Why do women always dump men because "they don't feel the same anymore"

[Eddie Edirol]

Each situation is unique and different. Ultimately, it doesn't matter why a man/woman broke up with someone. The result is the same.

 

For whatever reason, they decided to not want anything to do with you anymore. I can sit here all day and pick my brain trying to analyse why my ex girlfriend decided to end it with me. I never disrespected her, treated her badly, or cheated on her. I was always a gentleman and a man in every sense of the word. Only she knows the real reasons, but even if I knew the "why" as well it would not change anything.

 

We have to understand that we cannot worry about things which we have no control over. We only have to learn to deal with them. When its sunny out wear sunblock. When it rains, grab an umbrella. When it snows, wear a heavy coat. Learn to protect and take care of yourself.

 

From what Ive seen on this website, each situation is usually the same, they all come down to the real basic reasons that someone falls out of love with someone else. If you dont figure out why you turned off your ex, how can you learn not to do it again with the next gf? Because if you turned your ex off, its something you probably did or said, and you did have control over that. You cant walk around thinking youre not at fault at all.

[Mcnulty]

You think it's that black and white Eddie?

 

What if you did nothing wrong, what if an ex has issues internally, which stop them from, maybe opening up, showing love, making a commitment, maybe due to earlier/childhood experiences even.

 

What if the issue lies with them, and they choose to bolt because of this?

 

It isn't always something you have said or done...if it was that simple,then this site would be full of members who are discussing their faults only and trying to change their personality, for the sake of having the next relationship be successful. Break ups are rarely that straightforward, that's why they mess with your head...so many variables go into a successful or failed relationship.

[turokturok5]

You think it's that black and white Eddie?

 

What if you did nothing wrong, what if an ex has issues internally, which stop them from, maybe opening up, showing love, making a commitment, maybe due to earlier/childhood experiences even.

 

What if the issue lies with them, and they choose to bolt because of this?

 

It isn't always something you have said or done...if it was that simple,then this site would be full of members who are discussing their faults only and trying to change their personality, for the sake of having the next relationship be successful. Break ups are rarely that straightforward, that's why they mess with your head...so many variables go into a successful or failed relationship.

 

I really thought my ex had something wrong with her internally. I was her first boyfriend, so i thought thats why she wasn't opening up to me and that she'd get comfortable after a while, i thought about breaking it off sometimes because i felt she didn't want to be with me but i really liked her. After our first argument she dumps me. Was devastated, found out from her friend it was becaus i was too clingy, being my second relationship i thought WTF how can you be dumped for caring too much, i thought girls liked attention. Now, recently i find out from another source ( i didn't ask he just told me ) that she said to him it was because i was too self-centered, by this i take it she means i cared about myself too much and not about her enough. Her reasonining is a bit conflicting, doesn't really add up but yeah, has to be something wrong with her..

[Mixed28]

I think this thread will not accomplish anything. It's too vague and general. It would be like a woman posting "Why are men such dogs?" "Why do men cheat on good women with skanks?".

 

LOL sorry I have the giggles tonight.

[Mixed28]

Yes, men are also capable of using this lousy break-up line. People of all ages and pursuasions, unfortunately! And don't go thinking they'll grow out of it - how many people in the divorce forums are getting this line after 20 / 30 / 40 years of marriage? Sad but true. To add insult to injury, this cliché is often seen in company with another: they're having an affair.

 

Guys, take heart that many true and loyal girls and women have been blindsided by this kind of break-up scenario.

 

That scares the hell out of me.