NC Results?

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I think as long as I remain in control of the situation, deciding what I want instead of going along with she wants, I'll be fine. That's the key. No settling. Compromise is one thing but doing what I don't want to do and/or am not ready for is another.

 

I'm no expert. I'm just trying to use my head.

[GreenPolicy]

In my experience, any time I have gotten back together with an ex it has been through LC - limited contact. NC simply doesn't bring someone back into your life, no one likes to be ignored. That's not to say that NC's usefulness is dampened any, it still works wonders for the given individual. But to say that strict NC is your best chance at bringing back your ex is just a farce I'm sorry to say.

 

It gets you over your ex and makes them miss you. That is all.

 

I feel like NC is for when there is no hope. After my ex broke up with me, I reached out to her twice. I sent her flowers and then I wrote her a letter where I said I would respect her decision if she felt that was best for her, but that I thought what we had together was worth trying to save and I wanted to go to couples counseling. And if she didn't want to work on salvaging the relationship, then we couldn't be friends (I didn't say this in the letter but you can't be friends with somebody you are in love with). She ignored both gestures, so I felt NC was really my only choice for my dignity, sanity and self-respect. Three months later she contacted me requesting the return of her property I still had in my apartment, so it was obvious that she had no interest in rekindling the relationship or in discussing what I said in the letter. In my case I would have done everything and walked to the ends of the earth for that girl, but she wouldn't lift a finger to be with me, so what choice did I have but NC? If I thought it would yield results, I would do LC.