Author Lilmisus Posted March 28, 2011 Author Share Posted March 28, 2011 A dominant and handsome man doesnt have a problem getting any woman he wants and if you initiate first, chances are he is not going to be very appreciative and he is just going to treat you as another notch on his belt. Thats my point. But then again, if you just wanna bang him and add him to your own belt in the first place then go ahead, you have nothing to lose. I'm sorry, but I still don't agree with this, not completely anyway. I know plenty of guys who you would classify as "dominant and handsome" and not all of them go up and make moves on every women that they want to, for whatever reason. Take for instance my older brother. I'm constantly hearing how handsome he is by everyone (especially the girls, who wont stop talking about him) who meets him, and he is easily one of the most go-getter types you will ever meet. He has no self-esteem issue and could easily get almost any girl he wants. Yet, the most lasting relationships that he's had are the ones where the girl asks him. Where the girl is even more dominant than he is, and can easily put him in his place, since that's what he needs. They are the girls who he continues going for and has said that he was in love with, and tried everything he could to keep. Those who just sit back and allow him to make the first move just don't last...not any more than a couple weeks or months any way. It's not like that with every guy, but not all guys are alike. Some don't appreciate it, but others like my brother do, and actually need a more dominant girl. Maybe not to initiate the first move, but it gives a strong first impression that typically lasts for them. It just depends on the people, like everything else. Link to post Share on other sites
Eclypse Posted March 28, 2011 Share Posted March 28, 2011 I'm a guy and a uni student so I can somewhat relate to you. I've been told I'm attractive and I've had girls approach me, but like most guys I'm so thick that you'd almost need to spell it out for me to get the hint. While I know how hard it is to start a convo with someone you don't know, the hardest part is saying "hello" everything else will magically fall into place The first day of classes this year a girl sat next to me and introduced herself and we began talking. She was very attractive, and we had chemistry right away. But I'm already in a relationship so all I have is an awesome new friend now, which is pretty good too. So just talk to him, and if he's unavailable / uninterested at least you made a friend! Link to post Share on other sites
musemaj11 Posted March 28, 2011 Share Posted March 28, 2011 I'm sorry, but I still don't agree with this, not completely anyway. I know plenty of guys who you would classify as "dominant and handsome" and not all of them go up and make moves on every women that they want to, for whatever reason. Take for instance my older brother. I'm constantly hearing how handsome he is by everyone (especially the girls, who wont stop talking about him) who meets him, and he is easily one of the most go-getter types you will ever meet. He has no self-esteem issue and could easily get almost any girl he wants. Yet, the most lasting relationships that he's had are the ones where the girl asks him. Where the girl is even more dominant than he is, and can easily put him in his place, since that's what he needs. They are the girls who he continues going for and has said that he was in love with, and tried everything he could to keep. Those who just sit back and allow him to make the first move just don't last...not any more than a couple weeks or months any way. It's not like that with every guy, but not all guys are alike. Some don't appreciate it, but others like my brother do, and actually need a more dominant girl. Maybe not to initiate the first move, but it gives a strong first impression that typically lasts for them. It just depends on the people, like everything else. You are actually agreeing with my viewpoint. When I said the guy is more on the shy side, I meant in comparison to the woman. If a woman wants to be the initiator, like u said she has to have stronger personality than the guy in order for him to see her in admiration instead of seeing her as easy. Yes, if the guy is dominant then the woman has to be even more dominant for him to respect her. But let's get real, most women are more on the 'soft' side and for such women I advise them against initiating toward dominant and handsome men. Link to post Share on other sites
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