over to kiss her and she was not there. The only thing I can say that it will get better. It may be slow but it will happen. I don’t know how long it has been for you but hang in there. Sooner or later they will realize what they had with us. I know they will.... Swimmer you seem to be expecting your BF to be coming back. This my be true and if it is meant to be it will happen. I am holding onto the same hope. But try not to let it take over your life. You may be holding onto something that my never happen again at the expense of moving on with your new life. I know it is easier said then done. The one thing I say to myself is that if she doesn’t want me back then I am better off without her. Because it takes two to make it work. This is starting to sink in for me after I said it to myself a million times. Slow and steady right! That is all we can hope for. Link to post Share on other sites
Davey Posted April 3, 2004 Share Posted April 3, 2004 I too don't understand why an ex girlfriend doesnt seem to treasure the memories. I treasure them too much and often end up in tears. I live in the same student house as mine so Im always seeing memories. We only broke up days ago and shes already got another guy. Its doing me in because Im seeing another guy in place of my memories. Take your night cuddled up on the sofa- a fond memory. If u take that as a metaphor for what im going through, im living where another guy, her new boyfriend, is cuddled up on the sofa with her. That truly kicks me down- seeing someone else doing the things in my treasured memories. I have noone in the house to talk to because they have all left. I would leave if only for the fact my contract ends in june. So I have to live in the face of my memories with someone else taking my place. Unpleasant. Link to post Share on other sites
MarKus Posted April 3, 2004 Share Posted April 3, 2004 Mate, I had a dream about my gf/ex, it was sooo weird. I was waiting at the bus station one day and through the small amout of people, i saw her she was lying on the ground...motionless...with her legs and arms pointing at all angles. I ran over...she was dead...no one else seemed to bother, they just kept walking by her. I remember screaming for help and stated to cry, i was the only one who seemed to care...but this was bizarre, i actually tried to resusitate her, and after frantically trying for a couple of minutes i found a pulse, so i actually brought her back to life! I ran to the nearest phone box and called for an ambulance, the ambulance arrived, and they took her to hospital And while she was recovering in the hospital, her mum was by her side and said to her softly. "You have to thank mark, he brought you back to life, because he still loves you" Then i woke up, Im still wondering what that ment, i know dreams is a way of processing the thoughts Link to post Share on other sites
Davey Posted April 3, 2004 Share Posted April 3, 2004 Id like to be able to dream! Unfortunately my current situation is causing me no sleep! Link to post Share on other sites
ace6061 Posted April 5, 2004 Share Posted April 5, 2004 Markus your dream sounds to me like wishful thinking just like mine. To me your dream says that you want her to believe that she can’t live without you. The way she felt when you two first started dating. Ever man wants to be the hero to the woman he loves. Davey, all I can say to you is hold in their man. Maybe you can help yourself by realizing how evil of a person she is to be doing that to you. What she is doing is simply heartless. Try to understand that you are much better off without her. Also laugh at the fact that this guy has no idea what he is getting himself into with her. If she has moved on that quick she doesn’t deserve to be even thought about never mind cried over. I know all this is easier said then done but instead of thinking of the memories just think of the person she has become. Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted April 5, 2004 Share Posted April 5, 2004 I honestly thought that I would never have a dream of the ex. Funny cuz I had one last night. I guess she was trying to get back with me. Don't mind dreams. They mean nothing. Tom you have to go out. Meet new people. Make new friends...it's not easy, but tell me what in life is easy? Link to post Share on other sites
Davey Posted April 6, 2004 Share Posted April 6, 2004 I managed to get some sleep last night. But guess what? I dreamt about her! Well 'dream' isnt really the word i'd choose to describe it. Basically it was about her being on the greatest holiday with her new guy and I was sort of hovering around like a ghost or something. Only i was not invisible to the both of them, like i was brought there and forced to see them in my face. She seemed to be making an effort to show that she was in paradise with this guy and that I was nothing....... it actually made sense when i think about it. It is true when they say dreams are a way of processing thoughts and the dream is kinda like an exaggeration (well, just) of whats actually happening. That dream was like a visual of how I feel. Thats one of the very few dreams ive had that i 'understood'. Ive had dreams about being dead and in the afterlife before, but not really sure what it means. ace6061, I know that one day ill feel 'better off without her'.... its just the nasty gut feeling that needs to be soothed over time. And I do wonder if that guy knows what hes getting himself into. If she treats me the same as him in general, then she'll start going sour a fair way down the track yet. Currently she is being more generous to him than she ever was with me... but then thats probably for show. Still, I march on....... Link to post Share on other sites
ace6061 Posted April 6, 2004 Share Posted April 6, 2004 Davey, I don’t see my ex on a regular basis and I still have that “ nasty gut feeling”. I know she is interested in another guy but has not acted on it. It is bad enough for me. You are my new role model. Just keep on holding in there until that contract is up. The fact that she seems to be rubbing your face in it must really show you what kind of person she really is. Remember that dream was cut short it didn’t show the part of the horrible break-up when she finds some else to replace that other guy. That part of the dream would be a happy one because you wouldn’t be going though that break-up. People are a creature of habit. For that reason be happy you got out when you did. She will be the one that ends up married, unhappy and cheating. I’m sure you could live without that. Link to post Share on other sites
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