Why do women always dump men because "they don't feel the same anymore"

[betterdeal]

No, I didn't insult my mother.

 

Yes you did. You said she's fickle, gets bored of men easily and dumps them for something better.

 

You are the one who has been nasty,

 

You show me one nasty thing I have said.

 

I have responded in kind as I will always stand up to bullies like yourself.

 

No you haven't. You've squirmed and wriggled and evaded and name-called and you don't like it, so it must by my fault for responding to each question, each attempt to besmirch my character, each piece of sarcasm, each name-calling.

 

So if you don't like being called up for saying nasty things, then don't say nasty things.

 

Again, show me evidence.

 

What can I do about your cheek other than point it out?

 

Don't like it do you?

 

Does it ever occur to you that the frustration you feel is actually because what I am saying is right?

[betterdeal]

Good for you.

 

If you don't want to be hit, then don't hit in the first place.

 

Are you going to cry now?

 

Ah, so now we're onto the copycat routine. If only you can get the last post, the last word, that'll mean you win. Congratulations, I shall not post on this thread any more.

[PegNosePete]

Jeeze Ross just STOP DIGGING!!!

[carhill]

OP, IMO, it's about the psychology of processing choices. As I learned in my M, both about myself and my exW, one really sees the stuff their partner is made of when life crises intervene. For some people, that 'stuff' includes escape, or, as you put it, 'dumping'. The lesson is that one's partner's 'feelings' are outside of our control; what is within our control is our words and actions. Seek resolution but, if incompatible, accept it.

 

Perhaps this is an area where relationship history is relevant as an indicator of a person's 'stuff' and how they've processed it and learned from it, or not.

[Ross PK]

Yes you did. You said she's fickle, gets bored of men easily and dumps them for something better.

 

No I didn't.

 

 

 

You show me one nasty thing I have said.

 

I'm not going to go through all your posts to point out the nasty things you've said. You now exactly what nasty things you have said.

 

 

 

No you haven't. You've squirmed and wriggled and evaded and name-called and you don't like it, so it must by my fault for responding to each question, each attempt to besmirch my character, each piece of sarcasm, each name-calling.

 

Sure you're not talking about yourself there?

 

 

 

Again, show me evidence.

 

Find it yourself. Like I said I'm not going to go through all of your posts to prove something you already know.

 

 

 

Does it ever occur to you that the frustration you feel is actually because what I am saying is right?

 

I'm not feeling any frustration. I'm just responding to your hateful posts.

[Ross PK]

Ah, so now we're onto the copycat routine. If only you can get the last post, the last word, that'll mean you win. Congratulations, I shall not post on this thread any more.

 

The words of someone who has lost the argument.

 

Goodbye. Maybe try and pick on someone else next time who you're more sure of who can't fight back.

[Ross PK]

Jeeze Ross just STOP DIGGING!!!

 

Lol, just randomly make stuff up and hope it works eh?

 

Can't you do any better than that?

[JasonRules]

Just curious; how old are you two? Frankly, I'm becoming sick and tired of reading your posts back and forth going at it like two little kids.

 

Grow the F up and take this elsewhere. This isn't your personal rant site!

[Ross PK]

Just curious; how old are you two? Frankly, I'm becoming sick and tired of reading your posts back and forth going at it like two little kids.

 

Grow the F up and take this elsewhere. This isn't your personal rant site!

 

How ironic.

[depplover_1980]

I'm glad a couple of posters have defended women's honour. Frankly I am bored and insulted with these sexist threads, where bitter guys rant about female kind like we are all the same.

 

Dumping people is not exclusive to either sex and there are many stories on the board, where girls have been cruely dumped by men for similar reasons. I futhermore resent such rants/moans/generalisations because I do go out of my way to advise both sexes on here, looking at all viewpoints.

 

A little more thought please, we are all in this life together!

[swfc_77]

i apologise depplover if i caused you any offence.

 

im not really bitter about my ex, i wish her the best TBH, but its just the general vibe i get from some young women these days.

 

i am only speaking from my own experience though.

[depplover_1980]

It's ok. Just there are some great fair women on these boards - Penelope, Rose T, Graceful and Mme Chaucer are the first ones that spring to mind. Perhaps realise there are other girls outside of your immediate vacinity eh? You might catch a good fish that way too.

[Strength of Heart]

Each situation is unique and their is usually plenty of factors that go into it. Nobody is the perfect person to be in a relationship with though, the best thing one can do when broken up with is to forgive themselves, forgive the other person, and learn from your mistakes and flaws in the relationship.

 

It's all about experience.

[Ross PK]

A little more thought please, we are all in this life together!

 

I'm not, I feel alienated from women.

[Mcnulty]

I'm smiling as I write this...handbags at dawn...the English way!!!! That was quite a spat earlier on in this thread!All over a throwaway remark from someone who is hurting at the moment.

 

Got me thinking though, I wonder through time what percentage of relationships succeed? 20, maybe 25 per cent? I don't know, but I bet half of the failed relationships were due to one sex and the other half the other sex!

 

There's no finger pointing towards males or females here, it's human nature that's all and how you adapt and change together. None of my relationships have worked, some ended by me, some by them, but I guess what I'm getting at here is it's when you meet someone, you love the way they look, talk, smell, smile and they fit next to you in bed, when the honeymoon period is over and you realise you truly love them for who they are and how they make you feel, you tell yourself, you're not gonna let this one go and you compromise, change together, listen to each other, communicate and share your life willingly with this person...because you want to...not because of a need or insecurities or fear.

 

I don't think there is such a thing as finding "the one", but I live in hope that I get to the point in life as stated above, where I can touch it and see it and make my choice...I wish that for all the people who have posted on this thread.

[depplover_1980]

Mcnulty - I have never needed my handbag once in my life, I have a sharp tongue and a tough fist.

 

I read many comments on this section that I find derogatory, but I let slide because I am very empathetic (incase you'd not previously noticed) to human emotion and I lead a life steeped in equality. I never bad mouth a guy based on him being a guy and I don't appreciate it in reverse. So when I saw a whole thread I had to say something.

 

All cockmockery nonsense aside (English enough for you;)) I agree with your attitude to relationships apart from where you said you're previous relationships had 'not worked'. I believe they did work for a certain amount of time and that because they ended it doesn't necessarily mean they failed. The fact you are in such a mature and balanced mindset now shows they taught you lessons, so effectively they contributed to you being a success.

[lovelyladyland]

It seems really common on these forums and through friends/family that a lot of guys are dumped because the woman just "doesn't feel the same anymore" or "just doesn't feel the spark" i don't really understand it. How can they suddenly lose feelings, i know they probably think about doing the dumping prior to actually doing it and thats why they move on so fast, but why would you agree to date someone who you know is really into you, only to shut them down and break them within a short period of time?

Oh man, it's not just girls that do that. My guy just broke up with me for the same thing after having 2 months of basically perfect dating and amazing chemistry. I almost got whiplash! One day perfect, the next gone. I'll never understand it, but I know it hurts like hell.

[Little_Bee]

I'm going through the same as well and it was a guy who dumped me. Well, he didn't say it was because his feelings have changed, it rather was because he has the feeling the relationship is a routine (which is more or less the same).

[Rose T]

Yes, men are also capable of using this lousy break-up line. People of all ages and pursuasions, unfortunately! And don't go thinking they'll grow out of it - how many people in the divorce forums are getting this line after 20 / 30 / 40 years of marriage? Sad but true. To add insult to injury, this cliché is often seen in company with another: they're having an affair.

 

Guys, take heart that many true and loyal girls and women have been blindsided by this kind of break-up scenario.

[Mcnulty]

Depp, I did not bad mouth a woman or women in general, so don't understand what you're referring to.

 

The handbag thing... I was referring to Ross and Betterdeal, don't be so defensive!

 

"There's no finger pointing towards males or females here"...that is what I preceded with!

 

Also I was referring to the fact that they and us are from the same place...end of.

 

Empathic I am....note, "remark from someone who is hurting...ie...Ross.

 

I don't have to defend myself on this thread....

[depplover_1980]

Now who's being defensive. My reply to you was laced in humour, never said anything about you badmouthing. Then I even attempted to connect with you regarding your post, even said this about you:

 

The fact you are in such a mature and balanced mindset now shows they taught you lessons, so effectively they contributed to you being a success.

 

I don't know about where you're from but that is a nice thing to say to someone my end of the woods. Very disappointed you've come back with that.

 

Depp, I did not bad mouth a woman or women in general, so don't understand what you're referring to.

 

The handbag thing... I was referring to Ross and Betterdeal, don't be so defensive!

 

"There's no finger pointing towards males or females here"...that is what I preceded with!

 

Also I was referring to the fact that they and us are from the same place...end of.

 

Empathic I am....note, "remark from someone who is hurting...ie...Ross.

 

I don't have to defend myself on this thread....

[Mcnulty]

"Laced in humour?" Hmmm, doesn't matter where I'm from, said nothing untoward, contributed to a thread...think you jumped the gun, no one else, just thought I'd clarify my post.

[depplover_1980]

I used smilies (well the laughy things), used the silly English term cockmockery, even the handbag thing (which you've said wasn't aimed at me) I was taking the p i s s/joking about. It's all one massive misunderstanding it would seem, but don't worry i'll avoid you in future.

 

Oh and you still won't acknowledge I actually said something nice about you. Stubborn.

Edited March 26, 2011 by depplover_1980

[turokturok5]

sorry, i didn't make this post to rip on females, i've just seen lots of posts about males being dumped for this reason and not too many females being dumped for it, i was curios if it was just an excuse or something

[Lorelei_Lane]

I think it's just a bad idea to base what women or men typically do based on a forum site, only because it's not a very accurate account of what happens. I've had guys leave me because they didn't feel the same anymore... so it does happen. It's just some men and women aren't going to go on a website and talk about that. Ya know?